On Being Civil

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On Being Civil

 

 

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Overlooking The Arroyo

 

On Being Civil 

 

This is not a political post. But I guess it could be construed as such if your mind works in that way. 

 

I think of the reach far beyond that particular world and more of what happens closer to home.  In our own backyard.  And around the corner.  The topic of civility happens here. In this forum. And obviously beyond the border of it. 

 

By the time I stepped foot in high school, there wasn't a class specifically called "Civics" on the curriculum.  I guess that course name had long been abandoned in our district. While it might not have been of interest to all it's one that needed discussion.  Then.  Now.   I digress. So much for civics class and onto civility.  

 

My mind wandered and I found this quote: 

 

Civility, politeness,

it's like a cement in a society:  binds it together. 

And when we lose it, then I think we all feel lesser and slightly dirty because of it. 

                                                                             Jeremy Irons 

 

And that quote lead me to find others including this one: 

 

Civility is not about dousing strongly held views.

It's about making sure that people are willing to respect other perspectives

                                                                               Jim Leach

 

Other quotes followed.  But the definition found online sums it up well for me.  Succinct.  And thoughtful as well.  Merriam Webster defined civility as a polite act or expression. 

 

Hmm.  And with that, I believe it's back to pondering...

 

The photo in this post was taken by Michael Jacobs from the banks of the Arroyo Seco with a view of the Rose Bowl Aquatic Center in Pasadena CA.  

 

 

On Being Civil

 

 

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Michael Jacobs

 

CalBRE # 01165532

2065 Huntington Drive

P. O. Box 587

Pasadena, CA 91102

Call/Text:  818.516.4393

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Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
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Hi Michael Jacobs - The best example of civility that stares us all right in the face are the comments on posts in ActiveRain.  Civility has a big dose of respect attached to it. The definition I looked up used the word formal politeness and courtesy.

I don't think it is indicative of formality. I just think that being civil is the right thing to do. 

Jun 30, 2019 07:18 AM #20
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It seems to me that people are definitely less civil than in the past, I see a lack of common respect that is missing.

Jun 30, 2019 07:27 AM #21
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Real Estate is always on my mind, and with it comes people...and how some other agents/buyers/and sellers, seem to have missed this class also!

Jun 30, 2019 08:25 AM #22
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE® - the word "formal" caught my attention too.  It just "is" formal and not so formal - come(be)as you are so to speak.   
 
Brian England -  both the lack and many examples of it are "out there" to be found.  
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400  - it seems some people might benefit from a refrsher class of sorts.
Jun 30, 2019 09:34 AM #23
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Roy Kelley
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This will be a timely topic for many months ahead.

I like your quote selections.

 

Jun 30, 2019 12:16 PM #24
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Carol Williams
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Hi Michael,

This is an evergreen subject!  Love the Leach quote:

Civility is not about dousing strongly held views.

It's about making sure that people are willing to respect other perspectives

                                                                               Jim Leach

Jun 30, 2019 05:33 PM #25
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Michael Jacobs - It's a shame that something as valuable as "Civics" would be removed from the student's curriculum at a time when students your age could have benefited greatly. I now feel lucky, that at my High School it was a mandatory class, just like Common Courtesy was in my Grade School. I can honestly say, those two courses built my foundation teaching me about moral consequences and choosing between right and wrong and how to treat others. It's a shame that it was cut from your HS curriculum. From what I can see, you turned out okay, but could those who followed long after you left HS been better served if civics and common courtesy was established and maintained until now?

As I look back and ponder on your what I read from your post today, being civil and having common courtesy never goes out of style and in my opinion can positively influence students and future leaders.   

Jul 01, 2019 07:13 AM #26
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Michael Jacobs - Those are two great quotes! I'm glad you found them and shared! 

Have a nice day. 

Jul 01, 2019 07:14 AM #27
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Roy Kelley - I imagine in the months to come and likely years/decades that follow.  

Carol Williams - that's a quote I particularly like.   

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP - the re-branding of Civics to the subject of Government.  Eleventh grade:  World and then United States as a senior likely touched on the topic of "civics" but it seems others could use a more in-depth lesson.  

 

Jul 01, 2019 10:52 AM #28
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Jane Chaulklin-Schott
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Lots to ponder here, Michael Jacobs.  It is a known fact by some that the more we value and love ourselves, the more we love and value others.  There is no
need to be rude and uncivil to others...no one gains by it; no one feels better after it is over. 

Jul 01, 2019 12:36 PM #29
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Michael, I do think it is getting worse.  Did you see on the news a 7 year old softball game where all the parents ended up in a brawl here in Denver.  Oh goodness!   They need that class! 

Jul 01, 2019 12:47 PM #30
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Jane Chaulklin-Schott - your love/value thoughts  fuels a nice energy toward improved mileage in life.

Joan Cox - I didn't see or read about that incident but unfortunately "news" of such things are no longer rare.  Of courss, I read your last statement as "They all need cats".  LOL  Oops.  Maybe that would be true as well.  

Jul 01, 2019 02:10 PM #31
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Michael, This is a great post on an important topic that should be taught to all children by their parents. But with the role models some children have, I have to wonder where we are headed in this regard. Diana

Jul 01, 2019 09:31 PM #32
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We have to first be the role models...then we can expect our children and their generation to practice civility also, Michael. It's so sad that we have become so insensitive to others but, it is certainly noticeable in every aspect of our lives.

One simple thing - I hold charity events at my home a couple of times each year. Every guest receives an invitation. About 1/2 of the recipients respond - whether or not they are coming, they do respond. The other 1/2 - about 1/2 of them NEVER respond and the last 1/4 of the invitees, just show up, never having responded! 

Of COURSE, I don't mind that they just show up - we always have more than enough food and drinks. I'm GLAD they are there; it's just a courtesy, in my opinion, tht should always be extended. It's a respect for others that seems to be missing these days.

Jul 05, 2019 09:19 PM #33
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Perhaps not political, but... that arena could certainly use some strong doses of civility.

Respecting other perspectives seems to be a foreign concept for far too many today.

Jul 05, 2019 10:00 PM #34
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Civil ...respectful ...is what we should always  see, feel ...be in this forum and in life...those who choose otherwise choose their own reputations.

Jul 06, 2019 12:36 AM #35
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The respect for other people's perspectives is what is getting lost every day in so many places.  Social media in particular has made it too easy to be a bully and "off with the heads" so to speak, of anyone who disagrees with you.

Jul 07, 2019 08:09 AM #36
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Something we seem to be lacking these days. I don't know what is wrong with people, but it is terrifying.

Maybe more smiles....if only it were that simple.

Jul 22, 2019 02:09 PM #37
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Diana Zaccaro - there are times that "wondering" becomes rather commonplace.

Debe Maxwell, CRS - I agree civility starts at home.  It is not something that can be mandated in my opinion.   You certainly shared a great deal of passion in your comment.

Marte Cliff - there and elsewhere.  

Jul 22, 2019 03:54 PM #38
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson - and it's there(and in print) for all to see.  

Chris Ann Cleland - far too easy.  

Sharon Tara - simple often work and so do smiles.  

Jul 22, 2019 03:59 PM #39
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