What a difference ten years makes

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Real Estate Agent with Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com 10301213186

Jeff Dowler has challenged us to reflect on the last ten years, and share ten things that have changed during that time frame. Here is my input - It's amazing how much can happen in a decade!

 

1. Marriage: In 2009, I had been divorced for over a decade, and was still looking for the right partner. On January 1st 2010, my almost-expired eHarmony account sent me a potential match. I waited a few days before responding since the dude lived an hour north from me. I just didn't know how I'd find the time to get to know someone that far away. But after a few days I decided to respond positively. We wrote, we spoke, we met, and in 2011 tied the knot. My sailor/ hiker/ author/ canoe builder/ tons of fun husband and I are now having adventures every day! What a difference a decade makes.

 

2. Children: In 2009, I was raising two teenage boys with all the fun and challenges that entails. We had some difficult times in those years. School, life and teenage issues were sometimes overwhelming, but we struggled together, those boys and I. Love won out and those two boys are now men. At 25 and 26 years old, they are both independent, productive, intelligent and loving people who make me very proud.  And I now also have two adult stepsons (because of #1 above). A family of five men and me. What a joy.

 

3. Friends: In 2009, I had some friends I don't have now. And in 2019, I have a lot of friends I didn't have then. One of the benefits of being in real estate is that I meet a lot of people. And some of those become clients, and a few of them become great friends. It is wonderful to get to know people, and even better when you can create a bond which will hopefully last forever!

 

4. Parents: In 2009, my mom and dad were living in Albuquerque, NM, enjoying trips to Vegas, as well as various hobbies and work related activities. Mom was already dealing with peritineal cancer and in 2011 after a four-year battle, she succumbed to her illness. Dad missed her terribly. Because mom wasn't here any longer, he had no one to really talk to anymore. As a result, he opened up and let me see him as a person not just a father. I am happy for the short time we had to get to know each other better. In 2015, Dad also contracted cancer. His death came a lot faster. He started to get symptoms in January, told me in March, and was dead in April (passing away on my mom's birthday). So now I am the oldest living person in my family. The circle of life.

 

5. Career. In 2009, I was a product manager at a major telecommunications firm. I was working to implement a product enhancement that normally takes 18 months in a company such as that. I was told to do it in three. I did it, while at the same time I continued to manage all the other projects on my team's plate while my staff was being reduced due to budget cuts. It was a recipe for burn out, and by 2010 I was reviewing my options. I decided to retire from my 30 year career and move on. In August 2010 I officially retired, and in September decided on my next career - real estate! For the next year or two because of various other things, I didn't work full time, but started in late 2012 as a full time agent. And realized being an independent business owner after corporate life was stimulating, fun and definitely an improvement! 

 

6. Physical Health. I've always focused on trying to stay healthy. Even when I had small kids I would try to fit in some exercise on a fairly regular basis. I would eat relatively well. And in 2009, I was still doing the same thing. At the time I was using a local gym, and would go in three or so times a week to use the exercise equipment and take classes. In the ten years since, I've ratcheted up my focus on my health. I truly believe much of what we eat, drink and use can impact our health. I also think exercise is incredibly important in staying healthy. And I'd like to stay healthy as long as possible. I've seen what poor health can do to people as they age, and I want to enjoy life. I now exercise five or six days a week, eat more vegetarian meals, eat no sweets (but do still drink my wine) and I feel better at 58 than I ever have. Hopefully that will continue!

 

7. Brain Health. After seeing what Alzheimer's can do, I've also increased my attention of my brain. I watched a long video series on what chemicals and medications can do to our bodies. In 2009, if a doctor had told me I needed to take a medication for an ailment, I'd have just done it. Now in 2019, I want to research other options first. So for example, a year or two ago, my doctor indicated my cholesterol was high and I should start taking statins. I asked him if I could hold off and try other options first. He said sure, come back in three months. So I did some research and started taking plant sterols instead. My cholesterol improved and at my last visit, he told me that my "good" cholesterol was about two or three times better than the average. In addition to trying to keep anything unnatural out of my body (in attempt to keep my brain sharp), I do at least one crossword, one cryptogram, and one soduko a day. Does it help? I don't know but I'm having fun and acing the crossword type clues on Jeopardy! Oh yeah, and I watch Jeopardy as well.

 

8. Emotional Health. In 2009, I was continuing thought processes that started in childhood. That saying "no" to requests wasn't the right thing to do. That my needs were not as important as others, or that doing what I needed was selfish. Well..... I don't feel that way anymore. Saying no is critical to my well-being. And that doesn't mean I'm not helpful - I still am. I'll go out of my way to help others. But, if I don't take care of myself, I can't take care of others properly. So when I'm feeling overwhelmed with too many things to do, I can certainly say "no" now. And if I need something I get it. So along with improving other areas of my life, I've been working on myself. And I'm a lot happier for it.

 

9. Location. In 2009, I was living in coop in a suburban village in Westchester County NY. What a great place to raise a family! Everything was walkable. We could walk to dinner, the school, grocery store, or anywhere else we needed to be. The town was on the Hudson River and we would head down to the riverfront for free evening concerts in the summer. The village had some fun family events. For example, they closed the streets to traffic on Halloween and the kids could trick or treat at all the businesses. Now in 2019, I'm living in a more rural area in a single family home. Nothing is really walkable, so if I need to go to a store, I have to hop in the car. Both places are totally different from each other, but both fit the needs of my life at the time. 

