Memoir of an aging Zebra.

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Real Estate Agent with Jameson Sotheby's International Realty

It was a number of years ago... the assisted living facility has "misplaced" our mother.

"What do you mean she's missing?"

"Well, she didn't get back to her room after dinner... "

"Dinner?!  It's nine o'clock... dinner was five hours ago...   Mom has been missing for five hours!?"

"Well, we've looked all over the campus, we've checked everyone's rooms, the stairwells, the elevators... we suspect she may have left the building".

"We'll be right there".

My sister and I drove the 30 minutes to the facility and joined in the search.  I drove around the neighbourhood hoping that I would spot her Zebra print jacket that she always wore.  The police had been called, and we gave them a recent picture, and sent them out looking for her.  After all, she could be anywhere in the city of Chicago.

The police determined based on surveillance footage, that she HAD indeed left the building.  I could barely get her to walk to the elevator, but there she was cruising out the front door, and down the street... like a 60-year-old.

Eventually they reviewed the security footage at the grocery store a half mile south of her building, and there she was "sampling" the grapes in the fruit section.  But by the time we got there, she was gone.  Dang she moves fast for an 80-year old with a walker.

It took a couple more hours... and they finally found her walking through the parking lot of the Greek Orthodox church, now, about a 1/2 mile to the NORTH of her building.  She'd walked over a mile.  Amazing.

She was fine... she was surprised to see us "What are you doing here?!" she asked.  "We're here looking for you... where have you been?"  "I've been right here" she said.  "No, you haven't... the police just brought you home".

"Oh!?" she said with a quirky smile... she almost seemed amused.

relief.  I'd love to be back there, now.  Mom's still around... in a more secure facility, and a far away look.

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 ALAN MAY, Realtor®   
Specializing in Evanston Real Estate and North Shore Real Estate

Jameson Sotheby's International Realty, 2934 Central Street, Evanston, IL 60201
Office: 847.869.7300      Cell: 847.924.3313      Email: Almay@aol.com

Evanston Real Estate & North Shore Real Estate
Licensed in Illinois

   

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Mimi Foster
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Oh, Alan. It's hard to find words to respond to this. Having been the caregiver in our home for the last ten years of my mother's life, I can attest to the fact that it's not always easy. I'm so very patient with older people because sooner than I know, I'm going to be one. Really makes you wonder how she made it so far so fast.

Feb 20, 2020 08:31 PM #1
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Geez Alan... I am so sorry that she has that far away look. That just kills me. I remember daddy laying in his bed; just waiting, not being able to see nor hear. Well he is past that now. Miss him terribly. 

Feb 20, 2020 08:45 PM #2
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Good morning Alan. Not a phone call I would like to receive for sure. Glad she is in a more secure location. Enjoy your day! 

Feb 21, 2020 04:16 AM #3
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My mother is 97 and in a local nursing home.... her dementia is progressively worse  but she is physically strong in her wheelchair....those feet can move that chair up and down the hallways and the doors are alarmed.... when one goes off, they all know it's Gladys trying to escape!

Feb 21, 2020 05:38 AM #4
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Oh... that must have been such a difficult evening. So full of worry and frustration. And so sad that now she's stuck inside herself. From personal experience, I know how hard that all is. So sad what brain diseases can do to us.

Feb 21, 2020 05:54 AM #5
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Good morning Alan. What a frightening story. We all have something.....either dealing with the stages of a parents demise or grieving their loss all too soon.

Feb 21, 2020 06:48 AM #6
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right in the feelz...yes, even engineers have them.

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LOL, oh wow, what a relief and so blithe.

And I am glad this was not a trip down the Zebragate memory lane! LOL

Feb 21, 2020 09:13 AM #8
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Alan- my mother was much the same as yours. Physically, she had no problem getting around but it was where she might go that was a concern. But that said, she very content in not knowing. 

Feb 21, 2020 04:29 PM #9
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I'm so sorry. The next time you see her, give her an extra hug from a stranger in Idaho.

Feb 21, 2020 08:34 PM #10
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Hi Alan:

What a dreadful experience to live through. Thank goodness she was alright.

Jeff

Feb 22, 2020 10:21 AM #11
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Oh that's  a scary story...so sad that as we age, often confusion and dementia follow

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My mother just turned 82, I think I will have her fitted with a GPS... glad this Zebra was found

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Oh Alan, what a story.     I'm sorry your mom now has that far-away look.     My mom is fading - my husband never got to meet the former powerhouse brilliant woman / concert pianist she used to be.     But, I'm grateful both parents are still with me.    As you say, sometimes we catch glimpses of who they used to be....

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How wonderfully you regaled a not so funny incident. My heart goes out to you. Give her a hug frim the Jersey Shore. 

 

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Good for her for making the escape and sampling the grapes!  We're all in this same boat it seems.

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That must have been a crazy story.  Thank goodness for cameras!  So sorry, but I guess it is what it is.  We all age one day at a time.  Visiting a client this past week in Assisted Living and he smiled and wouldn't let go of my hand.  Heart warming and sad at the same time.  Losing clients is like losing family sometimes.  All the best to you and your family :)

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