Real Estate Agent with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 PA License - AB067198

I remember listening once to Jim Rohn and he was talking about how we respond to things that come into our lives. 

We can choose to react or respond. Many times we react, without thinking fully. His suggestion was to be curious about everything and say to yourself that is interesting. Taking this approach allows you to respond.

Often we react with why? How about responding with how?

If we approach things as being interesting, and look at them with curiosity then we approach them differently to most people. I wrote over the weekend about not labeling things that happen good or bad. Much harder to do in practice than just reading about it. 

We are programmed how we react to many things that happen. We catch ourselves, uttering a curse or some negative statement below our breath about an event that happens.

But, if we stop and rather than react say, that is interesting, we stop and look at it, we possibly consider things are not necessarily as they seem. We approach them with a how mindset. How are we going to handle this? How are we going to approach this? How are we going to solve this.

Our mental attitude is different, we bring a different energy to the challenge, something more positive, some feeling of hope, some sense we can handle this challenge.

We remain calm, we don't shout, we don't get agitated, we just watch, and consider different options as things move along. Maybe we remain in flow and we achieve our goals rather than allowing ourselves to get distracted and knocked off our path.

So next time something arises, look at it with interest and curiosity and approach it with a how attitude and let me know how that helped. 

I continue to work on this and in the meantime if you need a Main Line Realtor who responds rather than reacts, and approaches life with curiosity then give me a call, Nick Vandekar, Selling The Main Line with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc., office 610-225-7400, cell or text 610-203-4543, email


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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

A great point you've made, Nick. And there is a huge difference between just reacting as opposed to responding after giving a situation some thought and consideration.

Jun 24, 2019 12:19 PM #1
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


It is what we refer to as the "knee jerk" reaction, without realizing that we are doing it.  We continue to catch ourselves on this, thank goodness.  A

Jun 24, 2019 12:35 PM #2
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, we will save ourselves a lot of heartaches and headaches if we approach situations differently.  Our attitude in our approach certainly makes a great difference.

Jun 24, 2019 02:06 PM #3
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - This is a well-written-thought-out essay. Jim Rohn is my favorite Business Philosopher. When a person practices the art of curiosity they listen harder and learn without reacting. 

Jun 24, 2019 04:05 PM #4
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Many things are going to be thrown at us through our lives and how we react to them will determine which path we end up on.

Jun 25, 2019 08:01 AM #5
Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, GRI, WLS
Phoenix Property Shoppe - Phoenix, AZ

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 I learned the concept of 'hmmm that's interesting' years ago. And it leads to a basically drama free life by just allowing things to be whatever or however people see them. We're all different - and that in itself is interesting, don' you think!!

Jun 25, 2019 09:29 AM #6
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Love this Nick. I too can be guilty at times of the knee-jerk response whereas Larry had a much more "let's see" approach. I am always working on this though. 

Jun 26, 2019 07:49 PM #7
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

I LOVE this. It can make a huge difference following this advice. I used to be much better at "how" instead of "why"....a nice reminder to get back on the positive side!

Jun 29, 2019 10:02 AM #8
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-507-7510

"Remain in flow and achieve our goals."  Nice.

Jun 29, 2019 07:22 PM #9
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224


                                        Thanks, Nick. 

Jun 29, 2019 07:51 PM #10
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

Good morning, Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 real estate agents are creatures of habit.... it's easier to stay on track using the "same old" rather than loosening up and refocusing on a new idea....

Jun 30, 2019 04:22 AM #11
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - not to be redundant but that is interesting and a great take away.  Sometimes over reacting can have a devastating effect.

Jun 30, 2019 06:07 AM #12
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

A lot of things one sees everyday assumes it is the same. One day you look at it from a different angle and realize your first perception is not correct.

Jun 30, 2019 07:34 AM #13
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

I need to remind myself to view situations I don't fully appreciate or comprehend, as puzzles. I have a very puzzling client right now, each time we communicate it's like trying to solve a dilimena - it's taking great restraint at times to just listen and absorb. Her husband has some health issues (minor at this time, but it means moving) and she is in panic mode and angry that they have to sell their home.  I'm going to remember your post today when I see her - it will be with interest and curiosity. :) 

Jun 30, 2019 07:41 AM #14
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Nick,
Jim Rohn was one of my favorite self-improvement philosophers.   Trying to see things from another person's point of view isn't always easy but it is worth being open to further thought, study and/ or discussion.  Asking Why is always a great approach.

Jun 30, 2019 08:51 AM #15
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Congrats on the feature by Kathy this week.  Wonderful post!

Jul 01, 2019 07:09 AM #16
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

I recall one of Jim Rohn's tapes in which he said that when something goes wrong, we should stop and think "Isn't that fascinating?" He said it was sometimes difficult to do, such as when he was stuck in freeway traffic on the way to the airport - and would probably be late for his flight.

No - not always easy to do, but always a good goal to aim for.

Jul 01, 2019 08:50 PM #17
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

I love this way of looking at things. Thank you for sharing it!

Jul 02, 2019 03:30 AM #18
Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Nick:

I rather like this perspective! What a great solution to avoid having a knee kerk reaction, especially when it might not be appropriate.


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