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Thoughts On Our Homes As A Safe Refuge In These Trying Times

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Real Estate Agent with Coldwell Banker Realty 179530

 

We always speak of home ownership as the "American Dream" and we've long thought of our homes as a great investment. For those of us who sell real estate, the financial investment aspect of home buying and selling is typically the primary thing we discuss with our clients. So it's easy to overlook the fact that our homes also are/should be safe havens for ourselves and our families. Our homes being our safe havens and  places of refuge is more important than ever as we all live through the Coronavirus pandemic and are being asked to shelter in place as much as possible.

 

As Sally Clarkson said:  "We need a home—but not just any home. Home needs to be a haven of safety, acceptance, and unconditional love, a place where we can rest and find refuge from all the devastating and depleting parts of life. When the storms and difficulties come, home should be the first line of defense against despair. This is why we must guard our homes as if they were our very lifelines. Because they are!"

 

Sally Crane got it right... our homes do need to be havens of safety... places of refuge from the devasting parts of life such as we are experiencing right now, and the first line of defense against despair.

 

Although I've always considered my homes my refuge from the world and my private place to recharge, I'm looking at my home very differently these days... as a physical safe haven -- something I've never given much thought to in the past... maybe because I didn't need to until now. I'm also realizing more than ever that maintaining a mindset of safety and positiveness is totally in my hands. And I dare say that after this pandemic is over, most of us will never look at our homes in quite the same way. I know that I won't.

 

 

"For safety is not a gadget but a state of mind."

... Eleanor Everet

 

"Safety is 30% common sense; 80% compliance and the rest is good luck."

... Barry Spud

 

"Precaution is better than cure."

... Edward Coke

 

"The safety of the people shall be the highest law."

... Marcus Tullius Cicero

 

"Safety from external danger is the most powerful director of national conduct."

... Alexander Hamilton

 

"It is better to be safe than sorry."

... America Proverb

 
 
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 Nina Hollander, RE/MAX Broker, Realtor

 

 

 

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Debbie Gartner
The Flooring Girl - White Plains, NY
The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers

Yes, I'm so glad to own my home (and glad they are giving a grace period for mortgage payments for those that need it).

Mar 22, 2020 11:22 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi hi Gene... sometimes it takes a crisis like the one we are living through to remind us of what's important in our lives and why.

Mar 22, 2020 11:29 AM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi

Very true, Nina Hollander ...

Mar 23, 2020 10:09 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 hi NIck... our homes as our safe places and sanctuaries are ever more important these days. I suspect many of us will not forget this for a long time.

Mar 22, 2020 11:30 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Debbie Gartner hi Debbie... I'm deighted that our government is stepping in in this regard... it will avoid the kind of crash we had in 2008/2009.

Mar 22, 2020 11:31 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Nina Hollander - I have a work office but I spend a lot of time conducting business in my home.  What makes me relate to your blog is when I come home from a vacation of any kind. Whether it is 2 days or 30 days,  I am always so glad to be home!

Mar 22, 2020 12:04 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® hi Sheri... I only ever run into the office to deliver checks, make copies, go to a meeting. I meet clients there in one of our conference rooms... but otherwise, it all happens in my office at home.

Mar 22, 2020 12:19 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Nina Hollander ,

So glad that Kathy Streib featured your post on her "Ah-ha" moments for the week post. I've always looked our home as a refuge, a safe harbor. At first when my Geno passed away I found it difficult to be here as it reminded me of "Our place" and was so difficult to walk through the door and not see him. Now I'm grateful beyond words to have the lovely home I have as a safe refuge..he is still here just not in the physical sense.

Mar 22, 2020 04:29 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR hi Dorie... I am so happy that your home has again become more of refuge than a place of sorrow. After my mother died and I was going back and forth to NYC to clear out her home, it always felt strange to walk through her door and not find her there. So I can relate to how you may have been feeling those first weeks after Geno died.

Mar 23, 2020 05:06 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

The emotional value of owning a home has become even more evident in the last few weeks, hasn't it Nina?  Even though there seems to be a grace period coming for those with mortgages, owning a home free and clear is one huge security blanket. It's something for everyone to strive for as one more layer of comfort and security in life. 

Mar 23, 2020 11:44 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Carol Williams hi Carol... for sure, the last few weeks have clearly shown that one's home is more than four walls and a roof.

Mar 23, 2020 12:02 PM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

Words well spoken (or written)!  I am so thankful to have a safe haven well away from any large population centers, with our own supply of water and power as well.  It's going to be a long and tough course we're on.

Mar 25, 2020 09:08 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089 thank you, Georgie. Strange times we are living in right now... nothing much we can do but live day by day and look forward to a better tomorrow. Stay well and safe.

Mar 26, 2020 05:24 AM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

What a thoughtful, eloquent post Nina!  Let's hope that pesky virus isn't in any of our homes--scary to know it can live on surfaces for so long.

Mar 26, 2020 05:26 PM
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

My home is definitely a Safe Spot ... a place of peace, safety, comfort, privacy, and a place to bring my family and friends for special times together.

Thank you for this blog.  Very insightful.

Love and say often ...

"It is better to be safe than sorry."

... America Proverb

Mar 26, 2020 08:06 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR thanks, Mary, for stopping by and the kind comment. Right now, I won't even go there in my thoughts as to the virus coming into my house... can't live being paranoid! :)

Mar 27, 2020 04:54 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Diana Dahlberg good morning, Diana. Thanks for the nice comment and for popping by. How often did we hear from parents and teachers when we were growing up that it's better to be safe than sorry? Those words can't be truer than they are today. Stay well!

Mar 27, 2020 04:56 AM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

Nina, we have observed a trend for people wanting to get out of apartments due to the virus and into single family homes as a safe place.

Mar 28, 2020 10:40 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Joe Pryor hi Joe... I was thinking about that kind of living just a few days ago after talking with my former partner in NYC... his coop on Fifth Avenue had just had its first corona virus diagnosis. Of course, I lived in buildings like that all my life until we moved to Charlotte in 1998. And I never gave it a second's thought about living so close to other people, taking elevators, pushing elevator buttons, etc.

Mar 28, 2020 11:09 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Great post!  Being at home so much I definitely have been making changes, doing projects, and finishing other projects.  I'm happy to be where I am and hope others have a safe place to be! 

Apr 01, 2020 07:17 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Jan Green good morning, Jan... thank you. I've been at home, but can't say I've focused much on home projects... more on work projects.

Apr 02, 2020 05:33 AM