Pause What a Pleasure

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Kolsky Realty & Management 01311273

 

Before I get into “pause what a pleasure” It’s hard to believe a decade ago my AR journey began. Needless to say, I love the Rain (and it showed as I splashed often here 9 out of those 10 years!) Whether I am just taking a break “or” this is just my new normal here; I just don’t know. Regardless, I love the Rain and its members!

 

As most of us know; -the real estate business isn’t static. Plus, dealing with the public can at times be very stressful. Even if you’re not “in the business” -life can be stressful which is why I am sharing something I recently learned “pause what a pleasure”.

 

About 6 months ago my girlfriend and I decided to go to a Kabbalah class in Los Angeles. Now despite rumors or Wikipedia’s definition – Kabbalah (from my experience) is an ancient wisdom that empowers us to improve our lives, discover our purpose, and achieve the lasting fulfillment we are meant to receive.

 

Over a course of 4 months, once a week my girlfriend attended Kabbalah classes. My girlfriend and I ended up loving the courses as we learned so many great things including “pause what a pleasure”.

Now, just because I attended several months of Kabbalah classes doesn’t make me a teacher of any sort. But I will do my best to explain the Kabbalistic meaning of “pause what a pleasure”.

 

Simply put: Pause what a pleasure is a tool to control our reactive nature in hopes of turning our reactive nature into proactive thoughts and actions.

 

For example: When something triggers my reactive nature. The very first thing I do now is pause (and say to myself) what a pleasure. Whatever has triggered my reactive nature I welcome with a clear understanding that this is merely my test/challenge. Whatever is attempting to get me upset is my chance to confront and overcome proactively. Once I have paused (before getting upset) -I now have the opportunity to elevate past any anger and then take positive steps to address and solve the problem. The Kabbalist say all challenge (including getting mad) is an opportunity to overcome.

 

Please note that this is the simplest of simplest explanation and description of “pause what a pleasure.” I will also note that is just one method and practice of learning to better deal with stress.

Whether it is the horrible traffic, a lost deal, or even a divorce -do your best to pause first “tell yourself what a pleasure” and then in a proactive way deal with the issue!

 

PS: I’ve been supporting a lot of local bands in town lately. One band (PHYGG), in particular, I see often and I really love. They cover so many great songs I love “plus” they have several original songs, too! Below is there original song “Too Far Gone”.

 

 

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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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Our practice of mindfulness is similar. And, when something upsets me, I focus my attenting on breathing and mentally shift into neutral to observe, not react. 

Jan 09, 2020 04:03 PM #11
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Hi Jon- and I too am happy to see you back here whether it's for just this post or many more. Very happy that you've found a way to have a different approach to handling the little (or large0 stresses in our life.  I use Yoga breaths, counting to 10 and turning up the radio either in my car or the one that is always running in my head. 

Jan 09, 2020 07:37 PM #12
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Hi Jon JK - you're right the practice of pausing is powerful in many ways.  As a soft drink marketing campaign comes to mind:  I am thinking "the pause that refreshes" seems appropriate to mention.  Of course, I can't think of the beverage right now -- what's that say about the success of the campaign?  Hmmm...  Good to "see" you here.  I hope all is going well with you.  Take care.  Pause.  

Jan 10, 2020 04:06 AM #13
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Jon Kolsky
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD ~ Perfect! And that's so great -diminishing our anger/reaction is huge and effective "plus" it allows us to better work through and problem solve  

Jan 10, 2020 10:47 AM #14
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Jon Kolsky
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Kathy Streib ~ I bet yoga breathing and counting a few seconds is a great device. I had fun writing this post and I enjoy the comments. It's great to say hi to some great people here. I hope to make it back soon with another post but I will just have to see about setting some time away to do so. Anyway, here's to avoiding unwelcome and unsuspecting stress 

Jan 10, 2020 10:57 AM #15
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Jon Kolsky
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Michael Jacobs ~ MJ -I don't know the add either but.... what comes to mind for soft drink campaigns are "crisp and clean with no caffeine & coke's "aww" after they take a sip.
I enjoy having this new tool in my bag. I find myself much more secure knowing that I am not going to react instantly. Anyway, I hope things are well... and I would enjoy catching up over lunch; just let me know if that's possible

Jan 10, 2020 11:05 AM #16
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How interesting! I love learning new ways to be in the moment, not letting things bother us. Thank you for sharing and good to see you!

Jan 12, 2020 06:52 AM #18
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You and Madonna.. yet another thing you have in common.

Jan 12, 2020 07:29 AM #19
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Good morning Jon Kolsky - taking a pause after some hectic weeks.  I am for that.

Jan 12, 2020 10:50 AM #20
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Jon: I myself have not been here on AR so it's good to see that you decided to come back too! I loved your post and will find the pause " What a pleasure" a benefit as well, and I intend to try it. Stress is the by-word in todays real estate world so I have found that as I lay awake at night with no chance of stopping the chatter in my head I just say in my mind "No-Thing" and I repeat it until I can feel myself dropping off to sleep--it is amazing, the things that we can do with our life issues as long as we are open to trying new things! Welcome back!

Jan 12, 2020 11:43 AM #21
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That group sounds amazing! There's nothing I love more than seeing a post from an AR old-timer. We all go through different phases in our lives. Glad this is a peaceful one for you.

Jan 12, 2020 01:11 PM #22
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Congrats on Kathy featuring your post this week!  I can see why she did!

Jan 13, 2020 07:53 AM #23
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
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That is a great thought, pause what a pleasure, on so many fronts. I love this and will include this in my life. Thank you. The band sounds wonderful as well.

Jan 13, 2020 08:22 AM #24
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Jon Kolsky
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 ~ You just made me smile from ear to ear; thank you! I am so glad you mentioned the band "PHYGG"! They cover songs like no-ones business and their originals are even better. I feel so lucky to see them perform; I usually see them once a week if not more

Jan 13, 2020 11:50 AM #25
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Hi Jon Kolsky - Enjoy that pause.  I think it is great you found something that works for you. Welcome back.

Jan 13, 2020 12:28 PM #26
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Margaret Goss
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Using a pause is a great tool to refocus and not react negatively (the way we often do when frustrated or angry.)

It reminds me of a friend who was at the garden center loading bags of soil into the back of his vehicle. There was a long line waiting to reach the front where the orders were being picked up.

The woman in line behind him got impatient and jumped out of her car to run up and fetch her order herself. Problem is - she didn't put the car into neutral. Her car lurched forward and broke both his legs resulting in many painful surgeries and rehab. If she had just paused  . . . .

Jan 13, 2020 12:37 PM #27
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Hi Jon Kolsky, it's so nice to see you here in the rain. When we find the tool that helps us to be in the moment, it is truly a life changer.  Glad to see you found yours.

Jan 14, 2020 07:09 AM #28
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as we head into the spring season it is helpful to have another way to deal with the stress! 

Jan 14, 2020 07:11 AM #29
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Hi Jon:

So nice to see you, and what a great share. It makes so much sense as opposed to just reacting, especially in an angry or otherwise emotional way.

Jeff

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