You Cannot Not Be Who You Are

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Pareto Realty TN #251071

I see far too many people choosing this path of most resistance.

These folks age MUCH faster than those who opt for the path least resistance.

Not being who you are is exhausting.

As is true with all lies, whether they be “innocent little white lies” or “persona/lifestyle lies”, the most difficult of living this dual existence is keeping up with (remembering) all of the necessary accumulated little lies an inauthentic person must disseminate over time.

Why some people choose this path is not too difficult to fathom. When public and personal personas are not in alignment, we can feign status and fame and fortune so as to “keep up with the Joneses”.

After all, publicly claiming high expertise and success will magically manifest realization of these dreams, right?

If we can dream it, we can accomplish ANYTHING!

Of course, you can sense my tongue-and-cheek (cynical) tone?

I’m not bashing setting lofty goals/vision/dreams and WORKING towards achieving them.

It’s not “good enough” to say you’re “there”.

Most people who are “there” don’t talk much about their success because they’re too busy being who they are.

You cannot “game” this game by claiming you’re “there” before you are . . . and when you DO practice this inauthenticity, you’re cheating yourself of the depth of learning that comes with EARNING your success through hard work – persistent and consistent toil – an indefatigable resolve to be your own authentic successful self.

We love you for who you are.

Don’t make your life more difficult by pretending to be someone you’re not.

If this shoe fits, wear it!

If not, we’re all proud of you!

Published by Barry Owen

Strategist-CEO of Pareto Realty Real estate sales Professional Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.US Invite-Listen-Love

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Dena Smith
DSmith Realtors - Irving, TX

People have trouble being themselves because the are afraid that they won't be good enough and/or accepted.

Aug 15, 2019 07:44 AM #1
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Barry- true words. Just as telling lies is a lot harder than telling the truth, living a lie or living what you aren't is way too much work. 

Aug 15, 2019 06:34 PM #2
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

"These folks age MUCH faster than those who opt for the path least resistance." 

There is so much wisdom in that very first sentence of this post.  Just yesterday, I was talking with a family member about someone we noted who had aged significantly in recent years.  That person, has always opted to do things the hard way.

Aug 15, 2019 11:25 PM #3
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Barry, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Aug 15, 2019 11:25 PM #4
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