America, it's time to do a heart check.

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cornerstone Business Group Inc 0225086119

The past 24 hours have been challenging for our country. We've had mass shootings in multiple locations. This is not a rant, and it is not a gun control blog. I've always said I'm not an optimist or a pessimist, but I am a realist. I have enough years behind me to remember when our society was different. I can remember seeing high powered rifles hanging in gun racks on the parking lots of local high schools, and the students left the doors unlocked, the keys on the front seat and the windows down. Nobody thought a thing about it. That student was going hunting once the final bell rang and he didn't want to waste daylight running home first. 

What is different? And I realize, it's not completely different. In the late 1960s, we had riots in the streets. Protests were being conducted all over the country, there was great violence, racism, war and it seemed like an apocalypse. But, today is different in other ways. The view of the value of human life is at an all-time low. Multiple states in our country are passing assisted suicide laws, and they are applauded. That would have been an anathema in the 60s, 70s, and 80s. Babies are aborted by the millions, and yet we rail against children in containment areas for their safety, at the border. 

Middle-to-high-school students sequester themselves in their homes with game consoles that give them points for killing the most people. They don't interact face to face with other students of a similar age. We played Ms Pacman, and you had to do that in an arcade. Social media gives isolated people a forum to express their frustration with life, and they are often joined by a chorus of similar struggling individuals. We talked to a friend, a sibling, a parent, and even the dog.

Parents hover over their kids hoping to protect them from any mental or physical harm, and in the process, the kids never learn how to deal with issues or navigate life. A scraped knee is a crisis, and an insult is a means to have legislation passed to ban words. We put warning labels on products to keep people from doing stupid things, and that's right, I said it. It's stupid. 

Teens set dogs on fire. Others tape their muzzles closed and insert firecrackers in their mouths while the poor animal in a panic runs around trying to get the sizzling device to go out before it blows up their face. And, the abusers video the abuse and laugh throughout the scene. 

Our overly connected world has released a wave of ice cream lickers, vegetable urinators and prep-food spitters who are looking to be the next Facebook, YouTube or Instagram viral star. What they are really doing is revealing how poorly they have been prepared to live a life of value. Their willingness to taint the food other people will consume shows how consumed they are with themselves. Hey, look at me, I licked your ice cream. Enjoy. 

The mass shooters, the ice cream lickers, animal abusers, the baby aborters reveal one thing about our country. We have a heart problem. The foundation of our families and our individual lives have been built of sand, and it is crumbling. Twenty-six of the last 27 shooters were men raised in fatherless homes. Only one woman has been involved, and she was a terrorist. Personally, I believe the absence of God in the average American's life is a main source of this wayward path we are on. Without God, there are no moral absolutes. In that absence, men create their own absolutes. How's that working for us?

Without a source of absolutes, everyone does what is right in their own eyes. Sadly, I believe the church has a lot to do with the absence of God in the lives of our citizens. Instead of speaking life to parishioners, we have sought entertainment rather than engagement. Rather relying on biblical texts to give us guidance through this life, we pick and choose what we would like to believe. The Bible has become a smorgasbord where we pick our beliefs rather than allowing it to reveal God's plans for our lives.

We have become experts at shifting responsibility for our shortcomings to others. It was my parents, my boss, my spouse, my sickness, my lack of money, my whatever we can scapegoat to, rather than accepting responsibility for our thoughts, our beliefs and our actions.

Politicians pander. Government squanders. Leaders disappoint. Rights disappear. Relationships implode. No folks, it's not guns, it's not somebody else's fault, it's not the Russians. It's the heart. Until we address the issues of the heart, we will not stop the decline in our nation, and those who would take advantage of our weak moments will continue to do so.

America, it's time to suck it up, stand up, get a backbone, quit being stupid, accept responsibility, respect others, love without conditions, cherish those around you, give without recognition, share your wisdom, know when to keep your mouth shut, deal with your personal issues, seek help, offer help, open a door, smile at someone, say thank you, make a difference, be available, listen without judging, be slow to become angry, stop lashing out, deal with your disappointments in healthy ways, apologize when warranted, take care of your body, feed your mind with healthy input, refuse to be part of a mob, stand in the gap for the weak, learn some manners, don't be a pawn of social media, make the world a better place, and most of all, get your heart right. 

 

 

 

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Myrl Jeffcoat
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CONGRATULATIONS Mike, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Aug 05, 2019 04:09 PM #10
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                                             Thank you, Mike. 

Aug 10, 2019 07:22 PM #11
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Tom Bailey
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Well said Mike! Having lived through the late sixties as a college student, I am not sure it is any worse now than then. I was going to class at UNC Chapel Hill after Dr. King died, with armed National Guard on every door

Aug 11, 2019 05:57 AM #12
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Barbara Todaro
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Good morning, Mike Cooper, GRI it's all very sad..... I don't want to start my rant....so I'll leave it at "it's all very sad."

Aug 11, 2019 07:04 AM #13
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John Henry
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Thanks for writing what many of us believe.

