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In honor of Superbowl Sunday and the AR Challenge presented by Richie Alan Naggar "My Boast a Post" here is a reflection on Multigenerational Living, as so lovingly shared, many times here on ActiveRain, by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD. If you're not a follower of theirs, you're missing out. One of the first posts Debb wrote in reference to Multigeneral Living that resonated with me was the following:  


My story begins in Chicago. My grandparents immigrated from Austria. They had three sons. All of us lived together in one building. Each family had their own flat with separate entrances. When I think back, my grandparents looked so old to me, but then again I only remember my Grandpa until I was five years old. Grandma lived on, until I was eleven years old. Looking at this photograph, to me, she doesn't look past twelve years old! I can't even imagine what it is like to start life in another country, leaving behind other members of my family.


I have been overseas (not Austria) and know how long it takes to fly and how uncomfortable it was to sit and try to sleep on a plane. For me, jet lag is real! I can't imagine what they felt like on a boat traveling across the ocean or how many days it took. Nor can I even imagine how much they left behind to come to America. I'm sure I have traveled with far more than they did and carried more luggage on vacation. What I remember most was how loving and caring my father and his brothers were to their parents. They nurtured them in sickness and in health. My grandparents were never in assisted living or a retirement home. I am sure having five granddaughters, all close in age was quite an experience for them! Since Superbowl Sunday didn't exist at this time in my life, I don't even know how any of them felt about sports. But I do know my father and his brothers spent many times on the lake going fishing.   


The advantages for me having lived in a Multigenertional home are as follows:

  • When mom wasn't there, I could always go to Grandma's house.
  • I was never a latch-key kid. There was always Grandma's house.
  • I didn't need daycare or pre-school; I had my Grandparents.
  • When mom said, "no cookies," I could go across the hall and get some.
  • When I needed comforting, I could sit on Grandpa's lap.
  • When I wanted to play dress-up, Grandpa gave me her hat and jewelry.
  • When my sisters got the Chicken Pox, I slept over at their house.
  • When mom said, "no sugar," Grandma sprinkled sugar on my apples.
  • What mom couldn't teach me, Grandma could.


Grandma and Grandpa were always cooking or baking. Here's their recipe for Vidensky Zavin (Viennese Strudel).



1 3/4 cups flour

3/8 to 1/2 cup warm water

1 whole egg

1 tsp butter, 1/4 tsp salt



1/2 lb of butter (she might have used lard???)

6-8 large apples

3/4 - 1 cup sugar

1/4 cup vanilla wafers (or something like that crushed)

1/4 cup walnuts chopped

Lemon juice if apples are too tart


Sift flour and salt into a deep bowl. Make a well in the center and drop in a whole egg. With fingers gradually add warm water and butter. You can't have any loose flour and dough must leave the sides of the bowl. Keep fingers floured or greased to keep dough from sticking. Make a ball. Knead until blisters appear. Then place dough in bowl, buttering top of dough and cover it with a clean heated dish towel. (She put hers on top the space heater for about 20 minutes - depending on temperature). Since she baked in Chicago, it could take up to 45 minutes before the dough was ready for stretching.  


Place warm pat of dough on a lightly floured clean tablecloth on kitchen table and start stretching using tips of fingers only! Keep stretching until dough extends over the sides of the table and it is paper thin. Trim off edges with clean scissors and then put on filling.


Sprinkle butter on dough, reserving some for the dough that is hanging over the sides of the table. Since there is practically no butter in the dough itself, the dough must be sprinkled with butter, otherwise it's too tough. Sprinkle crushed wafers over dough, then make a row of sliced apples, nuts, and raisins, sugar, cinnamon and then sprinkle butter bits over all. Finally, sprinkle (don't drown) Puerto Rican rum.


Fold up excess dough on 3 sides, buttering all the dough, taking the sheet on the long side, roll the dough, holding the sheet in both hands is very important. Keep rolling until all the dough is rolled up, remembering to butter dough as you roll - place strudel on cookie sheet, lightly greased and bake for 40 minutes in a 350-degree oven. It will be delicately browned. When baked, cut immediately in slices, but do not separate until you serve. This keeps dough from steaming and becoming soggy. Sprinkle with powdered sugar and serve warm.


