Pause What a Pleasure

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Kolsky Realty & Management 01311273

 

Before I get into “pause what a pleasure” It’s hard to believe a decade ago my AR journey began. Needless to say, I love the Rain (and it showed as I splashed often here 9 out of those 10 years!) Whether I am just taking a break “or” this is just my new normal here; I just don’t know. Regardless, I love the Rain and its members!

 

As most of us know; -the real estate business isn’t static. Plus, dealing with the public can at times be very stressful. Even if you’re not “in the business” -life can be stressful which is why I am sharing something I recently learned “pause what a pleasure”.

 

About 6 months ago my girlfriend and I decided to go to a Kabbalah class in Los Angeles. Now despite rumors or Wikipedia’s definition – Kabbalah (from my experience) is an ancient wisdom that empowers us to improve our lives, discover our purpose, and achieve the lasting fulfillment we are meant to receive.

 

Over a course of 4 months, once a week my girlfriend attended Kabbalah classes. My girlfriend and I ended up loving the courses as we learned so many great things including “pause what a pleasure”.

Now, just because I attended several months of Kabbalah classes doesn’t make me a teacher of any sort. But I will do my best to explain the Kabbalistic meaning of “pause what a pleasure”.

 

Simply put: Pause what a pleasure is a tool to control our reactive nature in hopes of turning our reactive nature into proactive thoughts and actions.

 

For example: When something triggers my reactive nature. The very first thing I do now is pause (and say to myself) what a pleasure. Whatever has triggered my reactive nature I welcome with a clear understanding that this is merely my test/challenge. Whatever is attempting to get me upset is my chance to confront and overcome proactively. Once I have paused (before getting upset) -I now have the opportunity to elevate past any anger and then take positive steps to address and solve the problem. The Kabbalist say all challenge (including getting mad) is an opportunity to overcome.

 

Please note that this is the simplest of simplest explanation and description of “pause what a pleasure.” I will also note that is just one method and practice of learning to better deal with stress.

Whether it is the horrible traffic, a lost deal, or even a divorce -do your best to pause first “tell yourself what a pleasure” and then in a proactive way deal with the issue!

 

PS: I’ve been supporting a lot of local bands in town lately. One band (PHYGG), in particular, I see often and I really love. They cover so many great songs I love “plus” they have several original songs, too! Below is there original song “Too Far Gone”.

 

 

Comments (36)

Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Kathy Streib ~ I bet yoga breathing and counting a few seconds is a great device. I had fun writing this post and I enjoy the comments. It's great to say hi to some great people here. I hope to make it back soon with another post but I will just have to see about setting some time away to do so. Anyway, here's to avoiding unwelcome and unsuspecting stress 

Jan 10, 2020 10:57 AM
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Michael Jacobs ~ MJ -I don't know the add either but.... what comes to mind for soft drink campaigns are "crisp and clean with no caffeine & coke's "aww" after they take a sip.
I enjoy having this new tool in my bag. I find myself much more secure knowing that I am not going to react instantly. Anyway, I hope things are well... and I would enjoy catching up over lunch; just let me know if that's possible

Jan 10, 2020 11:05 AM
Michael Jacobs

Hi Jon JK Jon Kolsky  --- let me know when getting together for lunch would be good for you. 

Jan 10, 2020 06:34 PM
Jon Kolsky

Michael Jacobs ~ I will call you later today

Jan 13, 2020 11:16 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Jan 11, 2020 06:41 PM
Jon Kolsky

Kathy Streib ~ Thank you! I really appreciate you being kind enough to include my post in your series. As you can see some great AR members added to my post

Jan 13, 2020 11:19 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

How interesting! I love learning new ways to be in the moment, not letting things bother us. Thank you for sharing and good to see you!

Jan 12, 2020 06:52 AM
Jon Kolsky

Kat Palmiotti ~ We are never expected to be perfect, things may still penetrate this great defense. But nevertheless, this is a great tool to stop most debris.... There is really a lot more to the Kabbalistic theory of "pause what a pleasure" which even makes "pause what a please" truly easy to get     

Jan 13, 2020 11:28 AM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
A moving experience!

You and Madonna.. yet another thing you have in common.

Jan 12, 2020 07:29 AM
Jon Kolsky

Alan May ~ oh my good friend (hope all is a well) -I love that you went there. Madonna was so far ahead of me that having that in common with her is wayyy to big of a compliment... The only thing I might have in common with her is age

Jan 13, 2020 11:31 AM
Alan May

I'm doing well... at least, I have no legitimate complaints.  I hope things are treating you well... it sounds as though they are.


I had to go there... since "I'm too far gone". ;-)

Jan 13, 2020 12:23 PM
Jon Kolsky

Alan May ~ we all deserve "a better life than just getting by", too! And.... Just as important "we are worthy" Anyway, -I'm glad there are no worthy complaints with us; we deserve it 

Jan 13, 2020 01:30 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Jon Kolsky - taking a pause after some hectic weeks.  I am for that.

