All of the life experience remains personal and subjective. What I like you may not and if I am cold you may be warm. How then can we argue what we are sharing? In the world of personal truths all are correct unto themselves. Its when others get involved compromise and perhaps perspectives change the dynamics. Lets take customer service for an example
THE CUSTOMER ISN'T ALWAYS RIGHT BUT THEY ARE NEVER WRONG
I discovered this decades ago and it has served me well. Consider that you can find and critique anyone about anything but then ask yourself where is this going & why? In the realm of business where dollars and cents (sense) rule how many arguments would you like to get into with customers, consumers or clients?
HOW TO DISAGREE
This is an art when you take the time to assess it. The reaction to something you don't like is the culprit. The focus word is "reaction"! Reaction is a direct assault on your objectivity wanting to knock you right out of your observation arena. The only remedy is to come back to your center, summon your senses & hold
APPROACH IS KEY
How can you make a point or help a person or move a subject along when parties to the event are unreasonable, emotional & argumentative? YOU CAN'T! First order of business assuming you must take this on would be: help people to calm down, switch to hearing mode & give assurances for an outcome
WHAT'S GOING ON?
What a simple powerful statement designed to summon truth in the midst of the storm at hand. The parties are fighting for footing, advantage and a specific outcome believing that aggression wins the day by holding out instead of compromise. The tangled web that was weaved has to be sorted out.
It is not realistic to always want to win unless you are playing against yourself. Then, it is okay. Have at it. But when others are involved, you come up against your like kind wanting to win too. What to do? Is there enough for everyone to come out here? If so that is one approach. If not, we explore it to an ending scenario
IF IT S YOU or ME?
Depends on the parties involved. Often the underdog wins the day and not because they have a better cause but perhaps they move peoples hearts. Furthermore some people cannot afford to lose but are forced into a all or nothing situation. Giving them the benefit of the doubt is an option. How bad do we want to win?
WINNING AT ALL COSTS?
Imagine a situation where there are no rules and the ends justify any means to get there. The result would be no one would be left standing or around to enjoy any outcome. Civil war proves that. Divorce proves it too! It never occurs to people who are in the fight that there are many ways to win besides mutual destruction
THE ETERNAL TRUTH
This is the one we must pursue, honor and put first especially when things get dicey. The ones who love justice, fairness and righteousness know no other way and stay in this truth mode. You see this truth rewards everyone by giving all exactly what they deserve. In this realm there are no losers because even the correction heals, teaches and releases those bound to begin again and in most cases with a reward too
RIGHT & WRONG?
What a deceptive arena at times this subjective and emotional place of being is. Unfortunately people enter into this one because it is the way of the world, vanity and gives instant results. It exacts a price deeper than what is at stake. The true win is not to enter into dispute but to resolve it. That's where the work is and the reward too for those that pursue it.
Poverty of spirit is no myth but a thorn in the soul of the tragic captive