Are You Willing to Be Happy?
Are you willing to be happy? That's a weird question, isn't it? Who wouldn't want to be happy? Of course you want to be happy. The question is, what's it take to make you happy? Is it getting out of debt? A three week vacation? Finding the love of your life? Shedding forty pounds?
There is no questions that all of those external things, and many more, are joy inducing. However, I'm here to tell you that happiness is more a matter of will than external circumstances. You have to have the will to be happy.
We all deal with crap. Somehow, I hear many conversations that tend to be a crap contest. Whose crap is bigger, worse or more out of control. You know those conversations. Susie says she broke her arm and her buddy Virginia says, "Oh that's nothing. I broke my tail bone last year. It was awful." Why do we do that? Some do it because they love others to know their misery. Some do it because if it seems bad news is the topic, they simply HAVE to have the worst news.
Of course, if you watch the news, a negative world view is ever present. It's this side's fault, or the other's, but it is someone's and we're all doomed. I'm not buying it. I rely on my interactions with the world to tell me what's happening, not the news. The news would have me believe things that my day to day existence prove are false, all day....every day.
The real question is not if you are willing to be happy, with the emphasis being on the happy. It is is if you have the WILL to be happy. It takes will to change your mindset and get out of the glass half-full mentality. Once you have trained yourself to see that glass half full, its like your own personal jet liner just got above the storm. Sure there will still be bumps and rumbles. And let's face it, there's no avoiding horrible things and terrible days. But in the end, happiness is a choice. It comes from within. The trick is getting off that negative train of thought and seeing things more positively.
Find the will to be happy and you will never regret it. Just this past month, I met a woman facing her own death at far too young an age, Christine. Her pulminary condition is no longer responding to her medications and she is being told to get her affairs in order. Walking is a strain for her. Dancing at her son's wedding has knocked her out all week, but she can't stop talking about it. I have not met a more positive, or happy person. She knows the bad stuff is there, all the time, but doesn't want to waste her precious time on being down about it. "What's the point?" as she asked me.
Then there's another person I know. Donnie Downer. Fantastic job. Gorgeous home. Fast car. Loads of money. Perfectly good health. Whenever I talk to Donnie I get the impression his life is out of control. This meeting lasted all day, that thing he planned to do got cancelled and it's all ruining his day. Donnie recently took a week off to go to the beach in North Carolina. I forgot and called Donnie while he was there. "This is the worst. We just got here and we're being evacuated. So much for my beach trip." Sure, it's a bummer, but you still have the time off and you can't change the fact that Mother Nature is about to pummel your chosen vacation spot. Make lemonade out of the lemons, or just suck on them in all their sourness.
If you want happiness, you have the power to embrace it no matter what your current circumstances. Have the will to NOT wallow in the bad and wrap it around you like a cozy blanket. Shed it and see what else is out there to make you smile. It may seem odd at first, but if you keep at it, you'll be happy before you know it.