Thankful For My Soul Mate

By
Education & Training with Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.


"Happiness is being married to your best friend." 

Not everyone has the good fortune to meet and marry their soul mate.  I am one of the fortunate ones.  Even though my husband Max passed over the veil 8 1/2 years ago, I still feel blessed every day to have spent 28 years on Earth as his wife.  I still consider myself married so the years keep piling up.

When I was in my mid 20's I was told I would never get married because I was too picky. I thought that was an odd thing to say because I considered marriage a very important commitment and being picky was a good thing.

In 1983, when I was 28, I met Max in a 2-year leadership program. The program involved traveling to seminars in various parts of the state of Washington once a month over the two years. After meeting during the first seminar, we decided to carpool to future meetings. The seminars were usually a few hours away so we had lots of time to talk and get to know each other on a pretty deep level. After that first year, we knew we wanted to be together forever. 

Max was an agricultural research scientist. He was considered the world authority on plant growth regulators for the commercial production of apples. At Max's retirement banquet one of the speakers gave a lengthy explanation as to why Max was the Superman of agricultural research. He presented him with a Superman t-shirt.


We loved skiing together. When we were young, before his Parkinsons diagnosis, I'd pack a lunch and we'd find a rock in the sun to sit on while we enjoyed our lunch and a fabulous view of the beautiful Wenatchee Valley.

We also loved playing golf together. Max wasn't a great golfer but he sure did enjoy being out there. He had back issues and couldn't hit the ball very far but it almost ALWAYS went straight. His biggest downfall was that he was a horrible putter. He didn't care.  I always admired that he didn't have an egotistical bone in his body and could just enjoy being out there enjoying the day. We always put our clubs in the car when we traveled. Usually, when we arrived at our destination for a day, we'd find the nearest golf course, play 9 holes then go have dinner.

How many of you are old enough to remember the TV commercial for E.F. Hutton?  The tagline was "When E.F. Hutton Talks, people listen." That's how someone once described Max.  Max was basically a quiet guy who didn't talk much unless he actually had something worthwhile to say.  So, when he spoke, you wanted to listen.  He didn't like small talk.





I won't tell you we didn't have challenges. We did. Everyone does. He had 5 kids and an ex-wife. That's all I will say about that.  But, as the saying goes: "Friendship doubles our joy and divides our grief".  Max was my best friend.

Who couldn't consider themselves eternally grateful to be married to a man who's a cross between Superman and E.F. Hutton? 


I love the above picture I took in front of my garage a couple of years ago. These intertwined hearts were made by tire tracks after a skiff of snow. That's Max and Me.

* * * * *
This is my 4th entry into the November Gratitude Challenge co-hosted by Debe Maxwell, CRS and Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland


Posted by



"The best way to predict the future is to create it!"
- Peter Drucker

"Information is FREE. Knowledge, Experience & Integrity Are Priceless."

-Carol Williams

Retired: Real Estate Broker/Owner, Property Manager 
Coaching, goal setting and marketing consultant by appt.

Active: Golf & Travel Blogger
"Golf isn't a sport. It's a lifestyle."
SeniorWomenGolfers.com
TopTeamCarol@gmail.com


 

close

This entry hasn't been re-blogged:

Re-Blogged By Re-Blogged At
Topic:
Just for Fun
Groups:
Bananatude
ActiveRain Contests
Life Is Good
Old Farts Club

Spam prevention
Show All Comments
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Wayne Martin 
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family. 

Nov 27, 2019 09:46 AM #11
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Happy Thanksgiving Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 
That is quite a photo isn't it? I was amazed when I first saw it.

Nov 27, 2019 09:58 AM #12
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR 
Finding a soul mate is a special gift, indeed. I know you and Geno shared that. After my Max passed I didn't think I could ever be happy again. In the meantime, I have found comfort in knowing we are connected forever.  I hope you can find that comfort too.  Sending hugs.

Nov 27, 2019 10:02 AM #13
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Michael Jacobs 
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving! 

Nov 27, 2019 10:03 AM #14
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Alexandra
If there was ever a time in my life I was consciously content with my life, it was with Max in my life.  I know you and Ron share that too. 

