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Observations and Stealing a Line from Alice in Wonderland

By
Industry Observer with Nature As Neighbors

On Being Nice

 

Today, I'm inspired by some lovely posts written by Active Rain members. The first I read, was Sheila Anderson's post with the simple reminder to, Be Nice. It's since been shared, and it inspired yet another post on the subject from Nina Hollander. "Be Nice...It Costs Nothing To Be Nice, So Why Not Be Nice?

 

Indeed, why not? Do you equate power and strength with nasty behavior?

Perhaps, you're the one at the closing table who brags about leaving others quaking in their boots. Sad to hear, I'm pretty sure most of us aren't impressed.  It's easy to behave like an angry kid in tantrum mode. It's much more difficult to completely satisfy and wow your clients while ensuring all parties feel as if they've be treated kindly and fairly.  

Yes, there are some nasty personalities out there. Jealousy and comparison and inadequacy are robbers of joy. Feel sorry for the nasties in the world, and take the high road, I think they must be miserable. Wish them well, as you increase the distance between you. They are on a different journey.

 

On Being Creative

I was delighted to find Li Read's post,  Practice Periphery Vision - with the powerful closing message,"In change lies opportunity. Catch it!"

We surround ourselves with technology, relying on it from the simple to the complex. At the same time, judging our progress and success by money gained, or the number of business deals we've racked up for the year. Conversely, this is how we also how we judge our lack of progress and success.  There really is so much more. 

Li has a wonderful reminder in her post. Please take a quiet moment and read it- savor it. 

 

Closing Thoughts

When I feel good, I know my thoughts and actions are where they need to be. Our emotions are wonderful indicators as to how we are doing. Are we tapping in to our highest potential? Paying attention, really getting in tune with those emotions can help us make better decisions. 


Take being kind, for example. It feels wonderful.  

 

As for creativity, if you're feeling stuck, take Li's advice, "practice periphery vision - that's where creative ideas live." And being truly creative feels wonderful. 

 

And this is where Alice in Wonderland comes in...

 

"I'm late, I'm late for a very important date."  

 

Want to feel wonderful? Choose wonderful thoughts and actions, it's really never too late.  And, it's really that simple. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted by


Debb Janes  Bernie Stea
Brokers/REALTORS®
Call or Text 360-608-4900

We help buyers and sellers in Camas, Washougal, Brush Prairie/Hockinson, Salmon Creek, Felida, and other Vancouver, Washington Areas. 


We bring our passion for nature and beautiful environments to Real Estate. Multigenerational and family estates, country land and homes, and small farmsteads are our speciality.


We agree with our clients, "The true luxury of rural living is having elbowroom for the soul.

 

Comments(37)

Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Hi Li Read. First of all, thank you. The real credit goes to you, and the other two writers. I had no intention of writing a post like this today. I was going to work on my YouTube Thursdays post for tomorrow, but you three inspired me. My heart and head were full of thoughts and I just had to get it "out." Lol. 

Jan 29, 2020 03:24 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Debb and Bernie - isn't it great to be inspired each day we visit ActiveRain?   

Jan 29, 2020 07:07 PM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Three great posts to link to.

Jan 29, 2020 07:22 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD nothing trumps being nice.... the word trump and nice don't seem to fit properly, but you get the point!!

Jan 30, 2020 03:26 AM
Debb Janes

hahahahahaha

Jan 30, 2020 07:42 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

It is so much easier to be nice than to be mean and the results are usually better when we are nice!

Jan 30, 2020 07:03 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

Everyone feels good after they do something nice for someone. Lets do more of it!

Jan 30, 2020 07:21 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

I'm with you all. Let's choose nice. D

Jan 30, 2020 09:29 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I don't associate nasty behavior with strength and power.  In fact, I've noted that usually, I have noted that those who are unkind or unpleasant to be around are often narcisistic, or lack skills to work with others for common solutions.  I liked Nina's post when I first read it yesterday.  The elementary school around the corner has a billboard which reads, "In a world where you can be anything, be kind."

Jan 30, 2020 01:42 PM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

I don't either Myrl Jeffcoat yet, I often hear people brag about intimidation tactics and making people feel fearful. Good grief, what a goal.  I know, you'd think with all the examples in the world showing what narcissistic behavior and inflated egos gets us, we would be striving for a new way of doing things. 

Jan 30, 2020 02:59 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Don’t be late to this way of doing biz. Right on rhe ball with this one, @myrl

Jan 30, 2020 08:48 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Feb 01, 2020 07:13 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

You shared some very uplifting posts, thank you. Being nice, optimistic, grateful - ahhh, those traits make life so much better.

Enjoy your day!

Feb 02, 2020 06:57 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

Are we tapping in to our highest potential? Paying attention, really getting in tune with those emotions can help us make better decisions.   

Thanks for the uplift! 

Feb 02, 2020 08:08 PM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Platinum - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

You are a kind person and your actions prove it...you are right...it feels so good being kind!

Feb 03, 2020 06:31 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I like the fact you built your post on others, and then came up with your own views and ideas. Love that you are also always willing to share your ideas and techniques with all of us. 

Feb 03, 2020 09:47 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Well, you know you'll get 100% agreement from me when it comes to being kind! It's SO easy to do - if only more people practiced kindness, Debb!

Feb 03, 2020 09:06 PM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, this post comes from your heart, I hope to see it get featured.  Being kind, thoughtful, nice are so easy and everyone benefits. Have a wonderful day!

Feb 04, 2020 06:36 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Thanks Laura. I know - it's never too late, but don't be late. Be kind now. 

Feb 04, 2020 07:34 AM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-801-5525

Debb,  A nice example of being nice with shout-outs to Sheila, Nina and LI, and now complete with your pulling it all together.  Bring nice is so under rated in today's world, yet it's what makes life worth living, creating that feel good flow that expands out into the world like ripples on the lake.

Feb 04, 2020 05:32 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I enjoy reading these classics and try to find new nuances each time Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD 

Jan 27, 2021 09:28 AM