Tomorrow will be two months since Our Father passed away. In seven days it will be eleven years since His Mother, Our Grandmother passed. On January 21, 2020, it was 45 years since our Mother passed away. My Sister and I remain and are very close, talk frequently and basically drive each other crazy because we love one another so much.
Yes, it's pretty much always been this way.
Sometimes, I love this time of year, and mostly I cannot wait for it to pass and to get on with the year. These three months now, are almost over...Our Sacred Months when the three most important people in our lives transitioned.
How do you recover from loss? It is such a wide topic and I know that I'm giving you a lot of information all at once. Don't worry, there will not be a quiz.
Our Dad passed away December 2, 2019
Our Mother passed away January 21, 1975
Our Grandmother (Dad's side) passed away February 8, 2009
Psychologically our bodies recall major events in our lives. It is up to us to heal from them and take "extra care" during these times where we can be so fragile, emotional, in pain and healing.
This morning as I was cooking my omelette/frittata pictured above I started smiling very big all of a sudden! I realized that spending time in my kitchen and seeing my cat in the distance - together time with my beloved pet, and in my home, made me feel closer to my heritage and those who have passed away. All three of them enjoyed time in the kitchen...and so, guess, what, I do too! Naturally, right?! The loss of our loved ones can have far-reaching effects that if gone unattended, can and may most certainly result in more issues that just addressing the feelings as they come up.
God is always watching and listening to Us. He is there with Us and for Us.. It is our job to seek Him and be comforted by Him. I felt like it was my duty to share this beautiful process as stated at Number 8. 2 Corinthians 1:3 (click here for link) Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
Now, religion is very personal, so is healing and loss. I know it's a stretch and I kind of can't believe I'm sharing this with You...(click here for some things you should never share) but I'm hopeful that it will somehow help in your daily lives. GO IN THE KITCHEN....DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD...SPEND TIME IN YOUR GARDEN...GO FOR THAT BIKE RIDE, HIKE OR RUN...LIFE GOES ON...GO SHOPPING, A TRIP TO YOUR LOCAL MALL LIKE VICTORIA GARDENS, AND WE ARE HERE TO EXPERIENCE IT TO OUR FULLEST.
You can bet that when my real estate phone rings (oops, I think I just missed a call - going to call them back now!), that I will be answering. My Beloveds would certainly want me to continue with my real estate as I have for 28 years and to relax and try to make a difference however possible. Afterall, that is one blessing that nobody can take from Us...how we respond to life whether it's grieving, happy, healthy or any other conditions...WE ARE ALWAYS IN CHARGE.
God Bless Your February and Be Well.
Thank You for listening!