A litmus test for moving forward

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Pareto Realty TN #251071

Every day, each and every person on this planet encounters myriad issues and opportunities as we tumble through this thing called life.

Even those with the most steadfast commitment to moving forward on a well defined path can easily “lose their way” (or momentum) when confronted with distractions and obstacles. In this, our hyper-connected environment, our path is a veritable gauntlet of temptation and unforeseen complexity . . . As the difficulty of moving forward increases, our proclivity towards the siren call of all the bright, shiny objects/new opportunities also increases.

What’s at stake is our ability to FINISH . . . ANYTHING.

It’s as if the whole Universe is conspiring to obstruct our path to completion such that our frustration level requires us to abandon the mission.

Are you keeping score?

What’s your “batting average” of finishing initiatives you’ve started?

During a conference call yesterday, my friend Jacob gifted us with a “golden nugget” mini-process for improving our ability to let go. The context was one of letting go of emotionally charged scenarios, and I later realized that it’s a great “tool” for the emotional mind.

Jacob called it “Self Inquiry” – He referenced a book and saved all of us the laborious task of reading the book by giving us the recipe for the secret sauce in @ 25 seconds flat.

I’m paying it forward to all the right people who need to learn this today.

My version is slightly “enhanced” for agility.

Situation: A MONSTER emerges on the path ahead . . . An emotionally charged issue . . . An enticement to take a short-cut . . . a distraction to redirect your focus . . . ANYTHING that hinders forward momentum and has potential to change your trajectory.

  • PAUSE your “game” with Silence and Non-Action
  • Assess using the the following self-inquiry
  • “Can I let go of this?”
  • “Am I willing to let go of this?”
  • “When?”

If you can’t or are not willing to let this go:

  • Will this be a revision of the current mission?
  • Will this become an additional Mission?
  • Will this be a NEW mission? (Abandoning the current mission)
  • Do you know how to do this?
  • Who do you need to invite to participate?
  • When?

I believe many people (especially entrepreneurs) subject (imprison) themselves in a form of purgatory of wanting their cake and eating it too.

Resulting in them frequently failing to finish – well – anything.

Just another invitation to life an intentional life.

Claiming your own power and creating your destiny.

So . . . are your willing?

Published by Barry Owen 

Strategist-CEO of Pareto Realty Real estate sales Professional Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.US Invite-Listen-Love 

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Barry Owen

Principal Broker
Pareto Realty
Nashville, TN

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Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Barry- thank you for sharing this and yes for condensing it so I didn't have to read the book, which I'm sure is very good!!!!! No matter our goal, there are times when we have to stop and reassess the situation and decide if this is still our goal and what we're willing to do to continue to go after it. 

Sep 14, 2019 12:09 PM #1
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224


Sep 14, 2019 07:10 PM #2
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

I think this is the story of my life.  As a kid I was interested in a lot of things and could not center on anything to perfect a skill.  I had to take two years of college courses to settle on architecture.  Thanks for a modern update on how to deal with an age-old problem.

Sep 15, 2019 04:17 AM #3
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Wow...so helpful Barry! Thank you. I have bookmarked for future reference.

Sep 15, 2019 06:44 AM #4
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

I too appreciate the condensed version and will back to read this again - taking my time to savor the message...still waking up this morning. D

Sep 15, 2019 07:11 AM #5
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

A good thought process, and it is distracting when brokers introduce one new shiny toy to the playroom after another. Some may be good, but too many can just be a distraction where you end up not knowing what to play with and just sit with them all around you.

Sep 16, 2019 05:25 AM #6
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