I received an e-mail from a friend the other day, listing 10 Ways to Be a Better Dad.
As I read the list to my husband and a friend who was sitting with us, I realized that my husband scored high in each of the 10.
He works hard to keep our marriage strong and to respect me.
He spends so much time with our children. He is very much a participant in their lives and in everything they do.
He takes the time to talk to our boys every day and to listen.
Our oldest son understands why is being disciplined and what actions will lead to it. I'm sure our younger boy will follow when he's a little older.
My husband knew how important a father could be to a daughter and planned what he would do to make sure she understood love and respect. Instead of a daughter, he has two wonderful sons that he is teaching so many important lessons. The boys love their time with their dad.
He strongly believes that it is not only the responsibility of the school to teach his boys but that he must be an important component of everything they will learn and bring to the remainder of their lives.
I used to be one for eating in front of the television, but when I was pregnant with our first boy, he told me how important he believed it was that we actually eat as a family. Now, my older boy expects that we will eat together at the dinner table every night and discuss our day. He knows it's a special day when we order a pizza, rent a movie and sit down together in front of the tv for a pizza/movie night.
My son expects to be read a book each night. Sometimes, knowing it's a little late, he'll try to sneak in one of the longest books he owns just to squeeze out a little more time before bed.
We have what's known as a family hug that my husband encourages. It requires all of us getting together for one big hug. Now that we have the new baby, our older boy makes sure that the family hug includes all four of us. A day doesn't go by that my husband doesn't show affection to all of us.
I think that my husband sometimes is amazed by how much is ahead of us with our two boys, but I know he's up to the challenge.
It was wonderful to realize that the man I chose for the father of my children scored so well in my personal judgment. What was even better was that when I was done reading the list, our friend's first comment was well, "You've got all of that covered, Steve."
I just want to acknowledge all he does for the three of us and how much we appreciate it and love him.