Monday Miscellany - People, people and more people

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with 406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty RRE-BRO-LIC-75443

Another Monday and as always various things are floating around in my mind. This week's miscellaneous thoughts that are taking up brain space include people, other people and yes, you guessed it, more people.

 

Monday Miscellany
People in this or that group are good/bad/whatever....

 

Myths abound that infer that all attorneys are dishonest, all real estate agents are unethical, and all auto salespeople are slimy. Generalizing about any group is inherently wrong. Take real estate agents for example.

 

I've always believed most people are kind, good and moral, and only a few are not. Unfortunately, those few can taint the perception of all the hard working individuals. So there can often be a feeling that the real estate industry is suspect, undeservedly so.

 

My house has been on the market for sale, and as such, I've interacted with a lot of agents recently. Most agents have been fantastic. They have confirmed appointments, been on time, left the house in the same condition as they found it, and have left feedback. I'd say 90% of the agents fit in that category. And then there are the few who behaved in the opposite manner. They didn't bother to show up or call to say there was a change in plans. Or they canceled the appointment a half hour after it was supposed to start. And their clients (or maybe even them) threw out parts of their lunch sandwiches on my lawn. The negative feelings I have about those few people's actions do tend to taint the entire process.

 

So what's the point of this line of thought? That most people are good. And that is true of any group we are speaking about, whether it's a type of business, a political party, an age group or a culture. It only takes the actions of a small percentage of a specific population to taint the view of the entire group. We need to keep in mind that everyone we talk to is an individual and whatever they do or don't do reflects on them alone.

 

And there are these people...

 

And then there are those people whose actions do taint the way they are viewed. For example, the person I broke bread with, who I talked to fairly often, whose house I visited multiple times as it was prepared for sale, and who put another realtor's "coming soon" sign on the front lawn without so much as a text to warn me. Or the couple who loved a house and had to have it, so we put together a great offer which was still within the market range in terms of price. They "won" the deal, and then refused to set up the inspection and after a week of delays told me they did their own research "online" and believe they were paying way too much for the house. I provided more comparative market data and they insisted their information was right and mine was not. We parted ways.

 

Monday Miscellany - People, people and more peopleOr the people who went on a portion of the Appalachian Trail that I like to hike, and spray painted red hearts on rocks all the way up to one overlook. I know some people might think that's nice (aww, how cute, red hearts!) but as far as I'm concerned they were destructing nature. And at the first lookout, they went to town with their paint as seen in this photo. It would be easy to say teenagers are all disrespectful of nature, but it was just the few who were on this trail with their paint. Sigh.

 

And then there are these people....

 

Luckily, this final category wins in my book. The friends who told me I could come over anytime if I needed to get out of the house for showings (or any other reason). And their invitation was open and valid even if they were not home. How wonderful is that? Or another neighbor who said we could come over and use tools anytime we wanted from his very well stocked garage - take 'em, and bring 'em back whenever you finish. Or the friend who was going to the store and called to see if I needed anything while she was there. The many terrific clients who have become friends. These individuals are all outstanding and I view them as such - regardless of what job they do, culture they belong to, age they are, or political party they identify with.

 

So my thoughts this Monday morning are about people, all of them, good and bad. I'm learning something from each of them.

 

And with that, I wish you a great week!

 

 

Originally published at thehousekat.com.

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Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat

Licensed Broker, CBR®

 

Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp

P.O. Box 10458

Kalispell, MT 59904

 

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Comments (25)

Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Lottie Kendall - I really do believe most people are good.

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - It is hard not to judge; I work at that as well!

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, Will Hamm . But I agree - and now you can cancel with an app. It's really simple.

Jun 03, 2019 10:08 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Michael Jacobs - we can only control ourselves and our own reactions..

Exactly, Marte Cliff - the bad ones do get our attention.

Jun 03, 2019 10:10 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good afternoon Kat - I always believe that people are good, kind, and honest.  There are exceptions, of course.  We get pulled down if we get caught up in their issues.

Jun 03, 2019 10:51 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Kat,

Nice observations of the world's store of possibilities.  What we have found is that if we keep focusing on the good stuff, the flotsam and jetsam becomes minimal.  A

Jun 03, 2019 12:00 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Kat Palmiotti - I have noticed many people changed after 9/11, or was it in 2002, 2003, and 4 when people were given their walking papers from their employers or did it occur in 2008 when so many people were in foreclosure or perhaps it when the political scene changed???

The point is, I've seen a change in a lot of people over the years and there are many reasons why good people turn moody or bad, or just don't give a care. I'd like to think all people are good but I struggle with that too. 

Jun 03, 2019 03:06 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

I agree, Grant Schneider - we can't get pulled down by any negativity.

Thank you Ron and Alexandra Seigel - I agree. Focusing on the positive certainly helps in every regard.

Hello Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP - I think even people who don't act "good" are good inside - something is just not working right. When it impacts me, though, I have to take extra care to remain positive.

 

Jun 03, 2019 04:45 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Kat- as they say "it takes all kinds."  I do get upset when people act like they don't care or are jerks. But the older I get, the more I'm determined to focus on people who are more of a positive force.  

Jun 03, 2019 07:46 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Me too, Kathy Streib - I'm more determined to focus on positive as well. Have a great day!

Jun 04, 2019 03:43 AM
Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Your words are wise and having the belief that most people are good is certainly positive!  I feel that I give everyone the benefit of doubt until they prove that I shouldn't, haha.

Jun 04, 2019 08:03 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

I do the same thing, Brian England ! Enjoy your day!

Jun 04, 2019 08:24 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Wishing you great success with your home sale Kat Palmiotti and westward HO...!

Jun 05, 2019 02:49 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Thank you Sally K. & David L. Hanson - have a great day!

Jun 05, 2019 03:47 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Some people are experts at generating negative impressions.

I hope you interact with some inspiring folks this week. 

Jun 05, 2019 07:55 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Clever post Kat. Yes I agree...Be Kind to Each Other! Good luck with the selling of your home without any stress...

Jun 06, 2019 01:17 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Roy Kelley - This week has been good so far!

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 - Thank you, and yes, kindness is key.

Jun 06, 2019 02:59 AM
Amanda S. Davidson
Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By eXp Realty - Alexandria, VA
Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale

Kat, I make a conscious effort to see the good and remind myself to be kind even when others aren't. It does seem like the bad has increased but, my hope is by focusing on the good that's what we'll see more of. Your last paragraph made me smile. So many wonderful examples of kindness and generosity.

Jun 06, 2019 05:34 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Hi Amanda S. Davidson - I think focusing on the good helps make us notice the good more often! Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!

Jun 06, 2019 07:24 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Kat Palmiotti, there's so much going on in our lives. We don't know nor understand why some behave the way they do or say hurtful things, destroy nature, abuse animals. It takes all kinds. We are happier when we focus on the good and the positive but when others' behavior affects our world, it's a challenge to do that. 

Jun 07, 2019 07:16 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kat I am sorry I am just getting to this post and I agree with you 90% of the people are good in general, sadly the other 10% that give a bad reputation to people, whether they are Cops, Clergy or Realtors, Endre

Jun 08, 2019 10:46 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Beth Atalay - You are right; at times it can be a challenge to continue to focus on the positive, but it does make us feel better to do so!

Hello Endre Barath, Jr. - Yes, absolutely; it only takes a few bad apples to give the entire group a bad rep.

Jun 09, 2019 02:39 AM

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