Haters will Broadcast Your Failure but Whisper Your Success

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Haters will Broadcast Your Failure but Whisper Your Success

 haters whisper success
One of my dear friends - actually, the very first #1 in North Carolina on ActiveRain - recently ran for public office. As soon as she announced, I reached out to see how I could help her with her campaign - I adore her and would do anything in the world to help her. 

 

Fast-forward just over a month, my friend didn't win the bid for the elected office. I personally don't feel that it was a total waste of time for her thought - she had wonderful RPAC support and spent a good chunk of change to advertise and got lots of great exposure. She did a wonderful job of advertising, ran a good, clean campaign and, as far as I'm concerned, shone an incredibly bright, positive light on our profession. 

 

I remarked about my friend's campaign in a group of other local agents, many of whom I would consider to be personal friends of mine. I was quite surprised at the backlash about my friend's campaign - quite frankly, I was the only one in the group who supported her!

 

Seriously, comments were not at all what I would have expected from my peers about someone who has done SO much for our local and state associations, NAR, CRS and is well known all across the nation. Quite frankly, it was pure jealousy! In fact, one agent asked me specifically how I could support my peer - how stupid of me because I "sent business to her because I supported her!" According to one agent, my friend actually "cost all agents in our MLS business" because she ran for political office. Yes, that was actually said. To me. In a public forum. 

 

Many quotes came to mind but, these two really hit home as I read all of the negativity. It's so true - if you shine, you're going to get a few rocks hurled at you!

#KeepShining

throwing rocks at those who shine

 

Hence, the quote - 

 

© Debe Maxwell | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | CharlotteBroker@icloud.com | Haters will Broadcast Your Failure but Whisper Your Success

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Kathleen Daniels
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Debe,  I will just say it.  I. am. not. surprised. at. all. I see so much negativity and hate in the world today.  That includes peeps in our profession. It causes me to just stick to myself more and more.  I just have no patience or tolerance for it. Ignorance and stupidity live all around us. 

May 21, 2019 07:44 AM #78
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Both of those quotes are so true...and perhaps all of us are guilty of saying negative things about other agents--re: their behavior in a deal.  Running for office takes a lot of guts, time, money--something I could never do but admire those who feel the urge!

May 21, 2019 12:28 PM #79
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People don't know how to be kind to each other anymore. That's really sad. Whatever happened to the old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"???

May 21, 2019 05:43 PM #80
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Debe Maxwell, CRS When you are a true friend you can share good times and success! Glad you were able to support your friend. 

May 22, 2019 07:55 AM #81
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Hi Debe, Ironic that I ran into her Dad a couple days before the election and we were discussing how nasty politics have become these days with all the haters out there and people that just make stuff up. So sad this happens to so many good people.  Hope you and your family are doing well!

May 22, 2019 08:04 AM #82
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Unforunately, Debe, much of what we see on the national political scene is being played out locally as well.  People contrary about the wrong things, in some cases deterriorating to a psychopathic entitlement to make things up and attack without merit or substantiation.  Agree with Kathleen Daniels.  Glad so many of your readers see through the agenda.  It does take super tough skin to run, perhaps she can regroup with even stronger support and run again.

Jul 13, 2019 10:15 AM #83
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Debe, here's another quote:

"A glowing woman can help other women glow and still be lit." 

-Betty Rocker via Instagram

Jul 13, 2019 11:20 AM #84
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@Zippy in Baltimore - You dissected the quote just as I would have. It is truly sad.

And, you're so right, Lynn B. Friedman - onward and upward! I had the opportunity to see my friend this week and was horrified to hear that the gossip/rumors/untruths continue. It taught me a valuable lesson though - I will never run for political office!

Jul 13, 2019 01:28 PM #85
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I do adore her, Jan Green and absolutely hate that she's still dealing with this - well after the election. She deserves so much better but, I do believe in Karma for those who have been so rude to her. 

Jul 13, 2019 01:30 PM #86
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Hi Dana Basiliere! I love your phrase, 'small-minded rock chuckers' - it's true and really so sad. These people are indeed insecure - the problem is theirs, not my friend's.

Jul 13, 2019 01:32 PM #87
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You know, the irony in all of this is - we are in a nation that is pushing PC on us all. Yet, when being civil and throwing stones is in THEIR favor, they forget all about how they talk to or treat others.

I will continue to stand by her, Amanda S. Davidson - she deserves nothing less than for us ALL to stand by her.

Jul 13, 2019 01:35 PM #88
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My take on it is that people just have nothing to do in life - what makes them so vicious otherwise? I'm so sorry you had to experience that, Thom Abbott

Jul 13, 2019 02:08 PM #89
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Same here, Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty! I will say that I do try to 'change their minds' but, if they're just being mean to be mean, it's so not worth the time! They're never going to change.

Jul 13, 2019 02:10 PM #90
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Indeed he is, Marte Cliff! I don't understand the mentality and normally feel sorry that someone is so miserable, they treat others with such disrespect. When they hurt one of my friends, I have a hard time feeling sorry for them any longer!

Jul 13, 2019 02:11 PM #91
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I agree, Kathleen Daniels and the older I get, the more I'm with you - stick with those you know you can trust and don't venture out from that comfort zone. I feel like the stupidity around us just keeps growing!

Jul 13, 2019 02:13 PM #92
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Oh, I agree but, to publicly bash someone is just not in my DNA, Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR! You're so right - I will only admire from afar too - it will never be me! LOL

Jul 13, 2019 02:14 PM #93
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You're so sweet, Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland! And, yes, I was more than happy to support her, although I will say, it was disappointing to learn how shallow some of my peers are!

Jul 13, 2019 02:22 PM #94
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Hi Mitch Muller - Charlotte NC Real Estate! I should have called you out in that group so you could help. What a jealous group of peers we have - unbelievable, isn't it? Love her Dad and it gave me great comfort to know that those closest to her were truly supportive and there for her when she needed them.

We are doing well and I do hope you are too! Take care and let's do a cross-sale together!!  

Jul 13, 2019 02:24 PM #95
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Thank you for your comment, Kris Collis and I completely agree with you. I did run into her this week and gave her a big bear hug! I can tell you that, after talking to her this week, she'll never run for public office again...and that's so sad because she would have represented her constituents so well. 

In the end, it's the 'haters' loss but, gosh, I know it hurts when you're hated on for no reason at all!

Jul 13, 2019 02:28 PM #96
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Oh gosh, I love that quote, Kris Collis - and you know I totally agree with that!

Hope you're having a fantastic weekend!

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