Soooo....The Soon to Be Ex Spouse Disappears Before Closing

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Real Estate Agent with EXP Realty 414-525-0563 57026-90 Broker

   We often read that a real estate agent wears soooo many hats...the tour guide, the concierge, the negotiator, etc....anyone who has been in the industry for a while easily recognizes the lengthy list of multi tasking requirements an agent has during the course of a transaction.holmes hat
As agents with a niche in divorce...we have to sometimes add one more hat...the ever stylish...Sherlock Holmes special. 

   Things can appear to be moving along with communication going smoothly with both members of the couple....and an offer accepted by both in place....and ....POOF ...one or in rare cases....BOTH...disappear...no communication with agents...attorneys...family members...neighbors, employers...the flip calendartraditional methods of finding someone ...the email, the text, the phone...all come up empty...and the calendar pages continue to flip toward the closing date.

   In divorce...there are often the ever present power plays in this emotionally charged time of life. Often not well thought out in terms of consequences or the resolution of a situation...the motive may only be that one spouse is controlling the situation...nothing happens without cooperation from both parties.

   Sometimes the "hide 'n seek" game is temporary...and out of nowhere  the person appears as if nothing has happened.  Then there are the times when there is no timely appearance...papers need sidivorce decreegning...and there is no one to guide the pen on the required signature. In Wisconsin, we have to go to court and have a Receiver appointed to act in the best interests of the "missing" spouse. With crowded court calendars and this last minute effort...the word "EMERGENCY" is used as a session is called to get this appointment made and have the closing continue "as usual."

    The errant spouse incurs further  fees with the appointment confirmed and the closing done...even without their appearance...the "power play" was short lived...and expensive.

   If you or anyone you know is seeking assistance with a home sale in a divorce...Sally K. & David L. Hanson, Broker Associates with EXP Realty,  are the only certified divorce specialists in Wisconsin and are honored to be of assistance at this difficult time. The Hansons have been appointed by judges and recommended by attorneys in the southeastern Wisconsin counties of: Kenosha,  Racine, Walworth, Milwaukee, Waukesha, Ozaukee, Washington. Jefferson and Dodge for hundreds of divorce cases and are educated in both traditional and collaborative divorce, call them: 414 525 0563 for the best real estate representation.

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Rainmaker
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Mike Cooper, GRI
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Sally & David, I've been fortunate to not have this happen. It sounds stressful for a lot of people. 

May 04, 2019 11:10 AM #37
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Happy Saturday,  I had a bad situation one time were I had the buyer and the sellers were going thru a divorce and the selling agent had to sit between them because it was so bad.

 

May 04, 2019 11:17 AM #38
Rainmaker
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

Perfect example Will Hamm of an agent not schooled in divorce,...can think of no reason that they ever need to be together....

May 04, 2019 11:26 AM #39
Rainmaker
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Sally You are so right about that. it was a bad situation even for my buyer, I learn from it.

 

May 04, 2019 11:32 AM #40
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M.C. Dwyer
Century 21 Showcase REALTORs - Felton, CA
Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

I can't imagine the amount of patience and finesse you must have, specializing in divorces.    I find the stress of normal transactions to be quite enough, thanks.

May 04, 2019 04:55 PM #41
Rainmaker
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Steve Higgins
RE/MAX Kelowna - Kelowna, BC

Hi Sally,
Good post. Good for you guys and carving out that special niche of client.

May 04, 2019 04:59 PM #42
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Dana Basiliere
Rossi & Riina Real Estate - Williston, VT
Making deals "Happen"

Sally & David,

I have never had a party disappear or go off the grid before closing however I have had tense moments with one of the parties before.  You just have to grin and bear it while trying to understand the dynamics. 

May 04, 2019 05:09 PM #43
Rainmaker
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

After a good deal of exposure to divorce....you learn as an agent to be "a good scout" and be prepared so the transaction closes...some attorneys aren't sure what to do in these circumstances.

May 04, 2019 05:13 PM #44
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Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

I don't envy you for the niche you've picked, but somebody has to do it!  Good work.

May 04, 2019 06:12 PM #45
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Janis Borgueta
Key Properties of the Hudson Valley - Newburgh, NY
LIC RE Salesperson

I never knew that could be an option. Not sure if it works that way in New York. I wonder if the mysterious spouse knew this could happen? Likely a major surprise. Interesting times!

May 05, 2019 02:40 AM #46
Rainmaker
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

I don't know all the laws in other states Janis Borgueta but I have to believe that there is a "work around" for errant spouses everywhere.

May 05, 2019 02:48 AM #47
Rainmaker
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Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker
Mike McCann - Broker, Mach1 Realty Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska - Kearney, NE
Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940

Years ago was hired by the soon be ex-wife to sell their home.  Soon to be ex-husband told me she was crazy.  She tried to scuttle the deal at closing.  He was right...she was crazy. Thanks for sharing your story!!

May 05, 2019 07:42 PM #48
Rainmaker
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Shirley Coomer
Keller Williams Realty Sonoran Living - Phoenix, AZ
Realtor, Keller Williams Realty, Phoenix Az

This is a challenge that fortunately I have not had to address.  You are definitely in a niche market, and have learned how to go that road!

May 06, 2019 06:40 AM #49
Rainer
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Caroline Gerardo
CMG Financial - Newport Beach, CA
C. G. Barbeau the Loan Lady nmls 324982

Seen a few... One listing agent made the unhappy spouse who occupied the property sign agreements and have the deed notarized and held by her attorney before closing because they expected a couple dramas. 

May 06, 2019 01:29 PM #50
Rainmaker
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Michael Eisenberg
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham Real Estate Guy

I have heard some strange stories about divorcing couples, first time for disappearing.

May 06, 2019 02:12 PM #51
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Tom Bailey
Margaret Rudd & Associates Inc. - Oak Island, NC

Your stories are great evidence of why so few lawyers do family law. Who needs this stuff!

May 06, 2019 08:43 PM #52
Rainmaker
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

That area of practice...like our own is either you like it or you don't Tom Bailey ...those who love it do a great job and have a rewarding career.

May 06, 2019 08:54 PM #53
Rainmaker
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Scott Seaton Jr. Bourbonnais Kankakee IL Home Inspector
SLS Home Inspections-Bradley Bourbonnais Kankakee Manteno - Bourbonnais, IL
The Home Inspector With a Heart!

Emotions have to be running wild for situations like these. 

May 08, 2019 06:40 AM #54
Rainmaker
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

I have a divorce sale lie that now Sally K. & David L. Hanson. The Mrs, goes on benders for days on end, and not helping get this closed.  

May 08, 2019 01:26 PM #55
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Ricardo Mello
Manhattan Miami Real Estate - Manhattan, NY
Manhattan & Miami Real Estate Agent

Wow... that's crazy!

May 10, 2019 05:08 AM #56
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