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The DELETE Button IS the New MODERATOR!

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Real Estate Agent with Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 UT DRE# 6541633-SA00

The DELETE Button IS the New MODERATOR!

 

Whatever happened to an intellectually stimulating debate between colleagues, friends and family members? Even a respectful, agree-to-disagree mindset has completely taken leave, most likely to never return.

 

In the past, debate teams prepared, then traveled to forums for complex discussions with other students. They used words wisely in persuasive arguments, attacking the subject matter, rather than their opponent.

 

The art of reason and compromise can bring society together, though opinions may differ, to make strong arguments via discussion. Strategic thinking also gives insight on how to best present differing ideas, respectfully.

 

Healthy debate leads to more fulfilling adult relationships and a successful mindset through critical thinking, improving and encouraging:

  • reasoning skills
  • better decisions
  • clearer thoughts

 

Times have definitely changed. We can move forward confidently when avoiding the trap of on-line, hate-filled rhetoric by surrounding ourselves with positive, like-minded people, who use their opinions and words wisely.

 

If necessary though, use that DELETE button to moderate!

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Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! Things have really changed, haven't they?  There are no friendly debates anymore.

Sep 16, 2022 02:58 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Growing up, tolerance was taught and practiced more widely than newer generations. Mutual respect and common courtesy suffer as well, Hannah Williams, unfortunately.

Sep 16, 2022 04:05 PM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Unfortunately the world has added an infinite number of ways to 'hang up' on someone, allowing far too many to stay hidden.  In person views and words tend to be much less hateful.  Courage needed to stand your ground, even when spoken respectfully.  Make it a great weekend.  m 

Sep 16, 2022 05:39 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Wanda- nicely done. The possibility to learn and grow are just two benefits when you listen to what others have to say. It's still our choice to hold tightly to our opinion and agree to disagree or to consider adjusting our thought on the subject. Sadly, name-calling, yelling and personal attacks have become acceptable and the norm. 

Sep 16, 2022 06:57 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Just curious what inspired your post, did some one go bonkers on one of your posts? Sadly I am with you there are people I deleted from my life because they were behaving like JackA.... even on this platform... and they know who they are we do not interact...Endre

Sep 16, 2022 11:47 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Conversating with some people online or family members becomes impossible when there are no filters and especially when everyone wants to be right. I'd rather be happy, Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho!

Sep 17, 2022 08:33 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Thank you, am glad you appreciate the message in this post. Listening respectfully to other people's opinions can bring more insight, along with the information they wish to relay. We could definitely use more of that, Kathy Streib!

Sep 17, 2022 08:47 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Just looking at the way people have resorted to communicating. Some try to strong arm through yelling the loudest or crying foul when they are not getting what they want, Endre Barath, Jr.. Like you, I avoid a few people here because it is the best way for me to move forward!

Sep 17, 2022 10:08 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Sep 17, 2022 07:28 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Thank you so much for the feature, Kathy Streib, very much appreciated!

Sep 17, 2022 07:47 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Wanda. Seek first to understand has been a mantra I have strived to follow. Then to be understood is step two. The result is sometimes good and sometimes you need a "delete" button. Enjoy your day.

Sep 18, 2022 05:36 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! ,

How did I miss this post?? I'm so glad that Kathy Streib featured it in her "Ah-Ha' moments for the week, Listening respectfully to other people's opinions can bring more insight, along with the information they wish to relay. We could definitely use more of that and for the life of me don't understand why name-calling, yelling and personal attacks have become acceptable and the norm. We are better than that..but look at the examples we are seeing and hearing..it's no wonder..no example for the American people.

Sep 18, 2022 06:36 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! we have zilch, nada ability to keep what we hear from going into our brain. We have 100% responsibility to retain what we want to hear and let go of the rest.  What I have found is some people prefer not to discuss with civility and my common response is "we agree to disagree" and then I leave the conversation.  I do mentality delete these folks from my brain.

Sep 18, 2022 06:51 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Your approach is very smart and wise Wayne Martin, More people could use those methods!

Sep 18, 2022 09:01 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Seems that people can be very unreasonable when they refuse to listen to another's view but only want themselves heard, Dorie Dillard Austin TX. I'm hoping more parents will teach their children manners, especially common courtesy.

Sep 18, 2022 09:09 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

I do believe in the phrase...In with the good, out with the bad...of course, that relates to breathing when exercising but I also use it in deciding what remains in my head and what goes, Leanne Smith!

Sep 18, 2022 09:11 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Wanda, you are so right. I have used the delete button judiciously in the past few years. It does seem that there is no stomach for reasoned debate. How sad that everyone can't stop long enough to understand another's view of the world. How do we grow and get challenged in our own beliefs?

Sep 18, 2022 05:32 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

You are one of the most level headed people I know online, Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV, MD. It is becoming more difficult to effectively communicate, especially when opinions differ. People are less to speak their minds for fear of the behavior that may result, like getting verbally or physically attacked or their name smeared in retaliation.

Sep 18, 2022 05:50 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I have heard of so many people who have deleted long term friends from their social media due to differing political opinions and the passion that these opinions invoke. We have lost the ability to compromise in our society and to find a place where we can do what is best for everyone rather than what is best for us or for obtaining power.

Sep 20, 2022 12:30 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Your words ring true, Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543

Social media has become a battle ground of sort for control and to inject poison into people's minds daily. Young people are more prone to believe everything they see online, especially if it closely reminds them of their parent's teachings or lack of guidance on their part.

I pray that manners, instilling strengths, respect of others, work mentality, responsibility and accountability will once again be taught in households to children, rather that depending on everyone else in the world to teach them what come may. It has become brutal out there!

Sep 21, 2022 09:11 AM