Because of the Corona virus, my calendar has changed dramatically from the Sunday evening plan I set for the week. Today, Thursday, Friday and the weekend now look entirely different than they did two days ago due to all the canceled events, meetings, concerts, potluck dinners and theater productions, and companies having their employees working from home.
There are some silver linings to having much more "white space" in my calendar. For instance:
- my commute to the Peninsula yesterday to tour properties and show a property to a prospective buyer (real estate continues to march on) was a breeze! Traffic was almost non-existent, and because of that my round trip was cut almost in half!
- today, with the cancellation of three back to back meetings and appointments I had an unstructured time block from 9:30 to 3:30.
Some of that extra time was spent on client-facing activities--phone calls, emails, updating a market analysis. Some was spent on personal activities such as checking in with friends and family, planning a dinner or two.
And some time was spent on an activity that often has to wait for weekends -- walking to my garden plot at Fort Mason Community Gardens.
Today's mission: plant some tulips bulbs (I know it's not the season, but something needed to be done with them. I'm hoping nutrients from the foliage will return to the bulbs and a few might have the strength to re-bloom next spring!) and some sugar snap peas. I picked the last daffodil of the season and a number of lemons; herbs I had plenty of at home already.
The garden is a happy place, and the 20-minute walk there and 20-minutes back (uphill!) gives me time to think.
Today I found myself thinking about an on-line article I read a week or so ago.
The author talked about how some people apologize far too often, which makes them appear weak, both to others and to themselves. I wish I could credit the source, but I didn't realize what an impression the words would make.
She suggested replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you." "Thank you for waiting for me" instead of "I'm sorry I'm late." Or how about "thank you for understanding why dinner wasn't ready when planned" And again, "thank you for being kind with me today" instead of "I'm sorry I was snappish today."
People love to be thanked--it makes them feel good. Imagine different scenarios when you are the speaker of the words--how do you feel? Then, turn it around and imagine someone saying each of those phrases to you. Which makes you feel better and more understanding?
I'm going to try to use "thank you" when appropriate instead of "I'm sorry" in the upcoming week. Interesting idea, is it not?