Are You Willing to Be Happy?

Real Estate Agent with Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA VA License # 0225089470

Are You Willing to Be Happy?

Are you willing to be happy?  That's a weird question, isn't it?  Who wouldn't want to be happy?  Of course you want to be happy.  The question is, what's it take to make you happy?  Is it getting out of debt?  A three week vacation?  Finding the love of your life?  Shedding forty pounds?

There is no questions that all of those external things, and many more, are joy inducing.  However, I'm here to tell you that happiness is more a matter of will than external circumstances.  You have to have the will to be happy.

We all deal with crap.  Somehow, I hear many conversations that tend to be a crap contest.  Whose crap is bigger, worse or more out of control.  You know those conversations.  Susie  says she broke her arm and her buddy Virginia says, "Oh that's nothing.  I broke my tail bone last year.  It was awful."  Why do we do that?  Some do it because they love others to know their misery. Some do it because if it seems bad news is the topic, they simply HAVE to have the worst news.

Of course, if you watch the news, a negative world view is ever present.  It's this side's fault, or the other's, but it is someone's and we're all doomed.  I'm not buying it.   I rely on my interactions with the world to tell me what's happening, not the news.  The news would have me believe things that my day to day existence prove are false, all day....every day.

The real question is not if you are willing to be happy, with the emphasis being on the happy.  It is is if you have the WILL to be happy. It takes will to change your mindset and get out of the glass half-full mentality.  Once you have trained yourself to see that glass half full, its like your own personal jet liner just got above the storm.  Sure there will still be bumps and rumbles.  And let's face it, there's no avoiding horrible things and terrible days.  But in the end, happiness is a choice.  It comes from within.  The trick is getting off that negative train of thought and seeing things more positively.  

Find the will to be happy and you will never regret it.  Just this past month, I met a woman facing her own death at far too young an age, Christine.  Her pulminary condition is no longer responding to her medications and she is being told to get her affairs in order.   Walking is a strain for her.   Dancing at her son's wedding has knocked her out all week, but she can't stop talking about it.  I have not met a more positive, or happy person.   She knows the bad stuff is there, all the time, but doesn't want to waste her precious time on being down about it.  "What's the point?" as she asked me.

Then there's another person I know.  Donnie Downer.  Fantastic job.  Gorgeous home.  Fast car.  Loads of money.  Perfectly good health.  Whenever I talk to Donnie I get the impression his life is out of control.  This meeting lasted all day, that thing he planned to do got cancelled and it's all ruining his day.  Donnie recently took a week off to go to the beach in North Carolina.  I forgot and called Donnie while he was there.  "This is the worst.  We just got here and we're being evacuated.  So much for my beach trip."   Sure, it's a bummer, but you still have the time off and you can't change the fact that Mother Nature is about to pummel your chosen vacation spot.  Make lemonade out of the lemons, or just suck on them in all their sourness.  

If you want happiness, you have the power to embrace it no matter what your current circumstances.  Have the will to NOT wallow in the bad and wrap it around you like a cozy blanket.  Shed it and see what else is out there to make you smile.  It may seem odd at first, but if you keep at it, you'll be happy before you know it.





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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


Absolutely, and we both have found that when we continue to count our blessings, we consider ourselves the luckiest people on this planet, and we both remind each other of this quote by Sam Harris...

“There are at least a billion people on Earth at this moment who would consider their prayers answered if they could trade places with you.”


Sep 04, 2019 02:50 PM #3
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Chris Ann- There are many people I know who choose to be miserable. They can't seem get out of their own way and see the happy place that's in front of them. When I can, I do my best to limit my time with them because I choose to be happy. 

Sep 04, 2019 04:13 PM #4
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Chris Ann - the first step is a decision that comes from positive self-talk.  So much is within our control.  

Sep 04, 2019 04:39 PM #5
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

I am so glad that you have written about this very important topic.

If you want happiness, you have the power to embrace it no matter what your current circumstances.

Sep 04, 2019 04:43 PM #6
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good evening Chris Ann Cleland ,

I see a gold star on the horizon!  What a great post with so much truth in it! It does take will to change a mindset of negativity.....but oh is it worth it!!

Sep 04, 2019 06:57 PM #7
Lauren Williams, CPO
Casual Uncluttering LLC - Woodinville, WA
Professional Organizer: Puget Sound homes

Chris Ann Cleland Oh my yes! So much of what I study is about exactly what you suggest. Keep going!

Sep 04, 2019 07:33 PM #8
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Yes, I'm willing to be happy.  And, fortunately I am most of the time!

Sep 04, 2019 09:26 PM #9
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Chris Ann, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Sep 04, 2019 09:28 PM #10
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Chris Ann. Happiness is an internal thing regardless of your external circumstances. Enjoy your day!

Sep 05, 2019 04:46 AM #11
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Gosh darn it... Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD got here first and stole my word... BRAVO! 

If you want happiness, you have the power to embrace it no matter what your current circumstances.

Sep 05, 2019 07:01 AM #12
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Feature Fairies -- this is the one!

You've said it perfectly, Chris Ann - "But in the end, happiness is a choice.  It comes from within."

Sep 05, 2019 08:04 AM #13
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Chris Ann. This is sooooooooo good. It is a matter of choice.

Sep 05, 2019 08:28 AM #14
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-507-7510

Thanks for sharing these words of wisdom, Chris Ann

Looks, like the 3rd time this great quote is quoted again!   "If you want happiness, you have the power to embrace it no matter what your current circumstances."

Sep 06, 2019 03:59 PM #15
John Henry
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

Too many negative nellies and bummer bobs out there.  Someone always has to take things down a notch and it can get repetitive and tiresome.  No doubt it leads to further negativity and really can affect your health!! Best to stay away from these people as much as possible.   Thanks for the post, Chris Ann!

Sep 07, 2019 09:22 AM #16
Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

You are spot on here, Chris Ann. What an insightful read!

I particularly liked this - " the end happiness is a choice. It comes from within!"

Enjoy the rest of your weekend being happy!



Sep 07, 2019 12:36 PM #17
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Yes girl yes.
Love you to the moon!

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Sep 08, 2019 08:18 AM #18
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

Good morning, Chris Ann Cleland we act like the company we keep.... surround yourself with those who have the right attitude, and you can't lose!

Sep 10, 2019 01:16 AM #19
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Oh, what a wonderful post, Chris and I totally agree that happiness IS a choice...and YES, I am more than willing to be happy! Positivity breeds positivity - a.k.a happiness. 😀 

Sep 11, 2019 09:29 PM #20
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

The secret to success is feeling upbeat and happy and everyone flocks to you to bask in the glow. And that makes you even happier. I avoid people who bring me down. But I swear they like it that way, and there's definitely truth in the saying  "misery likes company." Just not mine.

Sep 12, 2019 03:28 PM #21
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

It's so easy to let little things drag you when there's a traffic jam, or the grocery is out of the one  item you stopped to buy.  But we are so fortunate in our lives, appreciating every day and being thankful for our riches is a must.  Choose to be positive!

Sep 18, 2019 12:46 PM #22
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