Motivational Monday - Happiness Is…

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Motivational Monday - Happiness Is…


How many times have we asked or been asked, “Does he (or she) make you happy? 


Motivational Monday - Happiness Is...


If someone else has the capability to make you feel happy, then that person may also make you feel sad…right? Well, believe it or not, this is a common misconception about human psychology. 


The use of phrases like, “You make me happy!” are certainly very colorful but, they imply that the responsibility for your own happiness lies outside of you - in the hands of others. Your mental state should never be controlled by another person’s actions.  


The truth is, people or things cannot cause happiness at all.


Choose HappinessIt’s what your thoughts are about the person and the things that they say and/or do that determines whether you feel happy (or sad). Your thoughts — not external events, the presence or absence of material objects, or other people — create your feelings.


REMEMBER: No one can make you feel anything. Your feelings are your own. Therefore, the only person who has the power to make that distinction is the person who owns the feelings — you. 


The good news is that we are never too old to accept this truth and dig deep within to seek our own happiness. Stop waiting for circumstances to change — do something about it — yourself!


No matter what life brings, you are, and always will be, in control of your own happiness.


© Debe Maxwell | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | | Motivational Monday - Happiness Is…

Comments (36)

Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

I've seen some that have yet to learn those lessons too, Sharon Lee! 😉 

Sep 16, 2019 07:44 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

It takes about 1/2 second, doesn't it, Candice A. Donofrio?! I think those who don't even try confuse me the most. Who doesn't want positivity, peace and happiness? It's a mystery to me!

Sep 16, 2019 07:48 PM
Marte Cliff

I have known several who apparently were only happy when they could wallow in their misery. It's not something I can comprehend.

Sep 18, 2019 12:52 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Happiness definitely has to experience birth from inside ourselves first!  Otherwise external things won't have that much impact on our joy!

Sep 16, 2019 07:58 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Debe, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Sep 16, 2019 08:00 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

That's a great point, Myrl Jeffcoat! And, thank you so much for featuring this old fart in your group! 😘 

Sep 16, 2019 08:45 PM
L. Scott Ferguson
Ask4Ferguson - Your House-SOLD Name in Real Estate - West Palm Beach, FL
Sunny Florida Real Estate Professional

Deb!  Love this.  If there is ONE choice I make every day is to be happy and the 2nd that is a standard for me and that I instill in my team is to be in the service of others which makes my number ONE even more automatic!



Sep 17, 2019 05:22 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

I love this post Debe Maxwell, CRS, our happiness doesn't depend on others. We can choose to be happy each and every day regardless of our circumstances.


Sep 17, 2019 05:26 AM
Donna Quinlan
Keller Williams Realty - Newburyport, MA
Keller Williams Realtor & Career Consultant

Great post! Happiness comes from within. It it feels a whole lot better than when it depends on someone else.

Sep 17, 2019 05:45 AM
faye schubert
Branson, MO
Living the Branson Lake Life

Happiness comes from within. Saying is so true. Unhappy people stay unhappy because their unhappiness is from within.

Sep 17, 2019 05:55 AM
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

Someone I knew once insisted that God promised her happiness.  She was owed happiness.  When she realized she wasn't happy, she divorced me!

Sep 17, 2019 07:33 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

That cute little dog would surely bring a smile to anyone's face!

Sep 17, 2019 07:57 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

Great post to be featured - there are days when we really have to work hard to stay happy  but I think you are getting great reports out of Colorado so you must be very happy

Sep 17, 2019 08:04 AM
Lynda White
Bluegrass Homes & Farms Realty, Agent Know How - Louisville, KY
Admin. Mgr., Keller Williams Realty

You can't make anyone like you; you just have to like yourself and the rest comes naturally. Also, not everyone is going to like you and that's okay. That's why it has to be an inside job, like you said. 

Sep 17, 2019 10:51 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Happy Monday! Happiness is an inside job. Although I do say others make me happy, it's not just habit-forming or words I use carelessly. When something harmonizes within me, it does make me happy. I hope that makes sense. 

If I'm not happy, or others do things that don't make me happy, how I feel is written all over my face. I try my best to be mindful of my own feelings. 

Sep 17, 2019 01:55 PM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

This is excellent advice to share. Have an outstanding week.

Sep 17, 2019 02:07 PM
Christine O'Shea
Christine E O'Shea Broker - Naples, FL

Love it, love it, love it, so very true, happiness comes from within!

Sep 17, 2019 05:58 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Debe- love the photo and love the message. We give others too much power if assign to them the ability to make us mad, sad, happy or whatever. If we want to be happy, we have to make it happen. 

Sep 17, 2019 06:30 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

I love your message and completely agree - no one can make you unhappy, so please don't give me that excuse. On the other hand, some sure can try your patience!

Love the photo too - looks a lot like my Katie Baby.

Sep 18, 2019 12:54 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Hi Debe Maxwell, CRS love love love your post!  Happiness is an inside job and one can truly be happy every day - it's all choice! Chose thoughts wisely!

Sep 18, 2019 01:42 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Love this post, Debe. I like being responsible for my own happiness!


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