Just a Thought...Why Not Just Smile and Move On?

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Just a Thought...Why Not Just Smile and Move On?

 

When  I was a little girl, if something was served for dinner that I didn’t like, I was taught not to make a big show of not liking it.

Just don’t eat it. Don’t push it all to one side of the plate and separate it just a toughtas if it were a crime scene.

 It would have been rude to say for example “I don’t like cauliflower.” It would also have been very obvious if I’d made a point of eating everything but what was pushed all the way to one side of the plate.
What purpose would it serve?

 

This doesn’t just occur at the dinner table but in other life situations.

 

Unless specifically asked is it always necessary to let your opinion to the contrary be known?

 

We see it in social media comments (including ActiveRain) and I often wonder what is it the person is hoping to achieve.

 

Is it to show some kind of superiority? Is there some kind of narcissistic need to make everything about them?

 

We all see this in comments on Facebook or other social media platforms. And yes, nice as we are here, there is the occasional commenter who just can’t help themselves.

 

You don’t like a post? You don’t like the kitchen in the house that is featured in the member’s listing? Who asked you???

Just smile and move on!

 

Oh and if there is a typo or something like that, be kind. Send the blogger an email or text or pick up the phone and call them. It truly isn’t necessary to announce to others that this person had an “oops” moment.

 

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Kathy Streib
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Jana Schmidt good for you!!! I think many of us have been guilty of that. And yes, if we wouldn't say it to someone's face, then don't say it on social media. 

George Souto sadly there will always be people who don't get it. 

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® well I guess it beats the heck out of giving it to the dog underneath the table! LOL  Our friend's daughter who was anorexic did that though...moved her food around. 

May 21, 2019 04:50 PM #38
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Jill Sackler
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This message bears repeating every once in a while. Most adults get it but the ones who don't will, unfortunately, not be swayed by your very rational argument.

May 21, 2019 04:59 PM #39
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Marte Cliff
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Kathy - those parsnips were terrible! My Grandmother loved them. I believe she boiled them first, then sliced and fried them. When I think of the smell I still feel that little wire twisty thing in my nose.

I don't suppose they put a huge helping of those "hated foods" on my plate, but whatever it was, I was expected to eat it. Thankfully, the sweet potatoes and squash only showed up at Thanksgiving and Christmas.

I insisted that my kids try everything, but if they hated it, they didn't have to try it again. And on holidays they could eat what they liked and skip the rest. (I might have had to alter that if they had chosen to just eat sweets, but luckily they liked plenty of good food.)

That clip was about a girl who stole a pro-life poster. She was outraged that the cops were "protecting" those people who wanted to take away her right to an abortion. The cop kept explaining that taking things that don't belong to you is a crime, and saying "You don't have to listen to them. You can walk away." She simply couldn't believe that she was being arrested.

May 21, 2019 05:24 PM #40
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John Juarez
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When I was young, I was a member of the "clean plate club" whether I wanted to be or not. It took me a while as a parent to learn that my kids did not have to be a member of that club. 

May 21, 2019 08:55 PM #41
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Replying to things you don't agree with online just puts your emotions in a knot. You are right. Just move on and do something you enjoy. Smell the flowers!

May 21, 2019 08:55 PM #42
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Good words to live by - your parents taught you some good advice.

May 21, 2019 09:26 PM #43
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Endre Barath, Jr.
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Kathy I grew up where my  father insisted that what was served will be eaten... once I go on my own, earn my own money I can choose what to eat and what not to eat... in the meantime we will not disrespect my mother or who ever cooked by being rude.... now with that said a to the AR comments some of it I believe Liz and Bill Spear  mentioned in another post...it could be "drinking and commenting"... I am open to having different points of views but it should be civil discourse... if it is not I always smile because those who read the non civil comments will just scratch their head and say what was that person thinking by writing such a comment....Endre

May 21, 2019 11:06 PM #44
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James Dray
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Morning Kathy.

Congratulations on the feature.  If I don't like a post, I just move on and not leave a comment.  I believe there has been only one time I sent the writer a PM telling them of the mistake.  That's the right thing to do

May 22, 2019 02:14 AM #45
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Kim Johnson
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Kathy, I really enjoyed your post this morning. I wish there were more people like you in the world!!!

May 22, 2019 02:52 AM #46
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Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com - Monroe, NY
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Growing up, we had to eat all the food on our plate. We were allowed to identify one food that we never had to eat, and anything else we didn't like, we had to eat a "no thank you" helping which was a few small forkfuls. 

Anyway, I totally agree with your ideas about just moving on if we don't like something. Great post!

May 22, 2019 03:27 AM #47
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
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Hi Kathy: I like to at least be considerate--if it's a topic I feel passionate about (happens a lot lately!) I try to be as considerate as possible--but then there are those comments that come out of left field on a post that I have spent a lot of time on and I wonder: "What set him/her off?" That's when I let it go..sometimes there are things bothering other people that have very little to do with a topic, but it comes out when they write--that is very natural, by the way--so again, I let it go. But every once in a while I find that I fit that description of making a snarky comment, so I have to be very careful as I go through the posts and try to find one that I am at least respectful of and not in total disagreement with! Great post--thanks for bringing this up, Kathy!

May 22, 2019 05:36 AM #48
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Hi Kathy!

Way to go! Another Featured.... Great post as usual.
This is my first comment on anything since coming back from the dead!

May 22, 2019 07:55 AM #50
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Haha - I did that exactly yesterday when I saw a post head in a direction that didn't appeal to me.    I appreciated their perspective but since I couldn't think of a nice comment to make, I moved on.    Simple as that.

May 22, 2019 07:58 AM #51
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Great info here Kathy Streib and advice. Now if more people would follow such advice, we wold be in a better place.

Simling back at you...

 

Robert Hernandez

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May 22, 2019 09:25 AM #52
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Lyn Sims
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I have to laugh as 50% of the comments here don't really have a clue what you said. There are some high profile bullies here that's for sure.

May 22, 2019 10:06 AM #53
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Using the "smiling" principal (your post title), I am grinning all day long as I make my way here & there. I understand that all things are allowed but I also know the core concept & bottom line of "how does it profit you principal" too....

May 23, 2019 06:46 AM #54
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Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
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Congrats on the worthy feature! 

I wasn't demanding of my children to eat what they didn't like. I had a very wise pediatrician who told me not to worry about it. They will be fine and it's not worth the battle. It's great if you can get them to try things, but they shouldn't be forced to eat it if they don't want to.

May 24, 2019 08:03 AM #55
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
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Nice feature, and something we can all do well to remind ourselves of again and again. Have a wonderful weekend.

May 24, 2019 10:37 AM #56
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We should always remind ourselves of that!

May 27, 2019 08:29 PM #57
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Beautiful post-Kathy Streib I missed this Wow -just love it 

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