The Destructive Emotional Enemies In Our Minds

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Royal Lepage Kelowna

I was attending a T. Harv Ecker conference in Los Angeles a number of years ago and I will never forget the session that mindset master Blair Singer gave us on the power of mastering your little voice. Singer walks on stage and begins describing that little voice in our heads telling us good things or telling us self-destructive things. It is like the little angel on one shoulder and the little devil on the other.

That same voice in your head saying "Wade I don’t have a little voice telling me good or destructive things". Yes, that voice is the voice Singer was talking about that day.

Let me ask you this question? What can destroy our ambitions, our fortunes, our relationships, our real estate career —our lives? Answer: The enemies lurking inside us, the ones we face from within, the ones we’ve got to destroy before they destroy us. This week we share the enemies we all face every day in our own heads, including me!

1. Fear

We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of our fears are brought on by our own experiences, by what someone has told us, by what we’ve read and heard about. Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at 2 o’clock in the morning. But once we learn to avoid that situation, we won’t need to live in fear of it. What fears ( False, Evidence, Appearing, Real ) are destroying you?

2. Indifference

What a tragic disease indifference is. Some will say, “Ho-hum, let it slide. I’ll just drift along.” But here’s one problem with drifting: We can’t drift our way to the top of the mountain. Where in your life are you drifting? Where is drifting robbing you from being the best version of you?

3. Indecision

Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal our chances for a better future. We have to take a sword to this enemy. You don’t need to take huge risks in life but you certainly can take educated risks. What is stealing your opportunity for a better life or business?

4. Doubt

Sure, there’s room for healthy skepticism. We can’t believe everything. But we also can’t let doubt take over. Many of us doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worst of all, we doubt ourselves. Doubt will destroy our lives and our chances of success. It will empty both our bank accounts and our hearts. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it. Where is doubt appearing for you?

5. Worry

We’ve all got to worry some—but we can’t let it conquer us. Instead, let it alarm us. Worry can be useful. If we step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, we’ve got to worry. But we can’t let worry loose like a mad dog that drives us into a small corner. Here’s what we’ve got to do with our worries: Drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get us, we’ve got to get it. Whatever is pushing on us, we’ve got to push back.

6. Timidity

Over-caution is the timid approach to life. Timidity is not a virtue (unlike humility); in fact, it can be an illness. If we let it go, it’ll conquer us. If we’re timid, we won’t get promoted, we won’t advance and grow and become powerful. We’ve got to avoid over-caution.

So, we must battle with the enemy, battle with fears, build our courage to fight what’s holding us back, what’s keeping us from our goals and dreams. We have to be courageous in our lives and in our pursuit of the things we want and the people we want to become. The time is now! It starts with awareness and then you make the choice to squash it!

Strength and courage,


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James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Wade.

The only fear in my life is that of snakes.  I'll take on any challenge out there.  I know there are things I'll never understand, but I'm willing to give it a try, regardless of what it is

Apr 20, 2019 03:49 AM #1
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667 (MT), 914-419-0270 (NY), Broker in NY with Grand Lux Realty and in MT with (coming soon!) - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

The only thing that limits our forward and upward progress is ourselves. Exactly for the reasons you list. 

If anyone wants to make changes in their lives (or businesses) they need to work through any of those characteristics they practice.

Have a great day!

Apr 20, 2019 03:50 AM #2
Sham Reddy CRS
H E R Realty, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH

Worry is the worst of my fears!

Here’s what we’ve got to do with our worries: Drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get us, we’ve got to get it. Whatever is pushing on us, we’ve got to push back.

Apr 20, 2019 04:33 AM #3
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Wade. Well put and reviewed. Thanks! Enjoy your day!

Apr 20, 2019 05:15 AM #4
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Your post Is right on the money and most dreadful thoughts we have never come true! Love and light!

Apr 27, 2019 10:32 PM #5
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