Aug 11, 2019 08:04 AM #14
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There are a number of aspects I don't agree with you on, but more important is the big picture- and in that respect we are on the same page. It's crucial we set aside our differences on a variety of issues to come together to address the most important points. True patriots will put country before party divisions, rhetoric, and most important- understanding that we are just hurting ourselves if we can't put aside the differences.

Aug 11, 2019 09:10 AM #15
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You've summed up the big picture way better than I could....

 

America, it's time to suck it up, stand up, get a backbone, quit being stupid, accept responsibility, respect others, love without conditions, cherish those around you, give without recognition, share your wisdom, know when to keep your mouth shut, deal with your personal issues, seek help, offer help, open a door, smile at someone, say thank you, make a difference, be available, listen without judging, be slow to become angry, stop lashing out, deal with your disappointments in healthy ways, apologize when warranted, take care of your body, feed your mind with healthy input, refuse to be part of a mob, stand in the gap for the weak, learn some manners, don't be a pawn of social media, make the world a better place, and most of all, get your heart right.

 

 

Aug 11, 2019 09:29 AM #16
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Joe Pryor
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This was very heartfelt about having heart. To pervert religion be it the prosperity gospel, jihad, or white supremacy is a cancer.

Aug 11, 2019 10:36 AM #17
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MaryKay Shumway
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Mike, this was fabulous.  It reflects a conversation I had with some good friends the other day.  Congrats on the feature and for being brave enough to really tell how you feel.....a lot of us share the same feelings.

Aug 11, 2019 10:38 AM #18
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Mike:

You've said a lot but the most powerful part is your final paragraph! Our world is a scary place these days.

Jeff

Aug 11, 2019 11:05 AM #19
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Michael J. Perry
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The next decade is huge in America’s future. We have strayed away from key principles that founded America and in many households there is no room for God .

Aug 11, 2019 12:45 PM #20
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Robin Wells
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Thanks for post.  Our world is a scary place.  But I guess the question is why?  What has changed?  Many often point to firearm or gun control or lack thereof, which in itself is a hot topic politically.  And yes there are valid reasons and arguments why this may help.  But having said that there were many more much more dangerous firearms available to the public 60 and 70 years ago than there are legally available today!!  And as I recall there were no where near the number of scary happenings then as there are now.  However you do point out some areas where things may have changed and may be part of the root cause.  Church - yes church!  It is true that many now have become almost entertainment and strayed from where they were, where they used to be and where they should be.   But many of us today do not go to church at any rate.. but that may be in part because of what the church has become in many cases.  Parents, you mention them as well.  Although while there is a problem with society and the parent relationship, there is also a problem with lack of parents - lack of family units which also may contribute to some of the problems.   But there is also the lack of consequences for our actions as well, schools no longer are able to punish students - even to the point of not failing students who do not perform.  Even the legal system is tied and unable to punish minors - and while there may be some good reason there - children also need to learn consequences for actions taken.  What about video games - are the violent ones providing negative influences?  Social media, how is that impacting our youth today?  So many questions and so few answers - frankly I don't think the leaders and politicians know the answers or if they do they are unwilling to attempt anything that may fix the problems.  There is a heart problem.

Aug 11, 2019 04:38 PM #21
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Great post!  I certainly can see why Kathy chose to highlight it this week!

Aug 12, 2019 07:08 AM #22
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Anne Corbin
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Yes, video games that just use fighting as the fun .... hmmmm

Aug 12, 2019 08:08 AM #23
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You certainly took the opportunity to get a lot off your mind, Mike Cooper, GRI 

Yet, we still don't really know what can be done to mend the major rips in our society. Tolerance, religion, love, patience, understanding and so muck more is missing.

Aug 12, 2019 03:27 PM #24
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It's not fair to throw abortion into this mix.  These people are a case for abortion.  They were raised without fathers you say.  Maybe their mothers would have preferred to terminate the pregnancy and it would have been a good choice.

Aug 12, 2019 07:31 PM #25
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What is the bottom line? I think it's responsibility. It's also, in some circles, the preponderance of doing what you can get away with legally rather than doing what is morally or ethically right.

I believe the root of it is families - or lack thereof - and I sure don't know any answers. If the parents don't have a moral compass, how can they teach it to their children?

I just give thanks that my own children don't run around behaving like idiots.

Aug 12, 2019 09:18 PM #26
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Frank Tinsley
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Well said, I could'nt agree with you more.

Aug 13, 2019 04:55 AM #27
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
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I hope I live to see a more peaceful world in my life, including a ban of assault weapons in the US.

Aug 13, 2019 01:34 PM #28
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These days it takes courage to share reality on so many fronts.  Well said.  I agree.  Growing up in the Midwest and in our time, things were very different.  Kids today don't have the "privileges" we did to roam the streets at night safely on bicycles like we did.  That to me is sad.  And it's sad what technology has done to young minds, but at the same time, advances in technology drive everything.  

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