Do You Need that Umbrella? How To Simply Conquer the Negativity Bias!

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In a recent discussion with friends, the term "Negativity Bias"was brought up.  Our friend explained that this is an innate instinct in all of us thanks to our ancestors who fought tigers and bears as part of their daily survival.  When they had a bountiful hunt, they would not rejoice fully, for fear that another predator would be lurking around the corner.  They would eat with spear in hand ready to attack...

 

Today we have umbrellas instead of spears. As pictured above, whether the forecast calls for rain or not, they are prepared to use it, even it is not raining.  Four out the five pictured are not aware that it is a beautiful clear day...

 

Negativity bias is waiting for the "other shoe to drop"! We know as a result of that implanted stimulus/response that it is going to drop sooner than later...And given that we expect that to happen it usually does. That bias of fixed idea is not allowing good things to happen with great regularity. And as result we meet up with problems, just as we predicted, because we are already predisposed to it happening.

 

Studies with 7 months old babies have revealed that they experience negativity bias by  emotional contagion from those around them.  They feel the negative energy that is expressed around them day and day out.  Unlike us, they cannot leave to get away!

 

As we have evolved from cavemen and cavewomen, we still are more likely to focus on negativity than on positivity.  An accident on the freeway causes a parking lot situation, because everyone wants to rubberneck the scene. Trauma and drama becomes a focus, so much so that we bring it into our lives on a daily basis.  Just by turning on the news, you can have your fill of negativity.

 

Here is our formula:

 

1.  Practice mindfulness.  This is not a new concept, even Lao Tzu, spoke of it.  I like this quote by Thich Nhat Hanh.

 

“Mindfulness helps you go home to the present. And every time you go there and recognize a condition of happiness that you have, happiness comes”

 

2.  Count your blessings on a daily basis.  Be grateful, thankful for all the bounty that surrounds you, and the quote we both love is by Sam Harris,

 

“There are at least a billion people on Earth at this moment who would consider their prayers answered if they could trade places with you."

 

3. Revel, celebrate the good times, appreciate the people around you and let them know that you appreciate them.  In the words of Alan Cohen, 

 

"Don't postpone joy until you have learned all of your lessons.  Joy is your lesson."

Last but not least, get on a diet of laughter. Alan Watts said it well,

 

"Just as true humor is laughter at oneself, true humanity is knowledge of oneself."

 

Perhaps, it is time to shed the negativity bias, and walk in the sunshine between the showers!

 

HAPPY TUESDAY!

 

 

 

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James Dray we look at our phone app for the weather forecast.  We have not had the TV on since Wimbledon in early July.  Next up is the US Open at the end of the month...we enjoy a bit of tennis  A

Aug 21, 2019 06:27 AM #39
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson there is too much good living to do rather than wear a cloud above one's head.  Happy Wednesday.  A

Aug 21, 2019 06:28 AM #40
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Laura Cerrano It sure is, and all it takes, is a little practice.  A

Aug 21, 2019 06:29 AM #41
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Today's Mutts comic strip, by Patrick McDonell

Aug 21, 2019 08:57 AM #42
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
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I needed to read this right now, thank you. Dealing with a bunch of stuff and every day when I walk, it tries to raise its head with negativity, messing up the positive energy I am trying so hard to cultivate with mediation and mindfulness. Easier said than done sometimes. But getting there and your post is a great encouragement, thank you.

Aug 21, 2019 09:50 AM #43
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The "waiting for the other shoe to drop" mentality is very common, as you said. I've often come across it in my worklife. The other often-heard statement is "the devil we know..."

Aug 21, 2019 10:11 AM #44
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Jill,

I had not heard "the devil we know!"  That is a good one.  Thank you for teaching me somethin new.  A

Aug 21, 2019 10:17 AM #45
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 It is often easier said than done, and sometimes thoughts get into an endless loop of negativity, but practice, practice when we catch it, and stop the loop.  You are most welcome, always delighted that I have contributed to positivety.  We walk out of the house every day, with the intention of uplifting someone, somewhere...Funny enough, we benefit too.  A

Aug 21, 2019 10:20 AM #46
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John Henry Thank you for the  comic strip.  Have a wonderful day.  A

Aug 21, 2019 10:21 AM #47
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That's great insight, R & A. The baby info is great to know for my friends and family who have infants. I love the picture. It says it all.

Aug 21, 2019 10:23 AM #48
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Mike Cooper, GRI

For some reason, I could not tag you this morning.  When I was researching this, I found it so sad that infants are affected by negativity in the air...They are so much mor aware than we credit them for.  A

Aug 21, 2019 10:27 AM #49
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Negative was never meant to be. However now that it is here, make it unwelcome....Yes?

Aug 21, 2019 10:52 AM #50
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This is printable! It's going on my computer monitor now. Thank you.

Aug 21, 2019 12:05 PM #51
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Richie Alan Naggar You make it unwelcome by finding the positive, negativity feeds on those who are focused on it.  A

Aug 21, 2019 01:14 PM #52
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Wendy Rulnick delighted to hear that, and glad to be a help.  A

Aug 21, 2019 01:14 PM #53
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Sometimes you have to just shrug it off and smile.

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You're so right, it's endless but, I just keep on keeping on - I'm perfectly fine putting on a smile and trying to help others feel some genunie positivity, Alexandra!

Funny but, just yesterday, I had someone do work for me. He phoned me to tell me the job was done and I said, "Thank you so much! I truly appreciate you." Without skipping a beat he pronounced that he was giving me a $100 discount - "Too many people take others for granted. You don't. You are always appreciative and I thank you for that." 

Aug 22, 2019 08:39 AM #55
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Debe Maxwell, CRS What a wonderful story and it bears telling it over and over again...Thank you for your kind words, they are appreciated.  A

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Good afternoon,

I love this post and the quotes and comments are priceless! Of course your photo is perfect for your message..thank you!

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Dorie,

Thank you for your kind words, and that photo is a hoot, and it took me a while to find it...Wishing you a delightful weekend.  A

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