BENEFIT of the DOUBT

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with people first...then business Ran Right Realty 636943 licensed to thrill

What does this really mean? You are not alone if you do not know even though you are familiar with it because you have heard it or even used it. The premise is that the person who is receiving the benefit wants it or you want it for them. Consequently the one giving or wanting to give it believes it is worthy or necessary to be given.

WHAT IS IT REALLY?

If someone has done something and another believes it to be true or not but is not sure then this little action may enter in. One may receive it and need to and another may want to give it for their own reasons too. The root of this is linked to our legal system. However it is driven by subtle emotions & human behaviors

REASONABLE DOUBT

In our court system if one has a reasonable doubt that a crime was not committed as described or explained based on proof or not then the doubt that enters in demands acquittal even though one may sense something happened but is not sure. This may allow a guilty party to go free but more importantly an innocent one too

FRESH START

Benefit of the doubt when employed allows one to begin again deserving or not. How many times have you gotten away with something that perhaps you shouldn't have but did? Those instances come & go but when you get into something & it becomes larger than your own world sometimes we need that break or benefit

SECOND CHANCE

Who hasn't needed or wanted a second chance guilty or innocent? I mean life is set-up so that we live it according to trial & error dynamics believing that we learn from the errors, don't repeat & move onto the next trial or test until we find moderation, contentment or arrival. Getting to go again deserved or not is wanted by all and without it, all would be disqualified on first fall dynamics

INTIMATE KNOWLEDGE OF A PERSON

When you really come to know someone it helps to better understand them and accept or support them. The opposite is true to. When we don't know someone we may jump to conclusions, believe what we are told or apply our best guess or opinion. A persons life is too sacred to be treated in a ho-hum or could-be manner

YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE

If someone keeps coming up in situations that require benefit of the doubt one starts to wonder if the person is doing these things or is this an amazing set of coincidences? It could also be that one comes around when they come around and this is different for all. Only a closer examination will reveal more. Not so easy to do

EXCELLING IN DECEIT

Some people are so good at deceiving others and they have mastered it making it hard for others to make or take a stand on their conduct. Parents fall for this as do gullible people and guilt-prone individuals are quick to excuse because they identify in the wrong way. Lets examine why someone would need this "benefit"?

WHAT DOES INNOCENCE LOOK and SOUND LIKE?

Have you ever been accused of something you didn't do? The innocent have different but familiar character expressions. Indifference, laughing it off, dismissing, anger, shock, or just plain ignore as in brushing it off however stigma has a say here. When I was accused of a theft my reaction was bewilderment or whhattttt?

THE GUILTY ACT LIKE THE INNOCENT

It can get dicey, confusing and complex for third parties to draw a conclusion or render a judgment. So here we are back to the "benefit of the doubt". It is interesting to note that if you don't like someone you are quicker to condemn and blame where-as people you like or don't know qualify for the "benefit" easier

MY ACCUSATION

I mentioned earlier that I was accused of a theft. Not only was I flabbergasted as the people I work with chose a side against me but I kept my feelings to myself and simply said: I didn't do this or anything else & I said it dryly and one-time. I was into who really did this while they thought they caught the person. People I worked with for years turned out to be hypocrites & cowards. I found the guilty party. No one apologized

FIRST TIME FOR ANYTHING

Everyone agrees that for the most part there is a first time for anything. Employers, relationships, teams, neighbors, family and friends are all inclined to close an eye or make an exception  (we hope) however if your name and conduct keeps coming up take note: YOU are wearing out the Benefit of the Doubt!

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Tammy Lankford,
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We once had a seller make a theft accusation of a home inspector.  It was an inspector we'd worked with for 15 years and I knew in my heart it wasn't true. Later that seller's son called us to say the items in question had been located at the new home, but no apology came with that for the accusation.

It's my nature to trust people (even those I do not know) until they give me a reason not to trust them.  After that I will say while they get a second chance they do have to earn the trust back.

Jan 18, 2020 10:55 AM #1
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Hello Tammy Lankford, ...your decent comment stands & thank you T.L.

Jan 18, 2020 12:45 PM #2
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Kathy Streib
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Hi Richie- I prefer to trust people but am also cautious.  And I do agree, if we like someone we are more inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt. It's human nature. 

In my world, if you accuse someone of something and you are wrong, then be mature enough to admit and offer your apologies. 

Jan 18, 2020 05:17 PM #3
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Hello Kathy Streib ...your comment stands and thank you K.S.

Jan 18, 2020 06:44 PM #4
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James Dray
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Morning Richie.

With my background, I demand proof before I take sides.  Accusations are just that

Jan 19, 2020 01:17 AM #5
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Liz and Bill Spear
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Trust but verify? I have to have a certain level of skeptism on behalf of my clients, but my first take is to believe people until they give me a reason to know otherwise of their character.

Jan 19, 2020 04:50 AM #6
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Richie Alan Naggar
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James Dray ...a professional who has learned to give & take correctly

Liz and Bill Spear ...your comment stands & thank you

Jan 19, 2020 06:21 AM #7
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Roy Kelley
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You have listed enough topics to ponder for a dozen or more blogs.

Have an outstanding week. Be sure to trust but verify.

Jan 19, 2020 08:46 AM #8
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Roy Kelley ...commenting from you means something...

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Hi Richie - there is an important distinction between giving the benefit of the doubt and also holding people accountable.  They each have their place.

Jan 22, 2020 08:14 AM #10
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Grant Schneider ...knowing the difference is a big plus for all...thank you

Jan 22, 2020 10:28 AM #11
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