What A Difference A Decade Makes: 2009 - 2019

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"Change is the only constant in life."
-Heraclitus

We have been challenged by
Jeff Dowler, CRS to look back on the past decade and reflect on the many changes in our personal and professional lives. 

In 2009 I was busy working in my growing real estate and property management company while my husband and I dealt with his advancing Parkinson's Disease. 

Since then...

1) In February of 2010 my husband, Max, caught pneumonia and spent 7 days in the hospital. He never walked again. I reconfigured our dining room to set up a hospital bed for him and I set up another bed at the foot of his bed for me. I hired a care giver to be with him during the day while I was working. But in the evening and at night I was on duty 24/7. For the next 15 months, I turned him every two hours so he didn't get bed sores.  That year was complicated by the fact that I was the President of the local REALTOR® Association. I had an amazing EO that made the job easy and me look competent. I received the REALTOR® of the Year award that year. 

2) In May of 2011 my beloved Max passed away.  If I am ever in a similar position, I pray for half as much grace and gratefulness as he showed during his fight with Parkinsons. In his prime, Max was always a busy guy. He loved working on his classic cars, working in the orchard, working in the yard or being an overall fix-it man. I used to tease him that he fixed things that didn't even need to be fixed. He was just always trying to make them better. For him to remain pleasant while confined was such a blessing for me.

As you can imagine, Max's passing set off a whole string of changes for me.  My health had declined and I was sleep deprived. 

3) By November of 2011 I decided to take a year off from work. I merged my property management and real estate business into another company.  I needed to rest and take care of myself after focusing ALL of my attention on my husband and my business (in that order). That year of "rest" came and went and I just never went back to work.  I not only needed rest. I needed to, literally, reinvent myself. 

4) Lots of traveling.  After Max's passing I just didn't want to be home without him.  It wasn't that I was afraid to be home. It was just too lonely and different without him.  I started traveling a lot.  I took several trips to Arizona that first year (where his sister lived). In 2013 I went to Missouri and stayed with a friend for a little over a year. I enjoyed seeing a part of the U.S. I'd never been to and she was also a golfer.  So, I was able to get back into golfing in earnest again.  It's what has given me new direction and purpose.

5) By 2014, I was mentally prepared to spend more and more time at home. I think this is when my "reinvention" started taking place. I still take trips and do quite a bit of traveling but by 2014 I was no longer running away. It's been 5 years since then and I feel quite content with my life.  I have a wonderful sisterhood of friends with whom I do a lot of fun things.

6) By the end of 2015 I reactivated my participation on ActiveRain. I originally joined AR in 2006 but became inactive by 2009.  I was pleased my blog was still available when I came back and I love the new connections I've made since doing so.  I've made some meaningful connections here that I value very much.  While I was getting my personal act together, I've been able to keep a connection to an industry I enjoyed being involved in for 30 years.

7) Family stuff: In the last decade 6 of my 7 grandchildren have gotten married and 4 of them have had babies... 3 of them last year.  I now have 7 great-grandchildren.  I also lost one of my step-sons to complications from diabetes. It's a wake up call to the importance of taking care of yourself.

8)  With the help of Katerina Gasset,  I built a new website earlier this year focused on SeniorWomenGolfers.  I am anxious to see how that evolves. 


9) In 2018 I took my first cruise. 9 friends and I went to Australia and New Zealand. It's a good thing I didn't discover cruising sooner. Now I want to go every year! We have a cruise to Hawaii booked for 2 weeks in October. The gal who is my traveling companion has cruised a LOT, so as her cabinmate I get the same VIP privileges she does. 

10) In March of this year, I moved Max's sister from Goodyear, Arizona to a Wenatchee Independent Living fracility.  I was managing all of her affairs from afar and this makes it much easier. She seems quite content here.

11) Bonus: I started collecting Social Security a couple years ago.  Yay! 

The last decade has been an interesting journey. It will be interesting to see what the next 10 years brings. 


Onward!

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Carol Williams
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Hi Brian,
Wow... your Dad is blessed to have the best care possible! So glad to hear he is doing well, under the circumstances.

My husband was diagnosed with PD in 1995 and was well controlled with meds for a long time.  It was when he got pneumonia that was the beginning of the end for him. 

Jul 12, 2019 09:16 AM #20
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Hi Michael Jacobs 
In reading the various entries, it's obvious we all have our ups and downs to navigate.  Thanks for stopping by to read about my journey.

Jul 12, 2019 09:17 AM #21
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Carol Williams  The long and winding road of life . You are a stong lady . Life puts many twists and turns in our paths of life. One thing we must be thankful  with is that we wake up everyday to a new adventure. People come into our life and sadly sometimes go but the love they left behind touches our hearts and leaves loves and happiness to last a lifetime .

