April is Sexual Abuse Awareness Month

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  Sometimes when we think about sexual abuse...we think we don't know anyone who has experienced it....but that may not be the case. Almost sexual abuseone in five women  and one in 71 men have, at some point in their lives experienced  rape or attempted rape. Statistics don't reflect those numbers because 63% of sexual assaults are never reported.  We know that 8 out of 10 victims knew their attacker.

   IF someone has chosen to confide in you ...regarding their own case of domestic abuse or sexual violence these are things that the experts suggest that you do:

 

  • “I believe you.” The most important thing to do when supporting a survivor is to validate their experience. Let them know you believe them.
  • “It wasn’t your fault.” It is essential that a survivor understand they are not responsible for their assault or abuse. Be a supportive voice and remind them that they are not to blame.
  • “I’m sorry this happened to you.” Mindful language is key: let survivors know that what happened was unacceptable and that you take their experience and feelings seriously.
  • “Can I help?” Let survivors know you are there toBeiieve abuse them without being forceful. This allows survivors power of choice on whether to seek out your help.
  • “What do you need most right now?” Give the survivor space to decide what comes next; there is no single right or wrong way for a survivor to respond to an assault or abuse

           No matter where you live..the neighborhood, socio-economic status does not escape sexual abuse. Find the shelter in your area...know the hotline number you can give someone to get professional help. The easiest thing to do is write a check...or make a point of going out of your way and calling that shelter and asking what they need most...bedding, food, supplies of all kinds. These not for profit organizatioins need to feel the helping hands of the community to help people not in a place to help themselves.

     This has been a community caring message brought to you by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, Broker Associates who do truly care about the residents of southeastern Wisconsin ...their lives and all things real estate.

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Rainmaker
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Charlotte, NC
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This is an issue that I believe is way more wide-spread than we realize, Sally, along with domestic abuse. And of course, if people don't report it, there's little that can be done to alleviate. Society needs to get rid of the stigmas associated with sexual and/or domestic abuse.

Apr 12, 2019 05:03 AM #1
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Anita Clark
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Sally: It is widespread, and as you mentioned, often it goes unreported. I hope many who need assistance see your article and take the next step towards recovery and healing.

Apr 12, 2019 05:10 AM #2
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Grant Schneider
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Good morning Sally and David -  I have worked with organizations regarding sexual harassment policy. First thing is to take it seriously and do a thorough investigation.

Apr 12, 2019 05:36 AM #3
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much for sharing this advice.

Much abuse is unreported.

Apr 12, 2019 05:37 AM #4
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Sheila Anderson
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Good morning Sally. This is hard but important and knowing how to react is very important.

Apr 12, 2019 06:03 AM #5
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Sedona, AZ
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HI Sally K. & David L. Hanson - It is good for people to know what to cover however, I was in the staffing industry and these conversations should flow fluidly.  Each point should be covered when the conversation gets to that point.

Of course, in my position, the conversation needed to rise to the next level. 

Apr 12, 2019 07:29 AM #6
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Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
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I think that awareness is extremely important, but I also believe that it has been watered down by so many that have falsely accused others.  I firmly believe that it should never happen and people that are abusive in any way should be punished for their actions.  What makes me very sad to see is someone that spends many years in prison, but is then proven to be innocent or the accuser confesses to lies.

Apr 12, 2019 09:17 AM #7
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Michael Jacobs
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Hello Sally and David - the mindfulness aspect of your post is one that certainly provides much opportunity for additional thought/action.  Bringing this issue as well as others forward increases awareness and while it is not the only one thing that needs attention it is most worthy. 

Apr 12, 2019 11:05 AM #8
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George Souto
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Sally and David is is disturbing to thing of how often someone is sexually abused.  I can't imagine what drives a person to behave in that manner.

Apr 12, 2019 02:02 PM #9
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James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
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Morning Sally.

I do wonder sometimes if those numbers are correct.  I suspect they are higher

Apr 13, 2019 01:16 AM #10
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Kathy Streib
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Hi Sally and David- many years ago Larry and I picked up our best friend from a neighborhood where she had been taken to and raped. All of your points are spot on. 

Apr 13, 2019 06:20 PM #11
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