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"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new." 

-Socrates

This post is in response to Endre Barath, Jr.'s challenge to write about changes we've made in the last couple of years. Since I retired in 2011, I can't write about any business changes I've made, but I did make some personal changes that have made life a little simpler (and complicated) for me. And, the moral of the story does apply to business.

In 2014 my sister-in-law, Connie, who lived in Arizona, had a back surgery that went bad at the end. I won't go into the gory details, but she has been left with severely diminished cognitive and physical limitations.  About two years ago, I was appointed her personal representative and given POA/AIF responsibilities.  I can tell you it is no easy task managing those kinds of responsibilities from 1400 miles away. I did so for over a year.  

The change I made was moving her to where I live in Wenatchee, Washington last March.  And, although it has been a lot of work getting her relocated and settled, the result is so much better for her.  I enlisted the help of a lot of people to get the job done.  I could not have done it alone. And, I had to compose a letter explaining why she needed out of the lease she held. As you know, property management companies can be a bit obnoxious about that. But, I did and it worked like a charm. My negotiation skills came in very handy on that one... and it cost us nothing but a postage stamp.

Instead of living alone, Connie is in the independent living section of a senior community. She has her own apartment, but she is not alone.  In her Arizona apartment, she would go for days without seeing anyone. She had no family there since her husband had died. She now enjoys the daily camaraderie of the community dining room, putting together puzzles in a central area, and the many activities they have at the facility. She also has several nieces and nephews in the state that come to visit about once a month. She lives only 2 miles from my house, so it is very convenient for me to deliver meds, what few groceries she needs, pick her up for Dr. appts, and take her for outings occasionally.  Although she doesn't like the cold winters here, she is adjusting. The only time she goes out in the winter is for appointments, so it's no big deal. The picture above is Connie in her ski jacket IN my house when she first arrived in Wenatchee last March. She was cold in my 72º house!

So, the moral of my story:
Sometimes you have to do something hard in the interest of the best long term results.  The physical move was a PITA. Getting her set up with all new Doctors was a PITA.  In many ways, having her in town is a PITA because she expects more of me because I am so convenient. 

BUT... it was the best and right thing to do.  And, isn't that true in life and business? Sometimes we have to make decisions that cause temporary inconvenience for the long term good. 

All that said, I AM making some changes this year that are taking me quite a bit beyond my comfort zone. We'll see how all that works out. 

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Rainmaker
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Carol Williams
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Hi Anna Banana Kruchten Broker/Owner, CRB, CRS 
As you know, she does appreciate what I do and tells me so. That's always nice to hear. Doesn't mean I don't want to scream sometimes.  LOL

Feb 01, 2020 06:50 AM #14
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Hi Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS 
Life is full of tweaking opportunities, isn't it? 
Here's hoping 2020 is a great year for you!

Feb 01, 2020 06:51 AM #15
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Carol Williams
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Hi Joe Pryor 
Honestly, I'm glad she has me to help take care of her. If not for me, I don't even want to think about what might have happened to her. Thanks for reading my ramblings.

Feb 01, 2020 06:54 AM #16
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Carol Williams
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Hi Sharon Lee 
It's very difficult living with a parent at that age, and when there are mental and physical issues it is that much more so.  They never stop thinking of you as the child, do they? 

Feb 01, 2020 06:56 AM #17
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Hi Myrl Jeffcoat 
Live life with the hope of no regrets, right?  It's not always easy but it is the right thing to do. 

Happy Saturday, Myrl.

Feb 01, 2020 07:02 AM #18
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Hi Kathy Streib 
The truth is, there was noone else to take the reins. I am doing what needs to be done. I, honestly, cringe to think about what would have happened if I hadn't. She would do the same for me IF the roles were reversed.

Feb 01, 2020 07:04 AM #19
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Hi Endre Barath, Jr. 
Yes, we are capable of a lot when we get out of ourselves and into the service mode. For me, it's a matter of seeing what needs to be done and being willing to do it when noone else will.  It's a no brainer really.  

Thanks for the challenge. I wasn't going to contribute but glad I did.

Feb 01, 2020 07:06 AM #20
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Hi Michael Jacobs 
Yes, the TEAM was critical. Between her church and my son and daughter-in-law (who drove the moving truck) my job of getting her moved was mostly "management". 

Feb 01, 2020 07:08 AM #21
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Hi Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD 
I think what we did last year was great. I can't think of any way I would change the decisions I made for Connie.   As for upcoming changes, I'm not sure "changes" is the right word.  It's more of a major project involving golf.

Feb 01, 2020 07:12 AM #22
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Hi Carol:

What an ordeal that must have been, but it was the right solution and your perseverance paid off for Connie who is now in a much safer, better place.

Jeff

Feb 01, 2020 09:44 AM #23
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Wow! What a great sister-in-law you are. People who take their responsibilities seriously are heroes in my book.

Feb 03, 2020 06:25 AM #24
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Carol Williams
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Hi Jeff Dowler, CRS 
Yes, she's doing well and that makes me happy!

Feb 03, 2020 10:00 AM #25
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Hi Lorrie Semler, REALTOR® in the Dallas area. Call/text 972-416-3417 
Everyone needs a guardian angel and I try to be one for Connie who is my late husband's beloved sister. I do it for them both. 

Feb 03, 2020 10:02 AM #26
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Hey Kat Palmiotti 
Your homemade pizza was a party favorite!  Thanks for sharing!

Feb 03, 2020 10:11 AM #27
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Will Hamm
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Wow Carol,  You took on alot with this one.  We all have changes all the time but wow!

Feb 03, 2020 10:18 AM #28
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Carol Williams - I don't really think anyone is ready or prepared to go into battle for another human being, sibling or not. But you did. And you are caring for her providing her with an Army of Support People who also care about Connie and yourself. You are amazing and Connie is lucky to have you in her life too. I'm so sorry the back situation put her in this situation. I don't think any of us want things like that to happen to us and when we have someone working in our best interest, everything changes from perspective, financial, emotional, physical, and right on down the line. I pray you and Connie will get through this together with continuous dignity and respect. 

Feb 03, 2020 06:50 PM #29
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Great to visit with you today Carol, your sister-in-law is in a much better place and lucky have someone like you to help. Happy to know you and safe travels!

Feb 07, 2020 06:25 PM #30
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Carol Williams 

How lucky Connie is to have a fabulous sister in law like you. Your dedication, hopefully, is appreciated and you are a really good person to take this on. This is what family is about but not everyone has your level of caring!

Feb 13, 2020 10:09 AM #31
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Change is never easy, but it is much easier with someone to help you walk through it. Thank you for sharing your story of kindness. Have a great day. 

Feb 29, 2020 11:46 AM #32
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Carol,

Great Post! Keep in the back of your mind, "What goes around, comes around". You'll be rewarded in more ways than you can imagine. Let me end with one of my favorite quotes........"If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride - and never quit, you'll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards."

                                            Coach Paul "Bear" Bryant

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