Loved your story and you too sister 

Happy Day Carol 

Hannah 

Jul 12, 2019 09:18 AM #22
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Carol Williams
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Hi Ron and Alexandra Seigel 
We all have our special journey to navigate, don't we?  None of us are immune from the challenges.

Jul 12, 2019 09:19 AM #23
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Grant Schneider
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Good morning Carol - you have accomplished a great deal in the last 10.  Your story of life with your beloved Max resonates with me.  My wife has PSP which is another movement disorder.  I have been her caregiver and modified things.

Jul 12, 2019 09:42 AM #24
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Carol Williams
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Hi Sheri Sperry - MCNE® 
I've certainly had my share of life-altering changes throughout my life and the last 10 years is right up there with the most challenging.  Thanks for stopping by to read my story.

Jul 12, 2019 10:49 AM #25
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Oh Carol, your story really touched me on such an emotional level. What an amazing woman you are, and especially your devotion and love to Max. I know the next 10 years are going to shine brightly for you. 

Jul 12, 2019 02:52 PM #26
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Hi Carol:

What a wonderful read, and journey you took us on. Life has certainly been full for you, and no doubt will continue to be so. Thank you for sharing your time with Max - that must have been incredibly challenging in so many ways!

Jeff

Jul 12, 2019 05:09 PM #27
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Carol- I too part of your story but now after learning more, I have even more admiration for you. You have endured and thrived. And, I also admire how you are taking care of your sister-in-law by moving her closer to you. You are remarkable. 

Jul 12, 2019 07:27 PM #28
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Carol Williams
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Hey sister Hannah Williams 
I bet all of us could pick any 10 year span and there would be significant life changes.  That seems to be how this roller coaster of life works, doesn't it?  Thanks for reading about my journey of the last 10 years. 

Jul 13, 2019 06:58 AM #29
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Carol Williams
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Hi Grant Schneider 

I am sorry to hear about your wife's condition!  She is blessed to have you as a loving caregiver.  I found keeping in the moment... not thinking too far ahead helped me.  Honestly, I was consciously content taking care of Max when he needed me most.  I suspect you feel the same.  

Jul 13, 2019 07:01 AM #30
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Carol Williams
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Thank you, Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD 
If anyone knows what it's like to be a caregiver for a loved one, you know it is not a burden. I was content taking care of Max.  I just needed to do a better job of taking care of me too.  Who knows what the next 10 years will bring. Whatever it is, I'll try to make the most of it. 

Jul 13, 2019 07:04 AM #31
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Hi Jeff Dowler, CRS 
In an odd way it was all such a blessing.  I felt bad for Max being confined the way he was but I never considered taking care of him as a burden. I was content doing what needed to be done.  It certainly required a lot of adjustments and planning, though.  In retrospect I should have done more to take care of my own health. 

Jul 13, 2019 07:08 AM #32
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Carol Williams
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Awww thanks, Kathy Streib 
It was a challenging time but I felt so blessed to be in a position to take care of Max the way we did.  If I'd been working a regular job, it would have been much more difficult. Real Estate gave me the flexibility to come and go whenever I wanted to or needed to.  Max died knowing how much he was loved.  As for Max's sister, she adored Max and he adored her. He would want to know she is being taken care of.   She is like Max... very grateful.

Jul 13, 2019 07:13 AM #33
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Such a beautiful and encouraging post. Most people can't comprehend the challenges of being a caregiver until they become one. 

Enjoy your travels, especially Hawaii. Keep smiling and laughing and enjoy every day. In Hawaii we say "no huhu" and 'na ke Akua e ho'opomaika'i aku".

Jul 13, 2019 08:50 PM #34
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Will Hamm
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Hello Carol Williams,  to years is a long time to write about but it is interesting what I am learning about all my friends like you here in the rain.

 

Jul 15, 2019 08:37 AM #35
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Hi Kimo,
Caregiving is definitely a labor of love and I was blessed to be able to do it for my husband. 

ʻO ke Akua ke hoʻopōmaikaʻi iāʻoe
Jul 15, 2019 10:46 AM #36
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Carol Williams
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Hi Will Hamm 
It is interesting reading about others last decade, isn't it?  I got my last 10 years in 854 words. Not bad.  LOL

Jul 15, 2019 10:48 AM #37
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Wow that is A LOT of changes in ten years.  Sounds like you have fulfilled many of your dreams and are moving 'onward' with confidence and an appreciation that every day is a gift.

Jul 17, 2019 01:01 PM #38
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Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
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Carol Williams - A soul mate is a partner for life, and it's not just for "until death do us part." I know this to be true. Mine was barely 37 when he died and left me a widow with 2 young children. I never remarried. Travels help. 

Aug 15, 2019 07:43 AM #39
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