Note: After Grandpa died, Grandma needed my father or uncles to help her in the kitchen to make this delicious dessert. Kids got to sprinkle sugar! Multigenerational Living with my grandparents, aunts, and uncles (later cousins) was the happiest days of my life. 


In sum, the benefits to multi-generational living have many benefits, financial, emotional, psychological, and physical. As Debb poignantly points out in her many posts on this topic, even her dog benefits! Whether one is a child or a senior there are worries and concerns about their health and well-being. Sometimes, emotional support doesn't have to go further to the school social workers or health providers that deal with mental health, such as Dementia. Also, when family members are taking care of their own, seniors are less likely to be taken advantage of or children being preyed on by strangers. Debb's stories goes to the heart and the core of family safety. This is my two cents worth, as a child from having had that experience of multi-generational living. Debb and Bernie are the experts in this industry when it comes to Multi-generational living in real estate.  (by the way, this last paragraph was added on Monday because it was left out because text kept disappearing when it was originally posted).  

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Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Patricia:

As always you bring deep thought and sensitivity to your posts, and this one has a special flavor with the focus on your groing up in a multigen that speaks so well to what Debb and Bernie preach! Bravo, and congrats on the feature.


Feb 04, 2020 08:06 PM #37
Erik Hiss
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Worthington, OH
You can trust me for all your real estate needs!

Nothing like good ole fashioned family recipes to make oneself and family feel good. Nice!

Feb 05, 2020 07:35 AM #38
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Wednesday morning, Patricia.

Have a great day and an outstanding week.

Feb 05, 2020 09:47 AM #39
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Kris Collis, Associate Broker - There is no denying that the elders who are lucky enough to be around their sons and daughters and grandchilren share family values and traditions. As kids, we were taught to revere our elders, respect one another, share toys and responsibilities. The list goes on...

If you follow Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD posts about multigen living, she references current information about the values it brings to individuals within her family structure. 

I completely agree with you. Not only is this a nostalgic experience, it is very timely too. For example, Daycare, Assisted Living, Retirement Homes are causing financial distress to so many households. In my opinion, a lot of the drama we hear about in the news could be avoided if there was more family unity and respect.

Feb 05, 2020 12:22 PM #40
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Jeff Dowler, CRS - From what I know about you on AR and having the opportunity to speak to you in person when you traveled for CRS Sell-A-Brations to my area, you are a truth-teller. I respect you, very much. You're not the first one who told me I am a "deep thinker." I've been told that just about whole life, most relevantly in High School, College, University, etc. I am aware, some people can't handle that. But that's who I am. It's always nice to get your feedback. Thank you!

Feb 05, 2020 12:27 PM #41
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Erik Hiss - Many, many years ago, I had a plaque hanging in my kitchen. It speaks to family, recipes, and happiness. It goes like this: To make a marriage a happy one, you need a lot of love, and added to it happiness, and things you're dreaming of. Mixed in with pride and caring, and sharing all you do, if you blend these all together, you will have joy and happiness all the things you do. 


Feb 05, 2020 12:31 PM #42
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Roy Kelley - Thank you! After today, I won't be able to get back to AR for a few days. May you have an outstanding week too!

Feb 05, 2020 12:32 PM #43
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

I hadn't learned of your multi-generational living as a youngster until now, Patricia. What warm memories you carry with you. Debb Janes writes beautifully about multi-gen families, houses, benefits, etc. Great post to boost.

Feb 05, 2020 06:43 PM #44
Eva B. Liland Century 21 Doug Anderson
Century 21 Doug Anderson - Lancaster, CA
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I loved reading the story about the multi-generation families that left all the way by boat. I'm sure it wasn't easy but by living together, I think it made it easy adjusting to a new country.

Feb 05, 2020 07:32 PM #45
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

Such a lovely post! We used to live next to my mothers parents and Aunt Lucy lived across the street. My Dad came from Germany with his brother so we never met them.

I could never make that recipe but I have a sister who could... I think I will send it to her!! 

thank you for such a really beautiful story from your beautiful  heart!


Feb 05, 2020 08:02 PM #46
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Lottie Kendall - I agree with you. Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD "writes beautifully about multi-gen families," and her communication skills are superb. When it comes to specializing in a niche that really matters, nobody does it better than Debb. Her family stories are always heartwarming and she knows how to market to this specialized group with the highest integrity. 

