Denial of Self-Sabotage?

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Pareto Realty TN #251071

What is it that you do that’s counter-productive?

What are your bad habits that hang out with that dead moose under your desk/Bed/Dining room table?

Ah yes! You DO know what these things are, and you can’t help but know about the dead moose because it’s really stinky, the cloud of flies is oh-so-distracting.

Every day, you do your best to ignore or justify these bad habits, even as you (in the recesses of your mind) acknowledge to yourself that maintaining your relationship with these productivity destroyers is causing you to miss out on opportunities.

YES! You are limiting your possibilities with this commitment to these unsavory practices, BUT . . . the problem is . . . doing these things is FUN. In fact, doing them makes you feel a bit rebellious. Your self-talk tells you that you work so hard that you DESERVE to let your hair down once in a while.

I challenge you to confront this rebel within you.


NOT on my watch!”

Even the best “Time-Blockers” on the planet face these demons. In some ways, these seemingless flawless performers do it differently because they schedule it into their rigidly time blocked days.

Like the 5:00 cocktail EVERY day which immediately interferes with whatever business is at hand. Effectiveness plummets!

Maybe it’s turning on the TV for “Background Noise” to “help you focus”?

Dichotomous at best!

Well now! THAT”S definitely self-deceit.

If you think you’re not doing this at some level, I beg you to take another look.

Denial is blinding.

For the rest of us who KNOW we are practicing self-sabotage, here’s a little tip to identify and cure this toxic behavior.

At the end of every day, ask yourself these 2 questions:

“Was today better than yesterday?”

“What one less thing can you do tomorrow?”

But first . . . Let’s get rid of that Moose carcass!

What is the ONE single-most obstacle (Mindset or habit) standing between “Average” and “High” performance?

No denial allowed!

This work is HARD!

Published by Barry Owen

Strategist-CEO of Pareto Realty Real estate sales Professional Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.US Invite-Listen-Love

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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

I think if we understand what self-sabotage is, and can label those behaviors that are contributing to it, we can improve.  Acknowledgement is key.  I once sat in a meeting, where the group leader had a list of tasks that needed to be completed before an upcoming event.  I sat and watched as individual after individual came up with excuse after excuse of why they couldn't do any of the tasks.  They spent more time coming up with excuses, rather than leaning into the project to get it accomplished.  However, there was one person who sat with her notebook, jotting things down. She held up her hand and said, "I can do the following."  It is no accident that she became a leader of that group in a short time.

Apr 15, 2019 10:45 AM #1
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Barry, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Apr 15, 2019 10:46 AM #2
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Taking a long, hard look at ourself isn't always comfortable, but if done with the right intention, can lead us forward by leaps and bounds.

Apr 15, 2019 02:38 PM #3
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Barry- I think many know what that one self-sabotaging thing is. We just have to want to do something about it. 

Apr 15, 2019 05:59 PM #4
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