Just Because I Look Old, Please Don’t Treat Me Like I Am

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Just Because I Look Old, Please Don’t Treat Me Like I Am

 

The other night I finally got around to watching Book Club with Diane Keaton, Jane Fonda, Candice Bergen, and Mary Steenburgen.  While not a great movie, I enjoyed it. It might have been because I love just about anything witholder ladies Diane Keaton in it.

 

Without giving anything away in case you have it in your queue on Amazon to watch later, there was a storyline where the daughters of one of the characters wanted her to come and live with them. They nagged her over her salt intake, the possibility of falling and not being able to get up, and freaked out over her new boyfriend. As they said, it would be easier for THEM if they didn’t have to go to where she was if something went wrong.

 

While watching that part, I wanted to scream at Diane Keaton (ok...I gave away some of it) Fool...you’re still young and you have Andy Garcia after you!!!

 

And it hit me that I have been guilty of what those daughters were doing...making assumptions just because someone is of a certain age.

 

Many years ago, there was a client who was older, probably late 70’s and at her consultation, I just assumed that she was planning on a move to a smaller home. I was talking about editing everything and smaller pieces of furniture.

She said to me...

Honey, I have a lot of entertaining still to do. I’ll let you know when I’m ready for a smaller home.”

Speaking on behalf of many who are of a certain age, trust me, we’re not as old as we may look. We’ll let you know when we’re ready to stop having fun.

 

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Wayne Martin I plan to do just that!!! 

Barbara Todaro and it's healthier as well!!!

You're preaching to the choir here Donald Urschalitz 

Apr 26, 2019 12:11 PM #21
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Myrl Jeffcoat good for you!!! I have people around me saying "don't lift that!" as if I'm going to break. 

Brian England no one likes a young whippersnapper, Brian!!!  Just kidding. 

 

 

Apr 26, 2019 12:15 PM #22
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Michael Jacobs I think he jumped the shark when he married AJ. 

Carol Williams I started getting upset just reading your story!!!

Sally K. & David L. Hanson not until the big man upstairs says it's over. 

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Grant Schneider I agree. I know people my age who act and appear much older. 

Ron and Alexandra Seigel I couldn't agree more. When we lived in Florida, the last thing I wanted to do was live in a 55+ community. I love seeing children on the street playing and want friends of all ages. 

Apr 26, 2019 01:18 PM #24
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Dan Hopper I've been guilty of that when choosing a doctor. It's a shame but I want someone who will be up to date on the latest medical procedures. 

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty I learned a lot from her!

Apr 26, 2019 01:21 PM #25
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE® That really is inspiring!!! It all depends on everyone's health and attitudes.  We've been trying to get my sister-in-law's parents to move in with her and my brother because they really do need some assistance, but they refuse. 

 

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Hannah Williams If you're a Prime member, it's free!!!! Hope you like it. 

Mike Frazier let's face it, we all do. 

Apr 26, 2019 01:25 PM #27
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Kathy Streib  So excited have been so busy watching reruns of Game of Thrones  ready for some comedy Thanks for letting me know 

Apr 26, 2019 01:50 PM #28
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At some point everyone is going to slow down...there is no escaping the aging process.  You make a good point about assuming that an older person is weak or not as 'with it'.  This is a theme explored in the Grace and Frankie series as well.

Apr 26, 2019 06:26 PM #29
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My 72 year old husband just drove a NASCAR around Texas Motor Speedway at 150 miles per hour.  Age is relevant.

Apr 26, 2019 06:56 PM #30
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Age is only a number.  One should never stop having fun.  At a early age, I noted that my grandmother referred to her friends as girls.  That was my first clue that she was young at heart. From that point forward, she was my inspiration to capture life's possibilities and live life to the fullest.  Great post!

Apr 26, 2019 09:31 PM #31
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Amen, 🤓 Kathy Streib. That is all I can conjure up to say on the subject; I think you hit it on the head...

Apr 26, 2019 10:35 PM #32
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We shouldn't make assumptions about people of any age, but it does happen. I've known people who were "younger" in their 90's than others in their 50's. I also know a few who age themselves needlessly with an attitude of "I'm past 70 now, so I can expect to be sick."

Apr 26, 2019 10:53 PM #33
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Morning Kathy.

In my younger years, I was good for about 18 hours a day, now after 12-15 hours, I'm done.  

Apr 27, 2019 02:10 AM #34
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Apr 27, 2019 03:56 AM #35
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I have decided I won't complain too much about their behaviors toward me and the labels the give, etc, until, they begin talking to one another about me, as if I'm either brain dead or not there!  That's where the line will be drawn!  I'm already practicing getting out of a wheel chair, and shaking a cane at 'em!

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I honestly don't think about it .... that is until somebody points it out, however gently,  Kathy Streib.  I don't FEEL old ... or older.  My Mom's about to turn 94 in May and still rarin' to go each day.  I want to grow up and be just like her!

Gene  

Apr 27, 2019 11:50 AM #37
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Kathy Streib I keep reminding myself that I'm not that old. Like when my son Timmothy said they were going to start tennis at school. At 65 I said to myself I'm not to old to be teaching him (even though I have osteoarthritis and osteoporosis). Best thing is that I've given him about 4 lessons now and I feel healther then ever.

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Hi Kathy,  I think that is a trap that many of us fall into.  I worry about my mother being so far away and not always able to help herself.  But so far she has been fine on her own.  I think we want so badly to help people, we forget to listen to them.

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This is a great example how we too often judge a person by their appearance.

And that really has nothing to do with anything. It is what is going on inside that counts.

We can do the same thing with younger folks, and that is not fair to them.

Thanks for sharing.

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