Feb 05, 2020 08:02 PM #47
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Eva B. Liland Century 21 Doug Anderson - I am proud that I lived in the melting pot. I am second generation American. My parents are first. It was interesting and fun growing up. Parents made Education top priority. Fathers were Blue Collar. There was drive, committment, appreciation for being in America, everyone was patriotic. Cultures were easy to identify by how the children dressed and how the mothers and grandmothers cooked. Most of the girls wore braids and ribbons in their hair. Mothers wore babushkas. On Sunday everyone dressed up. Adults were very hard working. Home maintenance was also top priority. Everyone had chores, i.e., sweeping sidewalks, pulling weeds, painting fencing, repairing wooden steps and benches, kids waddled like ducks helping mothers carry groceries. Everyone went to Church.  On St. Patrick's Day, everyone was Irish! At Church Carnivals, everyone went and were either Greek, Italian, Polish, Ukrainian, German, Hungarian, etc., for the occasion! Family stories about coming to American were kept secret for many, many years. Nobody was rich. Everybody worked and had responsibilities. 

Feb 05, 2020 08:36 PM #48
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debra Leisek - I like your comment on your family very much! It would be fun to sit and talk with you to swap stories. Those were the days!!! I'll bet your Aunt Lucy was just as cool as my aunts and uncles. We were so close knit and respectful of each other. Everyone pitched in and nobody was special. We were all equal and shared our meals. It was fun!!!

Feb 05, 2020 08:40 PM #49
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

It was certainly wonderful times with lots of love and respect for each other. We were always safe to roam the neighborhood and there was always someone to count on. We were never really alone. Always had backup and never worried about anything. Life was grand in a low key way! We had 5 kids 4 girls and 1 boy. Mom didnt drive so we all walked to the the grocery store and used wagons and carts to bring the groceries home. Mom would start the song 76 Trombone led the big parade and we would sing and dance all the way home. Memories so precious of a life so simple and pure.

Feb 05, 2020 11:55 PM #50
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debra Leisek - Thank you for sharing your precious memories! I loved reading your history about roaming around as a kid without a care in the world! The last line about your Mom starting out singing "76 Trombones," and imagining you and your siblings joining her in song while marching home with groceries is just like a scene from a movie that I could watch over and over and over again! She must have been a great mother and a great entertainer too to get you kids in sync, organized, and enthusiastic about pitching in as a Team to get the chores done. Together you marched to the tune of success!!! Thank you, so much for sharing!!!

Feb 06, 2020 04:55 AM #52
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

There's no opinion more meaningful than coming from one who lived it. You touched upon all the most beautiful aspects of multi-generational living.  It's wonderful that you had such an amazing childhood. As such an eloquent writer, you could be one of the most influential voices behind this genre.

Feb 06, 2020 09:13 AM #53
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® - Silver Spring, MD
M.A.; REALTOR® Silver Spring, MD and beyond

What a fabulous post Patricia which made me reminisce about growing up, and times spent at my grandparents house. Although we didn't live in the same house/hold, we lived close enough that I could take the tram to go see them a lot (which I did!). I have such great memories, my mom's parents house was one of my favorite places to be.

I do know how hard it is to move to a different country & continent leaving your family behind. It is tough, and an emotional roller coaster. You don't quite belong.. as time passes, the gap widens. You never fully arrive in your new home country, and you never fully leave the old one. You miss out on a billion little moments, and have to live with regrets. You spend a fortune on travel and always wish you could be in two places at once. That's it, in a nutshell  

Feb 06, 2020 09:44 AM #54
Raymond Henson, SRES, GRI
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA

Great post!  My grandma was always with us when my parents had to work.  It was wonderful, except she did not drive so we walked, and walked, and walked!  She was a huge baseball fan so that was our thing.  We watched games together and collected baseball cards.  I still have my favorite cards hung on my office wall.

Feb 07, 2020 08:12 AM #55
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Fascinating to see your view and yes Debb is wonderful and does a great job promoting multi-generational living. Love the personal history and thinking about the the changes over time how we all live.

Feb 09, 2020 05:43 AM #56
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

What a beautiful post, Patricia. I enjoyed reading about your family history and your grandparents. Your grandmother sounds like such a gift to have in your life.

Feb 11, 2020 08:08 AM #57
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