Graduates, it's time. It's time to create a life. Good luck!

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cornerstone Business Group Inc 0225086119

This is my annual advice, suggestions, wit and wisdom for the, soon to be released on the world, graduates. If they can learn from an old-timer, they can learn from anyone. So, let's get to it. 

My Annual Words of Wit, Wisdom, Sarcasm and Good Sense for Graduates.

It's graduation time, and students all over the United States will be walking the final leg of one of their greatest accomplishments.  But, it's really only the end of the beginning.  School, whether it is high school or college is really a time of incubation.  During that time, material, much like breakfast, lunch and dinner is fed to students.  They can choose to consume it, or they can skip a meal here and there, but regardless, the meals are on the table.  The amount of nutrition derived from those meals will be determined by the nutritional content of the offerings. 

Not all food is worthy to be consumed.  Our national obesity challenge is evidence that there is a lot of low quality nutrition out there.  Those who recognize that and choose to seek out more nutritious food groups feel better, tend to be more healthy and may even live longer.  It's all about the quality of the food consumed. 

The same is true of academics.  Not all academics are nutritious.  Some teachers and professors wow their students with their great knowledge and insight.  They have an inner drive to see the students succeed and to become productive citizens of the world.  Others, have a personal agenda that is played out in the classroom day after day.  In their immaturity, some students may not be able to see the difference, but their next steps in life will reveal what type of academic meals they've consumed.

My advice to this graduating class is this:

  • Realize that your parents may be the only ones in life that think you're really special.  You will have to earn your own way with the rest of us.  There are no trophies for showing up in the game of life.
  • Don't assume the world owes you anything.  It doesn't, but that's OK.  That's how it is for all of us.
  • No matter how you grew up, the only limits on you will be the ones you impose.  Once you cross that threshold into adulthood, it's time to start taking responsibility for what your life will be.  A lot of us grew up in less than ideal situations.  It happens.  Some of us had horrific childhoods.  They were psychological nightmares.  Some of us had amazing childhoods.  Regardless of which childhood you had, you have a choice to walk away from the pains of the past or to let them dictate your future.  Your ability to have an amazing life really is within the choices you will make.
  • Your ability to succeed has nothing to do with your race, sex, religion, fiscal condition or nationality.  You can choose to blame those things for your struggles, or you can face your struggles head on and overcome them.
  • Wisdom is the effective use of knowledge.  You will gain it over time, but wisdom is something that only comes with time. You may not start out at the top of your profession.  That's to protect the rest of us because you're not ready to be at the top.  You need experience.  With your daily experience will come greater knowledge and seasoned wisdom.  Everyone pays his dues.  Pay them gladly, and over time, you will be at the top of your profession.
  • If you are willing to settle for anything, settle for 100% effort from yourself.  Some employers will see it and reward you for it.  Other employers will ignore it.  Regardless, a life of 100% effort gets rewarded in high self-esteem, a sense of a healthy pride and eventually the role that you want to play. If you have an employer that doesn't appreciate you, learn everything you can while you're there and then take that experience and knowledge on to the next job with a great employer.  You may have to go through two or three before you find that perfect job, but it's out there.  Practice giving 100% even when it's hard.
  • There will always be people along the way who will be willing to help you.  Pay attention so you don't miss them.  They may come from some unfamiliar sources, but they're out there.  Appreciate them, glean their wisdom and experience and then pass it on to another in their time of need. 
  • Limit your exposure to people who only take from you.  There are two types of people in the world: takers and givers.  Takers seldom give, and givers seldom take.  You need to keep the ratio of takers and givers way out of balance on the givers side.  Then, you'll have the strength to potentially help a few takers, but don't be afraid to cut them loose either.
  • If you have a dream, hold on to it.  Let it be the motivating force behind every step you take.  Don't let your dreams go just because it doesn't happen overnight.  Remember wisdom comes with knowledge.  Those weeks, months or years leading up to the fulfillment of your dreams are your training time.  Appreciate them for what they bring to your life experience.
  • Have fun along the way.  Being motivated to accomplish something can be all consuming.  Don't miss out on the fun in life.  Have fun.  Be a faithful friend.  Honor your parents.  Lift up the weary.  Find an outlet for your energies that are not work related.  Fill your mind with healthy thoughts and ideas.  Learn to relax and play.  Take a day off.  Eat nutritious food and sleep a good night's sleep.  Take care of your body.  You're no good to yourself, your employer/employees or your dreams if you adopt an unhealthy lifestyle. 
  • Listen to your conscience.  Your conscience is the voice of your soul.  Some may call it your gut, but no matter, listen to it.  It will try to direct you into right decisions and productive paths.  Every opportunity may not be right for you.  Always allow time before making major decisions.  It may only be minutes, but allow time for your conscience to speak to you. 
  • Forget about safe rooms, safe words, coloring books and playdoh. Your employer is not going to provide those, and unless you plan on spending your next decade in your parent's basement, grow up and get a spine. The world is a rough and tumble place. If your college taught you otherwise, they did you a great disservice. You can navigate it with a little effort, but you've got to be in it to navigate it. Get out there and change the world.
  • Do something that benefits others.  One of the greatest joys you will have in life is doing things that benefit others who have no way of repaying you.  Humble yourself and reach out to those who need you. 

