WHY DO I HAVE TO CHANGE?

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Although leaders will agree that change is necessary, they may need to become more aware of how they themselves need to change. If they want people to take ownership and initiative, then they must relinquish some degree of control.

What we did to get to where we are today will not get us where you want to go tomorrow.   Who are our customers and what business are we in? If we want to continue hold onto our customers and market share, we must adapt to changing times. And if we want to move forward, we need to anticipate and get ahead of change.

Why do people resist change? Why do people continue to do the same things although they are no longer getting the results they once achieved?

Understanding the reasons people resist change can help overcome the obstacles to change and create real progress. So here are four reasons why people resist change and stay in the safe comfort zone or the status quo.

The first is FEAR. Fear is internal; it’s in our head. Fear is the great crippler of human potential. There’s also an acronym that uses the letters F, E, A, and R that defines what fear is.

  •  F – false
  •  E – emotions
  •  A – appearing
  •  R – real

The second reason people resist change is because of EGO. The need to be right is a powerful human need. It’s a common problem with leaders, managers, and business owners. When was the last time you have heard someone so, “Well this is the way we have always done it”

The third reason why people resist change is to avoid CONFLICT. When you try to leave all the people back in their comfort zone called the “Land of Status Quo,” you’ll create and get some conflict. It’s not comfortable and it is not fun, so many people just avoid it all together.

The fourth reason that people resist change is LACK OF PURPOSE. Without a sense of purpose, people become stagnant and complacent. People get burnt out.

As a leader of yourself and others, you will need to overcome your own fear and help others overcome theirs by helping them change their mental attitudes that hold them back. You also have to make sure that your EGO doesn’t get in the way.

By being open to new and different ways to view things, as well as being open to the feedback and insights of others, you create an atmosphere where change is not an “I’m right and your wrong” mentality.

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In the short book, “Who Moved My Cheese”, a story is told of four characters who deal with change and loss. It illustrates that change is not about knowledge and skills but attitudes and behaviors and above all, conquering our fears. In the book cheese stands for what we define as success.

Remember; keep checking the condition of your cheese. Don't wait until it disappears or gets bad. Keep searching. Success is a constant journey of change.  For a similar post on our web site see WHO REALLY LIKES TO CHANGE?

Would you like to learn how to make change work for you and your organization?

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Rainmaker
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James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
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Morning Grant.

We all have agents who fear change, pity.  Congratulations on the feature

Sep 24, 2019 12:21 AM #20
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

I am not afraid to admit i hate change, i like when things work well. But in this business you have to change and do it when needed. SO that is what i do and that keeps fear at bay. Waiting until it is too late is scrarier

Sep 24, 2019 05:26 AM #22
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Congratulations, Grant, on your feature recognition.

Thank you very much for sharing your experience and your advice.

Sep 24, 2019 05:50 AM #23
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Grant, I think many should make some changes, as their business would be better.

Sep 24, 2019 06:09 AM #24
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John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

Hi Grant, very well written, congrats.  We can conquer our fears if we can understand exactly why we are resisting something.  This is a good primer that actually is helping me TODAY to do what needs to be done!  Damn the torpedos: full speed ahead!  Thanks, sir!

Sep 24, 2019 07:17 AM #25
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Will - it is a great and easy read.

Dorie - keep the goal out there.  Thank you for the compliment.

James - yes, they are out there.

Scott - sometimes I say, who likes change and for those who raise their hands I say, Really?  Lets face it Change is not a natural state.

Laura - certainly is important to be yourself.

Roy - thank you.

Joan - and it usually happens when they do that.

John - thank you so much Sir.  Full speed ahead.

 

Sep 24, 2019 08:00 AM #26
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

We had a fear of changing brokers without realizing it was fear, the rewards of overcoming them have been HUGE 

 

 

 

 

 

Sep 24, 2019 09:05 AM #27
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Sally and David -  for sure.  That happens so many times.  Then the question is why did we wait?

Sep 24, 2019 10:35 AM #28
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Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Vision Quest Realty - Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

I love the acronym using the letter of FEAR .... False Evidence Appearing Real. 

Sep 24, 2019 11:41 AM #29
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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I knew about that acronym, but had not seen it for a while. Fear is paralyzing for so many. And I agree with Dorie's comment, you are the best.  D

Sep 24, 2019 12:05 PM #30
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Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Grant- another worthy motivational post. Change is difficult for most people. As it pertains to our goals, if it is moving away from us or in a direction we want, it may be time to reassess our goals and our actions. 

Sep 24, 2019 03:00 PM #31
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Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

I find that 'Change is always hard' and some of the reasons  are simply because we like  to be in our comfort zone.....getting out of our comfort zone translates to change.... anyway I have to keep telling inner self that "change is good". Great and timeless post Grant.

Sep 24, 2019 07:18 PM #32
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
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Changes in our business....hard to keep up!  I think of the many changes I have gone through just starting 16 years ago. Yet ever time I read AR posts, seems there is some other technology I should be aware of and change with the times!

Sep 25, 2019 08:16 AM #33
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Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

People have a tendency to be "comfortable" in their uncomfortableness.

Change means doing something differently --- the unknown -- FEAR is afraid of Fear.

Great FEATURE!

Sep 25, 2019 08:25 AM #34
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Rebecca - the operational word is appear.  It is in the mind.

Debb and Bernie -  Debb thank you very much.

Kathy - yes, you make a good point.

Endre - the rut or the comfort zone makes change so hard.

Mary - the technology is always changing.

Diana - yes that is right.

Sep 25, 2019 09:19 AM #35
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, GRI, WLS
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Hi Grant Schneider excellent post on change and leadership! Years ago I was part of a long standing leadership seminar. This post is pretty much spot on with what we taught. In particular we grew a lot of leaders in getting past their egos and their need to be right. It was always so great when they had a 'light bulb' moment and got it - particularily the guys.  Many of us, to this say - Nope not my day to be right! My days is XXXXX!  Joking and smiling of course. The other thing we concentrated on -  fear is the oppostite of excitment! And boy did we create a lot of fear and excitement on the high ropes courses!! Fun!!

Sep 25, 2019 03:13 PM #36
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Sham Reddy CRS
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How inspirational....

Remember; keep checking the condition of your cheese. Don't wait until it disappears or gets bad. Keep searching. Success is a constant journey of change.

Sep 26, 2019 04:23 AM #37
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Grant Schneider
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Anna Banana Kruchten - Phoenix Homes Sales -  we accomplish so much when we get together and talk it out.  I am sure there were great results.

Sham - thanks.

Sep 26, 2019 09:41 AM #38
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Robin Wells
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Thanks for post.  Change is difficult for many.  We get set in our ways and like the easy and known path.  I have read the book "Who Moved My Cheese" - many years ago (perhaps 20 years ago).. and great read.  Change is important and necessary - but do the right change(s).

Sep 28, 2019 03:47 AM #39
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Happy to see this in Carol Williams Second Chance Saturday... I commented before, but am pleased to come back to day "great job," once more.  

Sep 28, 2019 09:07 AM #40
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