I discovered this dynamic called ignoring when I was a child but I didn't understand what it was or why it was or just what was it? It exposes itself as a feeling that pulls or pushes that is not pleasant when it is at work and the natural response as a child is to make a noise, do an action or with draw plus everything in between to counter this ugly invisible force at work in the moment
Still exploring this as a child, ignoring someone can be on purpose or out of ignorance. If on purpose, the pain is amplified in experience causing a child to wonder what they did or didn't do & they don't have much to assess because they just don't know. They do know they are rejected & not in those words but in action
This is where prejudice, bias, and judgment can enter in still unknown at first but soon to be found out is at work. Poverty invites being ignored as does poor hygiene, dressed incorrectly and bad manners. There are reasons to ignore but let me say they hurt the one they are working on... no matter what the reason is
When this visits it is not fully understood but if repeated continuously one begins to figure out and believe (incorrectly) that there is something wrong with them and it gets worse when they don't know what that is. So you are not good enough and you even start to believe and act this out. Very confusing and traumatic
As you get older if this is not corrected or dealt with or if it continues it will assault the character of a person and interfere with their growth and learning curves by disruption and ignorance (notice the ignor in this word) and potentials, outcomes and personalities suffer, stunt and if not corrected will dysfunction
NOW WE ARE ADULTS
As adults, we are required to know better just because we grew up and matured. That is the expectation but we all know that is faulty. Why? People arrive at different subjects at different times so this is ongoing. Age plays a small part. Exposure a larger one. Now here is the heart of the posting....
WHY WOULD YOU IGNORE SOMEONE?
When I walk into a room, or when I meet people in a group or alone, I acknowledge them. How so? A smile, a glance, a verbal or a gesture but I know they are there and they know it too. Imagine the opposite force at work where someone goes out of there way or just matter of factly ignores a person or group?
IS IT NORMAL?
Pretending someone is not there, deliberately acting that out is an assault emotionally, mentally, and psychologically on another and it hurts. Now are we compelled to interact? Of course not! You may go about your business as you choose and are under no obligation to meet or greet anyone. Let's explore that
WALKING LOOKING DOWN?
Have you ever seen a person walking with their head down? They are in a state of self-absorption a type of enclosed loop that replays & blocks out everything else. Picture a hamster wheel with the hamster running going no where. I do not hold them accountable nor consider them to be rude. However they are missing out input & feedback from being self-aware. Their discovery mode is closed. Programming is at work
IGNORING DYNAMICS IN BUSINESS
If you are running a business or want to start one ignoring people is the KISS of DEATH. You all know what I am speaking about. Ever been ignored in public? Restaurants? Retail stores? Doctors office? Literally any destination where people end up has to have some greeter or acknowledgment that they are there or we are off on the wrong foot. That uncomfortable feeling of "not wanted here" visits....
When I walk into a group or public gathering that allows this I say: Hello everyone! If I approach two people one of who I know, I will greet them and the other in some way. When I am offering assistance professionally or personally I am quick to include all relevant. How... is subject to the event but I do it!
TODAY IT GOT COMPLICATED
Today, smart phones allow people to ignore people & it is okay because we know why they are being ignored. Earphones do the same too. People who are busy have a convenient excuse not to interact & those in a hurry as well. What kind of world are we creating when we come up with systems to ignore each other?
INTIMACY IS AT STAKE
Your personal and professional self will suffer or miss out (no growth or opportunities). Warm & fuzzy will decrease and cold & distant will gain momentum. People will fight, insist or rebel to be heard or acknowledged until they are. Sound familiar? Its happening all over the world. Don't let it happen in yours