5 Signs your relationship won’t last

Industry Observer with Justine Mfulama

Whether you found this article by chance or actively looked for it, if you felt the need to open this post it means you are questioning your current relationship. And I know very well how that feels. That’s why today I’m sharing with you the 5 signs your relationship won’t last. 


There are many things we can assume lead to the fall of a relationship, but there are only a few things that can predict that a relationship won’t last.


1. The love is one-sided

Being in love with someone that does not love you back sucks, especially if you are already in a committed relationship. 


While there are ways to avoid finding yourself in that situation all-together, every human being has different expectations from a love relationship and therefore it’s easy to fall for someone that we ‘think’ loves us. 


However, if your partner does not respect you, is cold towards you, is not interested in you as a person and doesn’t show affection, then it’s pretty clear that he does not love you. Once that’s the case the relationship won’t last because you will either start to resent him or he will leave you because he has met someone he truly loves. 


2. He does not want to commit

This sign that your relationship won’t last, is pretty self-explanatory if you ask me. But it is worth repeating and clarifying again. 


There are multiple reasons why a guy may not want to commit. Some of these reasons are good reasons and some of those are bad reasons. Fact is that if he repeatedly tells you he is not ready or willing to commit to you that the relationship won’t last. And no begging, pleading or convincing will help. Especially if you deep down desire to be married. Your different viewpoints on the topic will ultimately lead to friction and frustration for both of you and end in a painful breakup. 


3. You are unequally yoked

Compatibility is the most important ingredient to make a relationship work. And I’m not talking about looks, height or income. I mean your values, faith, outlook on life, and chemistry. 


Do you get along and like each other? A good indicator that your relationship won’t last is if the two of you are not on the same page when it comes to the way you want to live your life. If you and your boyfriend have fundamentally different ideas of how you want to raise your children or interact with each other’s families, then your relationship won’t stand the test of time. 


4. The relationship is toxic

Leaving a relationship can be scary, but staying in a toxic relationship is even scarier. In a toxic relationship, one person will use different types of manipulation or abuse to induce thoughts and feelings of powerlessness, fear, and shame. And while you might want to stay in the relationship, because you hope you can change your partner, it’s not healthy for you or him. The relationship ultimately won’t last, because it will affect your emotional and mental well-being. 


5. You expect him to be your source of happiness

Don’t get me wrong, a relationship should to a certain degree make you happy and add joy to your life. 


However, your boyfriend, fiancé, or husband is not responsible for your happiness. That is solely your responsibility. If you put your partner in a position where everything he does has a direct effect on your mood or sense of joy you are setting yourself up for disappointment. 


Therefore, instead of expecting him to be the sun your life evolves around, be the master of your own happiness and allow him to simply be the icing on the cake. 


As you can see theses are only 5 of the reasons why your relationship might end worth identifying and should serve as a good indicator that it’s time to work on your relationship. 

Comments (3)

Gwen Fowler-864-638-3599 SC Mountains Lakes Homes
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Salem, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

Happiness comes from within.  If you are not happy with yourself no one can make you happy.  Great article.

Nov 04, 2019 12:39 PM
John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service

Justine Mfulama very good report for a relationship won't last.

Nov 04, 2019 03:27 PM
Krystin Mitchell, CPA CFE
KLSM CPA Firm, PLLC - Houston, TX
Strategic Accounting & Tax Solutions

Hi Justine - Thanks for sharing this great list of considerations. 

Nov 05, 2019 11:50 AM