by Patricia Feager, 8/12/19
Clutter is a word that makes some people uncomfortable. Yet, when people move it is a word that comes up in conversations. Another word I think about is conscious. It is something we live with our entire life. Clutter, on the other hand, accumulates over time and can be controlled.
Like many people, my family was affected by Alzheimer. If you ever lived with or known anyone with Alzheimer, you know it is startling when something out of the blue triggers a memory. Something in their subconscious comes back, unexpectedly, crisp and clear. At times, being with my aunt in Florida it was difficult when her mind was out of control. It was as if I was witnessing the tide roll in and out causing her emotional pain while I felt knocked down on the beach. She was there, but she wasn't really there.
Sellers are often emotional when it comes to letting go. Packing up and getting ready to move is not easy. Thoughts bring back memories. When getting rid of clutter things we touch, store, pack up, remove, and collect evokes strong emotions. Sellers aren't just moving; their brain is functioning; thoughts are bouncing back and forth between conscious and unconscious.
Clutter becomes an emotional experience, shifted and shaped by the present and the past. People aren't just thinking when they are awake, they are thinking in their sleep. Moving can be exhausting.
I stand strong by other people's side when they are vulnerable. Whether it is a family member, seller, buyer or friend I understand their thoughts are inundated with tasks, taking chances, making decisions, donating, tossing out, reading contracts, and they know time is of the essence. Making things happen in 30 days or less is the hardest thing they have to do. A sense of belonging is ending and the longing to begin anew may or may not be as exciting as other people think. I understand that when things are outdated or not it's not my place to judge. The color of painted walls, a piece of furniture, clothes that don't fit can alter a person's mood. I recommend all agents representing anyone moving to be sensitive to their client's needs.