3 Critical Reasons You Need Offline Friends

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Home Stager with Healthyhappyimpactful.com

500 friends on Facebook! Wahoo! And thirty people like my photo. Excellent.

It makes us feel good, our online presence. Sometimes, our photos and posts even serve a purpose, like a business connection or noticing an old neighbor.

But, what they make less time for are the true interactions that make us happy and healthy people.

So, don't forget about those real friends. The ones that come over for dinner at a moment's notice or have your back when you're having a rough time. Here are three critical reasons we all need to put deep friendships over online acquaintances. 

Plus, check out: How to Make New Friends for more on building friendships

1. Friends Support Us in Times of Need

Life is beautiful. But it's also chaotic and sometimes messy. We get down and go through serious hardships. It's much better to go through those hardships with a support group. And, no, an online support group is not the same. They can't hold your tissues for you or give you a hug when you need it. Physical proximity is key. 

2. Deep Conversations

Most online connections tend to be superficial. They make us feel good in the short term but have very little long term value. If you want a great quality of life, you should have a deep conversation with someone that brings you joy every single day. Most often, that takes frequent face to face interaction.

3. Create Life Experiences

Finally, real friendships give us memories and adventures to fill our days.

When you sit down with your grandkids and they ask about your life, what will you tell them? Will you have stories of a life well-lived?

Go on trips with your friends, even if it's just to a new store or restaurant. Life is about experiences, and online friends can't give you that.

In Conclusion

Technology is fantastic when used correctly, but we tend to overrate our online friends and discount our real ones. Be sure that you're putting deep and meaningful before shallow and superficial when it comes to your life.

 

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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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I treasure my face-to-face time with friends. It is so life affirming. A great support system is essential to our health and well-being. Great post, Jennifer. D 

Mar 08, 2020 08:36 AM #3
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Raymond Henson, SRES, GRI
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I agree with you 100%, we really do need our offline friends.  They really are our core.  What I have liked about social media is that it has connected me again with some of my great friends that I had lost touch with and it has been great fun getting to interact again.  It has also helped me to connect with new friends, but it has been offline that has deepened the friendships.

Mar 08, 2020 10:20 AM #4
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Kat Palmiotti
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I totally agree. My "real-life" friends and I have a blast, and I wouldn't give them up for anything.

Mar 08, 2020 10:21 AM #5
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
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Jennifer,

I would not give up my real friends.  One of the members, Eva B. Liland Century 21 Doug Anderson  forwarded this cartoon to me!   That says so much!

Mar 08, 2020 11:26 AM #6
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Grant Schneider
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Hi Jennifer Kropf - I completely agree with this.  Number one has been very important for me.

Mar 08, 2020 12:07 PM #7
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Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Vision Quest Realty - Lewisburg, WV
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I've made some great friends since moving to Lewisburg WV. This post is right on. Some people live for FB. I agree that technology is fantastic when used correctly, but a lot of my friends/family do overrate our online friends and discount our real ones. I have one niece that I had to unfriend....she was doing so many videos of just pure nonsense... showing what her cats where doing, family photos... it just got to be nonsense... who cares! I told her she needed to get out more and enjoy life, and get off of the social media. But, she only laughed and said "Oh, I have to many followers". 

Mar 08, 2020 01:10 PM #8
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Kris Collis, Associate Broker
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Jennifer,  You've hit on such an important topic that does not get much attntion but is totally true nonetheless.  It's the difference between real friends and internet acquaintances that have their place but can never replacee true friends.

Mar 09, 2020 01:34 AM #9
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Steffy Hristova
HomeSmart Elite Group Tempe AZ Tel: 480-966-9353 - Tempe, AZ
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Hi Jennifer, Yes, live interactions with friends have its irreplaceable value. While I keep in touch with people via FB, meetings in person add so much more.

Mar 09, 2020 07:49 AM #10
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Sharon Tara
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I can see how we as a society could end up with mostly all social media friendships at some point....

For me it's mostly family that I spend my time with. I've never been much of a social person, and as I get older more so. 

Mar 10, 2020 08:30 AM #11
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So many of my offline friendships started as online friendships (right, Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD?). And I value the time together just catching up with "real" people. Good post! 

Mar 10, 2020 03:39 PM #12
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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You got it Mimi Foster

Mar 10, 2020 03:46 PM #13
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Michael Prall
Fort Smith Real Estate Co. - Fort Smith, AR

Gosh I could expand on this topic so much. We all realize, especially in business how important it is to stay relevant. It’s also very time consuming and has potentially impacted how people interact altogether. I often miss the high school days before smart phones. People were less demanding my time, and would actually wait for me to call them back. I can have thousands of faces on Faces on the screen but no one there when I’m feeling the need for social.

So I’ll keep brainstorming about this because I’ve been inspired. Thank you.

Mar 10, 2020 06:53 PM #14
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Diana Dahlberg
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You Nailed this one Jennifer Kropf ... as nice as it is to have lots of FB or social media "friends" nothing compares to that face-to-face get-together with family and friends.  I love staying "in touch" on line but I enjoy even more the intimacy of friendship in real live person!  No comparison.

Mar 10, 2020 07:02 PM #15
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Thomas J. Nelson, Realtor e-Pro, CRS, RCS-D, Vets
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While I appreciate, understand and support your post, I find it amusing it's a topic (and a necessary one these days)...it's my age I guess. I only have in-person friends. I'm old school and I do not consider "digital only" people my true friends. I consider them friendly acquaintances or community friends, or business friends. My true friends and I have broken bread, toasted many drinks, shared laughs and tears and memories. We've hugged, shaken hands and high fived. We've endured loss, problems and celebrated big moments. We've vacationed together, networked and been in each others homes. If you are someone I met online only, you're not my friend, you're a friendly...but the door is always open to being my friend. 

Mar 10, 2020 08:46 PM #16
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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This is wonderful, Jennifer. Online friendships are one thing...and often they become person, IRL friends, but it's the deep friendships away from social media that remain the most important.

Mar 10, 2020 08:58 PM #17
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
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One reason I enjoy coming to the office every day is...the conversations with friends and fellow agents in the office!  We discuss current events, movies, local happenings, work out problems, discuss new listings...I thrive on this.  Good post!

Mar 11, 2020 08:45 AM #18
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John Dotson
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Two of the problems of technology is it make us think we are loved - worldwide

and...

Our opinion is the majority opinion.  Both likely to be incorrect.

Real friends and real family - the true source of "likes"

 

Mar 11, 2020 02:10 PM #19
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We live in Florida off a dog friendly beach by the ocean. We know the dogs names first then the owners and daily we see the regulars and it is always positive and reinforces the goodness in people.

Mar 11, 2020 06:53 PM #30
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Greg Mona
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Great post, Jennifer Kropf! Your conclusion was spot on...  Technology is fantastic when used correctly, but we tend to overrate our online friends and discount our real ones. Be sure that you're putting deep and meaningful before shallow and superficial when it comes to your life.

Mar 12, 2020 10:19 AM #31
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I so appreciate your post.  But sometimes when we haven't seen our friends in person, they pop up in Facebook, reminding us to get face to face again! 

Mar 17, 2020 10:26 AM #32
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