YOU'RE RIGHT EVEN WHEN WRONG? (spiritual theme)

Real Estate Broker/Owner with people first...then business Ran Right Realty 636943 licensed to thrill

All of the life experience remains personal and subjective. What I like you may not and if I am cold you may be warm. How then can we argue what we are sharing? In the world of personal truths all are correct unto themselves. Its when others get involved compromise and perhaps perspectives change the dynamics. Lets take customer service for an example


I discovered this decades ago and it has served me well. Consider that you can find and critique anyone about anything but then ask yourself where is this going & why? In the realm of business where dollars and cents (sense) rule how many arguments would you like to get into with customers, consumers or clients?


This is an art when you take the time to assess it. The reaction to something you don't like is the culprit. The focus word is "reaction"! Reaction is a direct assault on your objectivity wanting to knock you right out of your observation arena. The only remedy is to come back to your center, summon your senses & hold


How can you make a point or help a person or move a subject along when parties to the event are unreasonable, emotional & argumentative? YOU CAN'T! First order of business assuming you must take this on would be: help people to calm down, switch to hearing mode & give assurances for an outcome


What a simple powerful statement designed to summon truth in the midst of the storm at hand. The parties are fighting for footing, advantage and a specific outcome believing that aggression wins the day by holding out instead of compromise. The tangled web that was weaved has to be sorted out. 


It is not realistic to always want to win unless you are playing against yourself. Then, it is okay. Have at it. But when others are involved, you come up against your like kind wanting to win too. What to do? Is there enough for everyone to come out here? If so that is one approach. If not, we explore it to an ending scenario


Depends on the parties involved. Often the underdog wins the day and not because they have a better cause but perhaps they move peoples hearts. Furthermore some people cannot afford to lose but are forced into a all or nothing situation. Giving them the benefit of the doubt is an option. How bad do we want to win?


Imagine a situation where there are no rules and the ends justify any means to get there. The result would be no one would be left standing or around to enjoy any outcome. Civil war proves that. Divorce proves it too! It never occurs to people who are in the fight that there are many ways to win besides mutual destruction


This is the one we must pursue, honor and put first especially when things get dicey. The ones who love justice, fairness and righteousness know no other way and stay in this truth mode. You see this truth rewards everyone by giving all exactly what they deserve. In this realm there are no losers because even the correction heals, teaches and releases those bound to begin again and in most cases with a reward too


What a deceptive arena at times this subjective and emotional place of being is. Unfortunately people enter into this one because it is the way of the world, vanity and gives instant results. It exacts a price deeper than what is at stake. The true win is not to enter into dispute but to resolve it. That's where the work is and the reward too for those that pursue it. 

Poverty of spirit is no myth but a thorn in the soul of the tragic captive

Comments (22)

MichelleCherie Carr Crowe Just Call...408-252-8900
Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! . DRE #00901962 . Licensed to Sell since 1985 . Altas Realty - San Jose, CA
Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years

I agree with this one...



Jan 04, 2020 05:19 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Richie - another thought provoking post.  Win at all costs isn't always what it's cracked up to be. And one of the most difficult things for any person is to be able to stay quiet even when they know they are right. 

Jan 04, 2020 05:48 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Jan 04, 2020 06:40 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Hello MichelleCherie Carr Crowe Just Call...408-252-8900 ...there is gold there

Hello Kathy Streib #1....yes to your meaningful point & #2: See you at Kathy's Korner

Jan 04, 2020 07:40 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Richie.

I like it, who wouldn't?  In any respect the way I look at a problem and my decisions are always right.  If one looks at a problem, the decision they take is the right one for them. It may not work in the long run, but for the moment they are right

Jan 05, 2020 01:39 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Richie - perspective obviously has a place here as well as a way of life that is open to different things - truly open... 

Jan 05, 2020 05:58 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Hello James Dray thing we know with decisions: they feedback afterwards

Hello Michael Jacobs ...your emphasis on "truly open" is the primary key

Jan 05, 2020 06:15 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Richie Alan Naggar - what is the definition of winning?  Is it mutual destruction of the other?  How about putting together a win-win.  That involves mutual consensus building.

Jan 05, 2020 07:25 AM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

The greatest feeling is knowing that you can remain in neutral and observe when people around you are melting down. Sometimes the best way to help is to walk away - at least for a time - until the emotional pain dissipates.  In my opinion, there is always some source of pain behind an outburst or aggressive argument. As for a civil disagreement, it's nice to learn another perspective - even if we don't agree.  Open hearts, open minds. 

Jan 05, 2020 07:53 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Hello Grant Schneider ...nicely shared and relevant to a healthy being & result

Hello Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD ...ponder food in your commenting thank you

Jan 05, 2020 11:14 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I do enjoy seeing different perspectives and coming to my own conclusions.  I always think of myself has a winner Richie Alan Naggar 

Jan 05, 2020 01:25 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS ...there is no one to argue different except a closed mind and selfish heart. In the absence of those win Paul

Jan 05, 2020 03:18 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Richie I should print this post out and hold it in my hand every time I get a call where the Inquirer is Wrong:) I mean  when they are NOT Right:)Endre

Jan 05, 2020 11:19 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Endre Barath, Jr. ...this approach of yours would work everywhere except in marriage counseling

Jan 06, 2020 06:55 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Richie Alan Naggar ,

I'm playing catch up and started with Kathy Streib s "Ah-ha" moments for the week. What a thought provoking post! Loveed the true!

Jan 06, 2020 07:18 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Such wisdom. Imagine a world where this were the case.

Such powerful words, Richie:

The true win is not to enter into dispute but to resolve it.

Jan 06, 2020 07:45 AM
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

Truth mode is the best.  My father told me once (concerning my marriage): "John, you have to compromise"  This may be true in many business situations.  Going the extra mile is more important than following the letter of the contract...?

Jan 06, 2020 10:16 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Hi there Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR are a good woman

Hello Ms transformation Sharon Tara ...thank you for your contribution

Hello John Henry, Florida Architect ...your comment furthers meaningful and fruitful dialog and your dad's contribution stands. Which came first John...people or contracts? Let our hearts be moved not our courts of law

Jan 06, 2020 11:32 AM
John Henry, Florida Architect

Alan, I found out the hard way that written contracts mean nothing if there is no balance of power...  Better to do the best you can all the way.  Mistakes will always be made but if they've known you have done your very best then things can be worked out.


Jan 06, 2020 02:02 PM
Tom Bailey
Margaret Rudd & Associates Inc. - Oak Island, NC

Well said Richie! I tell clients up front that I am in charge of the process, and they are in charge of decisions! I also tell them that if they want to do something that gives me heartburn, I will tell them I tell them if they want to do it anyway, I'll do everything I can to make it happen!

Jan 07, 2020 07:53 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Hello Tom Bailey ...someone has to take responsbility. Why not start with us?

Jan 08, 2020 05:58 AM

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