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Ron and Alexandra Seigel 

Nov 27, 2019 10:05 AM #15
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Myrl Jeffcoat 
Perfectly said! 
The memories made during time with them, keeps us warm for a lifetime.

Nov 27, 2019 10:06 AM #16
Ambassador
2,911,642
Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS
Phoenix Property Shoppe - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Hi Carol.....what a lovely tribute to your husband Super Man Max! And now I know when Max spoke everyone listened! Love the way you met....couldn't be a better setting to build a strong friendship and then more! Through it all you both grew and sure seems you had a LOT of fun along the way.  Love the snow heart picture....perfect!

Nov 27, 2019 11:50 AM #17
Rainmaker
2,645,874
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

He sounds like such a wonderful man and I am sure he thought very highly of you too!

Nov 27, 2019 12:32 PM #18
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Yes, Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, GRI, WLS we were quite a pair. People used to ask us all the time how long we'd been married because we always acted like newlyweds. Corny, I know.  

Nov 27, 2019 04:17 PM #19
Rainmaker
1,368,357
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Yes, Brian England he used to tell me I'm perfect. I knew it wasn't true, of course but glad he thought I was perfect for him.

Nov 27, 2019 04:18 PM #20
Ambassador
3,444,515
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Oh, I love this post and I'm with you - marrying your soulmate is something that I think very few have the joy of ever doing, Carol. It's something that you'll never forget and will always cherish. 

Love Max's story and yes, I remember the EF Hutton commercials! He must have been a great listener!! 

And, Happy Thanksgiving to you, Carol!

Nov 28, 2019 10:04 PM #21
Ambassador
3,062,741
Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Carol Williams Being so thankful for what we had keeps the love and memories alive. Thanks for sharing.

Nov 29, 2019 07:15 PM #22
Rainmaker
383,487
M.C. Dwyer
Century 21 Showcase REALTORs - Felton, CA
MC Dwyer-Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

I'm so glad I caught your love story in the daily featured e-mail.    Yes I remember the EF Hutton commercial.    I was so picky I was about to become an old maid! - but fell in love and got married at 49, so I think it paid off being picky.   I likely would have gotten divorced from any of the others.    You just know it when someone is your soul mate and best friend for life; it's delightful to read that you still feel married to Max.

Nov 30, 2019 10:52 AM #23
Ambassador
4,069,794
Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Carol:

What a wonderful tribute to someone who was such an important and memorable part of your life. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Jeff

Nov 30, 2019 04:47 PM #24
Ambassador
3,962,999
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Carol- I arrived late but am thankful nevertheless to have read your beautiful post. I too have my soulmate so I can relate to everything you wrote. And I too remember the E.F. Hutton commercial. I can always tell when I read your posts what a beautiful marriage and Max had. 

Nov 30, 2019 05:40 PM #25
Rainmaker
2,790,870
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

My friend was saying that it’s funny how people don’t go for compatibility more in life than they do.

Dec 01, 2019 09:46 PM #26
Rainmaker
2,790,870
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Kathy Streib Better late than never and better informed than not. And you definitely found your niche! :)

Dec 01, 2019 09:48 PM #27
Rainmaker
537,707
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

What a lovely tribute!  it's a good thing you were 'picky' because you held out for 'the one'.  loved that snow photo!!!  

Dec 02, 2019 10:40 AM #28
Rainmaker
2,071,677
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Fort Worth, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

After losing my spouse at a very young age, I know without a doubt, you can't put a timeline on grief. There are so many triggers and memories and he shouldn't be forgotten. You wrote a lovely tribute to your soul mate. Holidays are always a bit challenging, no matter how much time passes. 

Dec 05, 2019 11:10 AM #29
Rainmaker
71,500
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-507-7510

Carol, thanks for sharing your beautiful tribute to Max.  I'm sure he is beaming with pride as you wrote, and loved hearing every accolade.  Great story, so many years to be thankful for and the bond endures.

Dec 08, 2019 07:22 PM #30
Show All Comments

What's the reason you're reporting this blog entry?

Are you sure you want to report this blog entry as spam?

Rainmaker
1,368,357

Carol Williams

Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager
Ask Me a Question
*
*
*
*
Spam prevention

Additional Information