Thankful for the Choice I Made

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Real Estate Agent with Falcon Property Solutions

Always thankful for my eldest

Many years ago when I started in ActiveRain I shared this story in a longer version. It shaped my life. As we enter this Season of Thankfulness, I couldn't let it pass without knowing that the choice I made as a scared young woman is one of the greatest blessings of my life.

 

The year was 1974. I was a 21 year old college student at the University of Colorado. Young, naive, hopeful for life. In the early part of the year I was brutally attacked, which sent my life into a tailspin. A few weeks later, having lost my purpose and self-worth, I ended my engagement and planned a European trip with my best friend for the fall. 

 

Shortly before we were to leave for Europe, I found myself with an unwanted pregnancy. My family was religious. Abortion was an abhorent word in our household, but Boulder was one of the few places it was legal, and there was a clinic on campus. I made an appointment so I could keep my "sin" secret. 

 

As I sat alone that October day, I looked at the girls around me, girls with their mothers laughing and planning . . . planning their lives for after they rid themselves of their "product of conception." I was so lost as girl after girl was called back, as though they were trying on clothes and not making a life-altering decision. 

 

Finally it was my turn. I stood at the counter to pay to hide my transgression and I wondered what in the world I was thinking? Without a word, I put my money in my wallet, put on my coat, and walked into the crisp autumn air with a new purpose . . . to protect the tiny life I was carrying.

 

I found the nearest payphone and called the baby's father, who desperately wanted to get married. We needed to talk. I called my mother (one of the hardest calls I've ever made) but knew with that call my baby's life would be protected. I never looked back.

 

Betsy is in her mid-40s now. She lives near me and I adore her. She is a daily joy. She was the first of many children and grandchildren. We are always faced with choices. Some have bigger consequences than others. I will never judge anyone who made a decision different than mine, but for me, there has never been a day I have not been thankful for the choice I made that fateful day.

 

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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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Hi Mimi, I do remember this story, and thank you again for sharing it with us. I'm sure Betsy is a huge source of joy, as are all of your beautiful daughters. And yes, I love Michael Jacobs comment. 

Nov 23, 2019 07:13 AM #3
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
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Mimi,

What a story you told us!  And what a beautiful picture of  your family. That is an abundance to be thankful for. A

Nov 23, 2019 07:29 AM #4
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Barbara Todaro
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Good morning, Mimi Foster I never previously read this story.... you have a beautiful family and you were Blessed.... God is always there for guidance and to take care of us.... hugs to you.

Nov 23, 2019 07:41 AM #5
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Hi Mimi,

Thanks for sharing your story!  I missed it before. Wonderful slideshow.  I'm sure you can't even imagine life without her. I'm glad you were inspired to walk out of there that day!

Nov 23, 2019 08:13 AM #6
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Good afternoon Mimi. I never read this story before. You were brave and made a good decesion and are enjoying it still. Is the video your family too?

Nov 23, 2019 10:30 AM #7
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HI Mimi I haven't heard your story before. You had a lot going on that year and the  situations and decisions you faced were huge. I'm so glad you turned around, made a choice and now, after all these years are able to share the blessings of your beautiful daughter Betsy and your whole family! This is a story that needs to be shared even more so today.

Nov 23, 2019 02:12 PM #8
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Mimi- I too remember your story but I'm also glad that you shared it again. As someone who tried and was not fortunate, I consider you very blessed. I can't imagine how hard it was for you to make the decision you did but it was yours and that's what's important. Loved the video and you have beautiful daughters. 

Nov 23, 2019 05:38 PM #9
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I am glad of the choice you made though I would not force a woman to carry a unwanted child.

Nov 23, 2019 07:17 PM #10
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Mimi Foster Beautiful story that I had not heard. Thanks for sharing the happiness of your life...great video!

Nov 23, 2019 10:43 PM #11
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Good morning, Mimi... I had not heard your story before. I had tears in my eyes all the way through reading your post... you made a courageous decision and one that paid off with the joy of your life with your daughter, Betsy. It's not a story I will ever forget.

Nov 24, 2019 04:17 AM #12
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I not only remember the story but remain in awe of some of the things people share about themselves.  But, like before, you will ever be grateful for the choice made.  Fewer and fewer are making that same decision in favor of their "own" person and life.

Nov 24, 2019 04:29 AM #13
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Jay Markanich
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"Ours..."  Exactly!  Hence my quote around the word "own" in my previous comment.  In my view, those mothers you heard who were excitedly planning the lives of their children following their decision was, in my opinion, cold at best. 

I use the word "decision" to be kind, but really it is far more than a decision.

Good for you.  Smooch on facial cheek. 

Nov 24, 2019 06:00 AM #14
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I am so glad that you made that choice, life is a wonderful thing and it doesn't always come about in a manner that is planned, but it is still wonderful none the less.

Nov 24, 2019 06:05 AM #15
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Kat Palmiotti
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A decision was made years ago that has brought a lifetime of joy. How beautiful.

Nov 24, 2019 08:02 AM #16
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Mimi, thankf you for sharing with us your story.  It is so wonderful of the joy in your life now.  

Nov 24, 2019 11:28 AM #17
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Oh, I do remember this story but, you know it made my heart swell all over again, Mimi! 

I have to say that I love, love, love the video. While I have a small family, I have a very large group of friends who act like your daughters when we're together! We sing and dance and laugh...yes, while we're drinking wine too! LOL

8 of them whisked me off to the beach when Ray was in Denver to celebrate my birthday. (Ray planned this with my BFF). Anyway, I was hoarse by the time we got home from a week of singing!! 

Anyway, great story and it really does say so very much about you, which we all knew already. You were even able to make the right decision when you were just a young girl yourself. 

Nov 24, 2019 11:14 PM #18
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Howdy Mimi Foster thanks to Brian England I found your blog post and wanted to stop by and say thanks for telling your story. May you and your beautiful family have a blessed safe Thanksgiving week.

Nov 25, 2019 03:06 AM #19
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Something things are unforettable. I remember this story. It tugged on my heartstrings then and does now. It takes a lot of courage to do the right thing and nobody knows what you went through except you. I'm glad you're all together and that love continues to grow for each and everyone of you. Happy Thanksgiving - you have a lot to be thankful for. 

Nov 25, 2019 12:31 PM #20
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Wonderful story.

Nov 26, 2019 06:47 AM #21
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I think if you know somebody who wants to care for a child who is close to you you can trust, that is much better than adoption. You made a good choice and look how great it turned out! :) I’m not knocking ladoption either, being that I was adopted myself. :) Blessing and love and light to you and Betsy!

Nov 26, 2019 09:59 PM #22
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