Friday the 13th - An Anniversary, A Full Moon, and A Full Heart

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Friday the 13th – An Anniversary, A Full Moon, and a Full Heart

It’s Friday the 13th. Tonight, a full moon should light up the night sky. The first full moon in a number of years to shine on this particular date.

 

Today also marks the one-year anniversary of losing dad. Earlier this week, the hospice organization, who helped us care for dad in the months before he died, hosted a memorial service for patients who passed last September. Bernie, mom and, I were the only people who attended. It as a lovely service and we left with full hearts. 

 

We think this year will be a bit easier, as we have all of the “firsts” under our belts. However, the hospice folks gave us a handy tool and acronym, “HOPE.” For anyone else going through a grief process, here is how it works. 

 

H – Honor your loved one frequently. Keep them alive in your heart and your thoughts. 

O – Own your emotions. Tears or sadness are part of a process. Stoicism is not necessarily a sign of strength. 

P – Prepare and plan. If you know something might be difficult, plan in advance how to make it easier. ( This is something we do for mom.) 

E – Express. Find healthy ways to express your emotions. Play music, write in a journal, go for a run, do some yoga, cook a favorite dish. Regardless of how you do it, expression is a healthy way to manage feelings. 

 

It’s Friday the 13th with a full moon in the night sky, we think it’s another wonderful day to honor dad's memory. 

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Brian England
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I enjoy seeing full moon's, so I will have to make a point of checking out the moon tonight.

Sep 13, 2019 09:40 AM #14
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE® thank you. I loved my father so much, and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss him. But, you are right, I'm guessing once we get this annivesary under our belts, this next year will be easier. 

Sep 13, 2019 09:51 AM #15
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Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
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It is always a good day to honor a memory. I do have a bit of an issue with crazy people on Full Moon days (and add Friday the 13th) Yikes.   :):):)

Sep 13, 2019 10:12 AM #16
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Thank you Brian England for the comment - and do check out that Full Moon...go ahead and let out a howl if you feel so inclined. Lol. 


Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty - it is always a good day.  We hope to avoid crazy people today - and everyday. That's the goal, anyway. Good to see you.  D

Sep 13, 2019 10:25 AM #17
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Good afternoon Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - the words behind the HOPE acronym are very helpful.  Everyone handles these things differently.

Sep 13, 2019 10:45 AM #18
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Hi Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD what a lovely thing for hospice to do, hosting a memorial service. HOPE is perfect for learning how to handle loosing a loved one. My family did something similiar for the anniversary of my brothers passing last May.  I'm so glad your Mom lives with all of you and she has you to help her move forward in love and peace.

Sep 13, 2019 10:49 AM #19
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Hi Debb,
What a lovely thing for Hospice to do. I know of no such thing in this area.  I think I learned I share a birthday with your Dad. April 7th? So, if you need someone to send gifts to, I'm your girl.  LOL

Sep 13, 2019 01:50 PM #20
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Debb and Bernie- It's hard to believe that it's been a whole year. As others have said, Hospice is a wonderful organization that gives people support in ways most of us wouldn't even think of doing. Your whole family is such a remarkable example of what we can do for our families. 

Sep 13, 2019 07:24 PM #21
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I really enjoyed this post and it did give me hope Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD 

Sep 13, 2019 10:25 PM #22
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Hi Debb... any day is a good day to remember and honor our loved ones who are no longer with us. I remember the first anniversary of my mother's death and we are coming up on 21 years on September 22nd...  it's always a bit of an emotional day even now. I'm so glad you had such a nice way to remember your Dad yesterday.

Sep 14, 2019 08:21 AM #23
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Hi Debb and Bernie:

What a touching post! I'm sorry I missed it on your special day. What a wonderful way to remember your Dad, his life, and the annivesary of his passing!

Jeff

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Sep 14, 2019 07:11 PM #25
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Good morning Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, hard to believe its been a year. This is a great way to remember your Dad, he will be always in your heart.

Sep 15, 2019 04:46 AM #26
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Hello Debb and Bernie,  Hard to believe a year now, I still feel for you.  The moon was unreal, we where in Yellowstone for 6 days and do great to see it up there along with the 12 grizzlies, 8 moose, 15 wolves, 7 black bears and more.

 

Sep 15, 2019 07:28 AM #27
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Wow...such an emotional year I'm sure. All those firsts can be so painful. 

The HOPE acronym is beautiful and will help many people.

Sep 15, 2019 07:58 AM #28
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This is such a helpful post, you guys are so considerate and thoughtful. Whilst going through your own grieving you still think of others and how you can possibly help them as well. Not surprising as you so often post helpful posts full of useful information. May this coming year be easier, and one filled with good memories. Love your image of the bell, makes me think how those types of bells sound and how they last.....

Sep 16, 2019 05:48 AM #29
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I just had a conversation, not 5 minutes ago, with someone about not being stoic through it all, Debb. I really believe that when you're a naturally happy person, it's incredibly difficult to share your sadness. As you said though, it's good to express those feelings. Sometimes it's as simple as pinpointing that one person who 'gets' you, that you can share with.

And, how wonderful of Hospice - I had no idea they did that and boy, what a wonderful thing to offer patient's families. 

Sep 16, 2019 12:12 PM #30
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Debb, that first year anniversary is the hardest, and so sorry!    The full moon over the Atlantic was gorgeous!  

Sep 17, 2019 07:00 AM #31
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - I'd like to think your dad gave you a year to give both of you "elbow room for the soul." There is no doubt in my mind that he loved living with you these past few years and to all of us, it is consoling that you continue to care for your mom and each other. 

On the night of the full moon, I drove back to my hotel from Kat Palmiotti place in Montana. I don't know if I could have had a better viewing of the moon if I was in Texas. Being out west in your corner of the world is really exciting and very special too. 

Your video always ignites my soul and reminds me how much better life is living in nature. It's what I always gravitated towards and why I take vacations! 

Sep 17, 2019 10:15 AM #32
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - Hospice was new and just getting implemented in my area when I got the news about my spouse during the month of September. This time of the year has many holidays and triggers lots of memories. I'm glad to hear Hospice is so helpful today. H.O.P.E. is a beautiful acronym. May I suggest breaking the letters up, such as H for now, the first anniversary, O for Halloween, P for Christmas, and E for New Year's Eve/Day. 

Personally, the letter P was hardest on my children and me. Debb, that's when I decided to be daring and plan something different for Christmas. It was more intimate and meaningful for us. But I know you will always figure things out and you're a very thoughtful, compassionate, and caring woman. Peace be with you.  

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