Please compliment out loud. It's powerful and will lead to smiles.

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Real Estate Agent with Thompson Company, REALTORS® MD594797

Last week, I had one of those days. You know the kind... when you perfect the art of juggling it all, when your to-do list seems to get longer by the hour, and the best laid plans go awry. I was out and about, running errands, Christmas shopping, thinking about business, friends and family, the sad times some are going through, and how I can possibly make a difference, when I walked into the Hair Affair in Ellicott City. 

*At this point I have to shout-out to my favorite hairdresser, the fabulous Michele! I've been going to Michele for a few years now, after my previous hair dresser took it upon herself to chop off my hair. True story. Michele was recommended to me, and has taken great care of me, and my children, ever since. She makes you feel welcome. She listens. She cares. And you get a moment to breathe, to pause, to let that to-do list be - and your hair will feel and look gorgeous, too! If you need a stylist in Ellicott City, please call Michele at the Hair Affair.* 

Spread love, and light. I had almost canceled my appointment with Michele because of everything that needed my time and attention that day, but I am so glad I didn't. With a million things running through my mind, and my eyes glued to my phone scanning through my in-box, I walked into the salon and the first thing I hear is, I love your boots! It took a moment until it registered that these were my boots that were being admired. And it didn't stop there... I received many more compliments while I was at the Hair Affair, and each one had an impact. It made me feel good. It made me smile. 

Now neither my boots, my purse, nor my scarf were anything special, but that is not the point. The point is that in those moments as I am mentally going through a check-list, as I am thinking about a million things but the present moment, these compliments made me pause. They made me appreciate the stranger who took the time to tell me instead of just silently thinking the thought. They made me focus on the moment instead of worrying about the day ahead. These compliments were random, but genuine, and that is what makes them so powerful! 

I walked out of the salon smiling, ready to tackle the rest of my day and to-do list - and with fabulous looking hair, too! 

The point is, you never know what somebody's day is like, what news the stranger in line ahead of you just received, the worries on peoples' minds. A simple but genuine compliment can have a big impact. It can make a moment, or a day. It can lighten the load for a second. It can lead to smiles. 

So I am going to make a conscious effort to be more present, to be more generous with the compliments I hand out, to not only notice things but to point them out. Please join me! Let's not just silently admire an outfit, hair-do, accessory, smile, color, shoes, purse, car, laugh, ... but compliment out loud. It's powerful and will lead to smiles. 

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Andrea is a REALTOR® based in Silver Spring, MD, who has enjoyed assisting buyers and sellers in Montgomery and Howard County, MD (and beyond) for 15+ years now. She always answers the phone with a smile, enjoys running, hiking, and treasure hunting, and is very much addicted to coffee. 

 

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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
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Good Morning Andrea Bedard 

Giving a compliment is easy to do and many times we get so engrossed in life we forget. Have a Blessed Holiday Season and Merry Christmas

Dec 16, 2019 09:03 AM #2
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Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® - Silver Spring, MD
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Sam, she is! I was referred to her by a past client turned friend... word of mouth/personal referrals are the most powerful. 

Dec 16, 2019 09:40 AM #3
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Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® - Silver Spring, MD
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That is so true Doug Dawes, that is why I want to make an effort to notice more, and to compliment out loud. Merry Christmas!

Dec 16, 2019 09:41 AM #4
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Li Read
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Terrific post...and a great reminder to all of us to remember to "acknowledge".

Dec 16, 2019 10:05 AM #5
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Barbara Todaro
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Hi Andrea Bedard everyone love a compliment.....and let me compliment YOU on that post.... it's a great reminder to all to celebrate the Christmas Holiday by complimenting others.... a smile and compliment go a long way.

Dec 16, 2019 10:20 AM #6
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Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
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I have voiced my compliments of others out loud for years.  It is nice to be able to make someone's day.

