No Pictures? It didn’t happen . . .

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Pareto Realty TN #251071

The #OwenHollow Spring Cookout happened on Saturday May 18, 2019 . . .

or did it?

There was no “no picture taking” rule in effect.

I was the host, and my only “Directives” were Directions to the Hollow (Because GPS won’t take you there), the price of admission was simply: “Bring Goodwill, yourself, and anyone you want to be there.” If you’re compelled to bring anything to share, feel free to bring a side, Beverages, or something sweet.

All the right people showed up with all the right stuff. I provided my “famous fall-off-the-bone babyback ribs” and cornbread pancakes, Grilled Burgers, Brats, Chicken, Cole slaw and a variety of beverages.

Most of these folks had not ever met each other, so everyone was a stranger when they arrived . . . and family when they left. Family, friends, REALTORS (Pareto and others), Open Space Colleagues, and neighbors . . . an eclectic group for sure.

The connections were rich.

Owen Hollow was EXACTLY the right place for this particular group to come together. In fact, I believe that we collectively solved ALL of the world’s problems in 5ish hours we were together. You have nothing to worry about any more.

We did this without any agenda whatsoever . . . imagine that . . . no rules and no agenda . . . and this spectacular event happened with no perceivable drama whatsoever. Self-organization happened – Everyone who showed up participated in the “details” of “Holding this “safe space” by setting up, grilling food, cleaning etc . . . I (as host) had very little to do beyond letting people know where to find things like trash bags, utensils . . . etc.

Imagine that . . . 30+ people – no caterer – 1 Host who was free to participate without worrying about things getting done . . . priceless!

To my knowledge, there were NO pictures taken and posted on social media.

Why weren’t there any pictures taken?

Everyone present was fully there . . . engaged and fulfilled.


So . . . No pictures = It didn’t happen?

PS – Every gathering, meeting, conference, learning opportunity, can be like this. All we’ve gotta do is let go of our “need to control” and open space for remembering our innate capacity to self-organize around important issues and opportunities . . . and it all begins with an invitation with heart. #nothinghaschanged

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Barry Owen

Principal Broker
Pareto Realty
Nashville, TN

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Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Barry. How wonderful to have a group get together where folks actually related to one another and not their electronics.

May 21, 2019 08:34 AM #1
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Sounds like a wonderful event, Barry.  Especially, the fall off the bone barbeque and the cornbread pancakes!

May 21, 2019 02:42 PM #2
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

HI Barry- I get what you're saying. Often I've had gatherings and I was so busy organizing  etc that I'm not sure how much I got out of it. And you know you're having fun when people forget to take photos for social media. 

May 22, 2019 08:19 PM #3
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224


                             Thank you, Barry. 

May 25, 2019 07:11 PM #4
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good morning Barry Owen ,

I love this post and so glad that Kathy Streib featured it in her "Ah-ha" moments for the week! Isn't it wonderful no one had time to take photos because everyone was so "in" and engaged the thought never occurred to them!

May 26, 2019 06:58 AM #5
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Barry,
What a wonderful event!  You had me at "fall-off-the-bone babyback ribs". I get what you're saying about being fully engaged and forgetting about pictures.  I launched a new website recently and when I'm out on events I've been forgetting to take pictures which is a no-no in this case! 

May 26, 2019 07:01 AM #6
Shirley Coomer
Keller Williams Realty Sonoran Living - Phoenix, AZ
Realtor, Keller Williams Realty, Phoenix Az

This sounds like a great event and a wonderfu venue to enjoy the food. (I am currently salivting at the babyback ribs!)

May 26, 2019 08:05 AM #7
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

So glad Kathy shared your post this week! What a great event this must have been! Thank you for sharing it and reminding us of just what is most important in life!

May 26, 2019 08:58 AM #8
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Great post!  I can see why Kathy chose to highlight it this week!

May 27, 2019 06:59 AM #9
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

Couldn't agree more that the yard stick for engagement is when we forget to take pictures for social media. Great job!

May 27, 2019 11:45 AM #10
Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

I love this story! Everyone had a great time, made new friends, and couldn't be bothered to get the camera/phone out to take photos. That is truly the sign of a wonderful day.

May 28, 2019 03:53 AM #11
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

Totally enjoyed your post Barry Owen! I just wish I could have been there. Sounds like the perfect gathering ... no drama?  Wow!!! Pass the BBQ Ribs please ...

May 28, 2019 12:08 PM #12
Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Barry:

Sounds like the ideal gathering, with great food, conversation, and people getting to know each other. And better yet limited - hopefully - interaction with those smartphones.


May 29, 2019 06:05 PM #13
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