Jan 12, 2020 10:50 AM
Jon Kolsky

Grant Schneider ~ a pause (before action) should help better get past even hectic weekends... Here's to you finding a way

Jan 13, 2020 11:34 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
...A Local Expert in all The Hamptons

Jon: I myself have not been here on AR so it's good to see that you decided to come back too! I loved your post and will find the pause " What a pleasure" a benefit as well, and I intend to try it. Stress is the by-word in todays real estate world so I have found that as I lay awake at night with no chance of stopping the chatter in my head I just say in my mind "No-Thing" and I repeat it until I can feel myself dropping off to sleep--it is amazing, the things that we can do with our life issues as long as we are open to trying new things! Welcome back!

Jan 12, 2020 11:43 AM
Jon Kolsky

Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA ~ I have found my way back here "and" it felt great sharing some thoughts here, once again. I wish I could explain more about pause what a pleasure. There is a lot more to it that really makes things easier to understand. I truly believe a better explanation would completely stop that unwanted late night chatter, too... Anyway, I wish you all the best and it was great hearing from you 

Jan 13, 2020 11:42 AM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

That group sounds amazing! There's nothing I love more than seeing a post from an AR old-timer. We all go through different phases in our lives. Glad this is a peaceful one for you.

Jan 12, 2020 01:11 PM
Jon Kolsky

Jill Sackler ~ I agree - it is great to hear from long-time AR friends... And, yes! Things are very peaceful and I am very grateful

Jan 13, 2020 11:45 AM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center 262-567-2455 - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Congrats on Kathy featuring your post this week!  I can see why she did!

Jan 13, 2020 07:53 AM
Jon Kolsky

Kristin Johnston - REALTOR® ~ I am grateful; Kathy is amazing and thanks for letting me know

Jan 13, 2020 11:46 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

That is a great thought, pause what a pleasure, on so many fronts. I love this and will include this in my life. Thank you. The band sounds wonderful as well.

Jan 13, 2020 08:22 AM
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 ~ You just made me smile from ear to ear; thank you! I am so glad you mentioned the band "PHYGG"! They cover songs like no-ones business and their originals are even better. I feel so lucky to see them perform; I usually see them once a week if not more

Jan 13, 2020 11:50 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Jon Kolsky - Enjoy that pause.  I think it is great you found something that works for you. Welcome back.

Jan 13, 2020 12:28 PM
Jon Kolsky

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® ~ thank you so much! I do have more confidence as a result of pausing first before reacting -and that (in general) gives me elevated confidence 

Jan 13, 2020 01:33 PM
Margaret Goss
Baird & Warner Real Estate - Winnetka, IL
Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate

Using a pause is a great tool to refocus and not react negatively (the way we often do when frustrated or angry.)

It reminds me of a friend who was at the garden center loading bags of soil into the back of his vehicle. There was a long line waiting to reach the front where the orders were being picked up.

The woman in line behind him got impatient and jumped out of her car to run up and fetch her order herself. Problem is - she didn't put the car into neutral. Her car lurched forward and broke both his legs resulting in many painful surgeries and rehab. If she had just paused  . . . .

Jan 13, 2020 12:37 PM
Jon Kolsky

Margaret Goss ~ I agree 110%.. Finding ways to reduce anger and frustration makes life just that much better. Great story

Jan 14, 2020 09:25 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Jon Kolsky, it's so nice to see you here in the rain. When we find the tool that helps us to be in the moment, it is truly a life changer.  Glad to see you found yours.

Jan 14, 2020 07:09 AM
Jon Kolsky

Beth Atalay ~ thank you and thank you! It was fun dipping my toe in here; I really enjoyed expressing myself once again by way of posting. And I agree -our moments are of great value and they are very precious

Jan 14, 2020 09:45 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

as we head into the spring season it is helpful to have another way to deal with the stress! 

Jan 14, 2020 07:11 AM
Jon Kolsky

Lise Howe ~ winter, spring, summer, and fall -here's to finding ways to beat stress before it rears its ugly head! We do so much better when we are not reactive to "potential" upsetting moments

Jan 14, 2020 09:50 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Jon:

So nice to see you, and what a great share. It makes so much sense as opposed to just reacting, especially in an angry or otherwise emotional way.

Jeff

Jan 15, 2020 12:14 PM
Jon Kolsky

Jeff Dowler, CRS ~ thank you, it was fun sharing a post, once again. And I agree -being reactive is a killer, we do so much better dealing with stuff with a cool head

Jan 17, 2020 10:29 AM
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Wow!  Very interesting Jon. Thank you for sharing.  I'm going to work on that.  Too often things can go astray if we don't pause.  Love your highlighted band! 

Jan 23, 2020 12:21 PM
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Jan Green ~ thank you so much! And I agree -pausing first can make the difference between moving forward in a positive direction versus spiraling down an unwanted rabbit-hole. And..... I am smiling ear to ear knowing you like Phygg PS: I am excited -I am going to see them tonight!

Jan 24, 2020 09:13 AM
Jan Green

Have fun!

Jan 24, 2020 09:34 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Jon JK- - -while "splashing"  about in the 'Rain today, I wondered if I had missed your most recent post.  I didn't but it has been some ttime since I have "seen" you here.  Hope all is going well in your world.  There have been lots of changes in the world at large since our lunch earlier this year, huh? Talk about an understatement. 

 

Jun 04, 2020 10:41 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

I was looking for your current posts. I hope all is going well for you.

Have an outstanding summer.

Jul 27, 2020 04:46 AM