Dec 16, 2019 02:44 PM #7
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Grant Schneider
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Good evening Andrea Bedard - a sincere compliment has a positive effect.  We feel great when it happens to us and we should do it for others.

Dec 16, 2019 03:01 PM #8
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Kathy Streib
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Andrea- I love this post and the message for all of us to remember.  A compliment is a wonderful gift to give someone. It costs us nothing but a few seconds of our time and we never know what impact it could have on the recipient. 

Dec 16, 2019 08:23 PM #9
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Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® - Silver Spring, MD
M.A.; REALTOR® Silver Spring, MD and beyond

Thank you all for your beautiful comments! It will take me a bit to respond/visit you as I am travelling at the moment, but I'll stop by as soon as I can. 

Dec 16, 2019 10:37 PM #10
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Michael Jacobs
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Hello Andrea - a good message anytime of the year but especially this time when life can become too rushed, too complicated and sometime just too "too".  

Carol Williams - I think this post would be a good candidate for SCS Second Chance Saturday.  A n excellent reminder.  

Dec 17, 2019 05:10 AM #11
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Carol Williams
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Hi Andrea

What a wonderful message.

We're all busy and get caught up in the hustle-bustle of life, don't we? Sometimes just looking a stranger in the eyes, smiling and saying hi can lighten their day.

Dec 17, 2019 06:31 AM #12
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Kat Palmiotti
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You are absolutely right. Giving and getting compliments from people you don't know is always rewarding. Thank you for the reminder. 

Dec 21, 2019 05:06 AM #13
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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Hi Andrea:

Nice shout-out to Michele - no doubt it is well appreciated. The story you recounted is a great example of the power of being kind and sharing a compliment! It feels good to both the giver and the recipient!

Jeff

Dec 21, 2019 10:01 AM #14
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Kathy Streib
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                                            Thank you Andrea. 

Dec 21, 2019 06:27 PM #15
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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Good for Michelle. And I'm happy you didn't cancel that appointment. Getting in the habit of looking for things to make people feel good is so worthwhile. And it is so easy to find something nice to say about nearly everyone.  I LOVE this post, Andrea. 

Dec 22, 2019 07:55 AM #16
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Candice A. Donofrio
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Magic! You can literally SEE the vibes raise when you compliment a stranger. It's a daily thing for me . . . I want joyful and like you said, folks walk the earth with lots of 'mind' . . . we all want love and acknowledgement and the occasional distraction from all those racing thoughts.

Dec 22, 2019 07:57 AM #17
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Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® - Silver Spring, MD
M.A.; REALTOR® Silver Spring, MD and beyond

I so appreciate all your comments, and the feature in your weekly highlights Kathy Streib!

That day at the Hair Affair just really stuck with me.. I wondered how often do I just think to myself oh, I love her purse or shoes or hair or smile or .. but I don't actually say it out loud because I'm preoccupied with other things? Complimenting out loud is such a small gesture with a big impact.

I'll be making it one of my goals for 2020 to not just quietly notice but to compliment out loud.   

Happy Holidays! 

I love that you took the time to read. I love your thoughtful comments. And I love seeing your beautiful smiles on my blog !

Dec 22, 2019 01:08 PM #18
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Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
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The smallest of compliments can really change the course of your day. I try to compliment whenever possible to strangers. It makes me feel so good to see their face light up.

Dec 24, 2019 07:23 AM #19
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This post is so you Andrea Bedard Always bringing out the best in others.  Merry Christmas to you, my friend, and your beautiful girls!

Dec 25, 2019 12:47 AM #20
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Dana Basiliere
Rossi & Riina Real Estate - Williston, VT
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I give compliments out almost to a fault. I must confess that I take pleasure in it.  I give them out only when they are true. Sometimes you need to look twice or three times to see what you can compliment on however there is always something. As in your case it started with the boots.  It can be the hair, freshly coiffed beard, nice glasses or pretty eyes. The response is always a smile and thank you.  It makes both people feel good and it is easy.  

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