It’s Friday the 13th. Tonight, a full moon should light up the night sky. The first full moon in a number of years to shine on this particular date.
Today also marks the one-year anniversary of losing dad. Earlier this week, the hospice organization, who helped us care for dad in the months before he died, hosted a memorial service for patients who passed last September. Bernie, mom and, I were the only people who attended. It as a lovely service and we left with full hearts.
We think this year will be a bit easier, as we have all of the “firsts” under our belts. However, the hospice folks gave us a handy tool and acronym, “HOPE.” For anyone else going through a grief process, here is how it works.
H – Honor your loved one frequently. Keep them alive in your heart and your thoughts.
O – Own your emotions. Tears or sadness are part of a process. Stoicism is not necessarily a sign of strength.
P – Prepare and plan. If you know something might be difficult, plan in advance how to make it easier. ( This is something we do for mom.)
E – Express. Find healthy ways to express your emotions. Play music, write in a journal, go for a run, do some yoga, cook a favorite dish. Regardless of how you do it, expression is a healthy way to manage feelings.
It’s Friday the 13th with a full moon in the night sky, we think it’s another wonderful day to honor dad's memory.