 

10. Learning. In life, we are always learning something. In the last ten years, I learned that I care a lot less about what other people think of me, and a lot more of what I think of me. I've learned more about what makes me me, and what makes me happy. And I've learned what I don't want in my life and removed it. I've learned that I feel much more alive if I face what fears me. I've learned that I want to spend whatever time I have left living in the moment, enjoying whatever I do have, and not worrying about what I don't. I've learned that while life can be hard, it can also be amazing. And I've learned that I want to experience everything with an optimistic and grateful attitude.

 

And there you have it, my last ten years. I can't wait to see what the next ten bring.

 

 

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Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat

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Grand Lux Realty, Inc.

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Anne Corbin
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I lost my mother in February and I, too, am making a point to spend more time with my Dad and am realizing who he is outside of being my Dad. He is quirky and very soft hearted in his old age! I appreciate you sharing that as it made me think about my own relationship with my father.

Jul 18, 2019 06:17 AM #18
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An interesting journey for Sure Kat Palmiotti ...and know there is soooo much more to come !

Jul 18, 2019 07:01 AM #19
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great post. Its a good reminder to look back over time and even if at the time we weren't thrilled with what was happening we can see that our lives are really blessed and most things that "come up" lead to a great place

Jul 18, 2019 08:31 AM #20
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Very interesting...I'm always amazed why more more pp who don't take care of themselves (grossly obese, smokers, etc) aren't keeling over due to stroke or heart attack.  So many seemingly unhealthy people tend  to live very long lives with no consequences!  I am curious about the video series you watched on what chemicals do to your body.  A lot can happen in ten years! 

Jul 18, 2019 09:38 AM #21
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Anne Corbin - Thank you for sharing that.. Enjoy these moments with dad - they are amazing memories to hold near. My dad became a lot more self-deprecating and insightful.

Yes Sally K. & David L. Hanson - there sure is! Thank you for commenting!

Jul 18, 2019 10:04 AM #22
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Robby Leviton - Thank you for your comment. Everything is temporary, even the challenges.

Hi Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR - the series was called "Awakening from Alzheimers" - I think it's only shown a few times a year. I took a ton of notes! It wasn't just about ALzheimers but about brain health.

 

Jul 18, 2019 10:06 AM #23
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 I hope the next 10 years brings you much happiness and a Montana accent 🤓 Kat Palmiotti 

Jul 18, 2019 01:41 PM #24
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Hi Kat Palmiotti what a great story of your last 10- years. I love the category style you did - very interesting. You have grown leaps and bounds in 10 years and really found your path in so many ways - awesome!

Jul 18, 2019 01:50 PM #25
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Kat, what a great post, and sure look great for your age!   You have done a lot to live longer and live better! 

Jul 18, 2019 05:55 PM #26
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WOW! Kat Palmiotti - What a journey you've been on and another journey is about to begin. I'm so glad your husband came into your life at a time when you didn't even know you'd need him the most. You certainly aren't a quitter and always determined to get through the times in your life when things are challenging. I'll bet you miss your mom and dad very much. It is hard to live without them, I know that is true for me too. May your sons continue to make good lives for themselves and be successful. I'm glad you found your true love and that you are each other's best friends too. 

Cheers to the best years yet to come! I really like how you took control of your health and life and making excellent healthy choices. 

Jul 18, 2019 06:42 PM #27
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That was great.  These 10 year stories are very interesting and varied!  Sorry to hear about both of your parents getting cancer and it makes you wonder...

Jul 18, 2019 09:12 PM #28
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - If there is such a thing, I just might get one!

Thank you Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS 602-380-4886 - a lot has certainly happened in the 20-teens!

Joan Cox - Thank you so much for your kind comment!

Jul 19, 2019 03:04 AM #29
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Thank you Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP for all your wonderful comments! Life can certainly be interesting.

Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089 - actually, it does make me wonder indeed. I wonder if there was something in the area they lived, or something about their diet that may have impacted them both. I have a few theories but won't ever know for sure.

Jul 19, 2019 03:07 AM #30
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Hello Kat and always impress with you and now more impress with seeing your 10 years history.

 

Jul 20, 2019 09:39 AM #31
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Well, thank you Will Hamm - that was a wonderful comment.

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What a great 10 years you've had!  So exciting for you to look back at all of the wonderful changes, albeit losing your parents.  That's tough.  But getting married!  And you met online.  Good for you for trusting yourself and working to make your life better.  Amen girl!

Jul 23, 2019 10:16 PM #33
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Thank you for your comment (and your "Amen girl!", Jan Green ! The last ten years were definitely full of change, much of it good. Thanks again!

Jul 24, 2019 02:49 AM #34
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Loved reading about your past decade and these points.

..." I had some friends I don't have now. And in 2019, I have a lot of friends I didn't have then.''

and

" I learned that I care a lot less about what other people think of me, and a lot more of what I think of me

Jul 26, 2019 03:26 AM #35
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I'm so surprised at our parallels, Kat! I was raising two very young boys (3&4) when Ray and I met and they have grown into amazing young men (now almost 30 and 31)...and I married the man of my dreams....the second time!

I also have Alzheimer's in my family and am quite critical of meds prescribed to treat a wide variety of ailments. Every ailment is a symptom, caused by SOMETHING - take care of that 'something' and you won't need to treat a symptom! I completely believe that and do my very best to live by that practice too.

Thanks for sharing - love your entry and we so appreciate you participating in this month's challenge, Kat.

Jul 27, 2019 11:51 PM #36
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Thank you Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland - this ten year challenge was really quite interesting. It's amazing how much changes when we look back over a certain time period. Have a great day!

Debe Maxwell, CRS - I totally agree with your statement about symptoms and ailments. I bet if we ever get together in person and have a nice long chat we'd find lots of other things in common! Thank you for your comment!

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