It's time to launch out into the real world.  The academic environment really isn't the real world.  It's just the incubator you are hatched from.  Look back on it realistically and take the good, leave the bad and do something that inspires the world. 

My Annual Words of Wit, Wisdom, Sarcasm and Good Sense for Graduates.

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Michael Jacobs
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Hello Mike - and it's not over it's really just a transition to the next step.  Good advice.  

 

May 13, 2019 10:25 AM #1
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Grant Schneider
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Good afternoon Mike Cooper, GRI -  and the final word I would add is that it is commencement of your life NOT graduation!

May 13, 2019 03:16 PM #2
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Leif Price
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Just another path in a journey called life. Really great advice for our young hopefuls.

May 13, 2019 06:48 PM #3
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Myrl Jeffcoat
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That's great advice for recent graduates, Mike.  So many opportunities await them.

May 13, 2019 08:09 PM #4
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Myrl Jeffcoat
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CONGRATULATIONS Mike, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

May 13, 2019 08:13 PM #5
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Endre Barath, Jr.
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Mike hard to believe it was Winter just the other day and here it is Graduation Day... wow we are getting old... as I see your wisdom that you are passing on to the newest Graduates is a clear sign you are getting old too:))Endre

May 13, 2019 11:44 PM #6
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James Dray
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Morning Mike.

Great advice if only they would listen.  Carol Williams here you go.  

May 14, 2019 03:49 AM #7
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Kat Palmiotti
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Great advice as always. Grow up, get a spine, take responsibility, work hard, go for your dreams, have fun. Those are really the keys, aren't they?

May 18, 2019 04:17 AM #8
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Barbara Todaro
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Good morning, Mike Cooper, GRI it's that time of the year again....  I have a grandson who is graduating from Endicott College just outside of Boston with a major in criminal justice... I'm proud of him but not overjoyed with his future career choice.... but he's happy with it and that's what counts....so dangerous today.

May 18, 2019 07:11 AM #9
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In my days of graduation most of us had no debt. A few borrow from parents. These days private schools do not make one smarter. You pay tuition off after retirement and are still in debt. 

 

May 18, 2019 07:27 AM #10
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Carla Freund
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Great advice Mike. As a parent of one college graduate and another about to be, it is rewarding to be a part of their lives as they learn these valuable lessons.

May 19, 2019 05:52 AM #12
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Hi Mike:

This is really great advice for those who are graduating...and others too. Hopefully many will listen!!

Jeff

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Wow, huge article but very useful. Thanks.

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