The Best Defense Against Anxiety Is Action

Home Stager with Sharon Tara Transformations

As most of us find ourselves COVID-19 self quarantined and/or isolated in one way or another, I thought it a good time to discuss anxiety.

With the current state of the world more people are finding themselves experiencing some level of anxiety.

Personally, I've been anxious my entire life. I have quite a bit of experience with it, and as for controlling it....I'm better at giving advice to others than I am at calming myself. 

That said, I'm doing much better than expected through all of this.

The unknown and the feeling of a lack of control are huge anxiety triggers.

We are getting misinformation, and mixed messages daily...hourly if you spend any time online.

Yes it's very hard to process it all, and it's easy to get all worked up.

It's very easy to point fingers and cast blame. Guilty as charged.


BUT...there IS valuable, very important COVID-19 information available...

information that can save lives. 


*Wash your hands often

*Don't touch your face

*Disinfect surfaces (don't forget your phone)

*Stay 6' away from people

*No group gatherings (My biggest group right now is 2)

*Don't take Advil (Ibuprofen) if you do have any symptoms

*Drink lots and lots of water. Staying hydrated helps your lungs fight the virus.


These things seem too simple to be a solution. We know how to fix this.


Unfortunately, there is no quick solution. The best minds working on this don't have the answers we want. All we can do at this time is follow the advice in hopes of slowing down the spread.

Protect yourself and others, and reduce the length of this crisis, by following the advice of our scientists and doctors.


As for the anxiety.... 


The best defense against anxiety is ACTION.

Restore your self confidence and feel more in control by DOING.


Staying busy is crucial to reducing anxiety and stress. 

Housecleaning may not sound like much fun, but staying busy is not only an amazing distraction, it creates a sense of accomplishment which is very empowering.

Organize closets, drawers, bookshelves, medicine cabinets.

Clean inside the refrigerator, oven, microwave.

Tackle the garage, attic, or basement that you have been meaning to tackle for years.

Create something...paint, sew, build something to keep your hands and mind busy.

Organize your desk, your files, old photos.



One of my first clients was a woman who wanted help organizing her home office. The room was small and extremely cluttered. The idea of attempting to organize this room was overwhelming.

We started with the filing cabinet.  Convinced everything was too important to discard, she reluctantly agreed to see if she could purge anything.  She was surprised at how much she was storing that she no longer needed.

As the trash bags filled, she got more and more excited.  After reclaiming seventy-five percent of the cabinet space, she was motivated to tackle the closet.  

Next, we removed all pictures and miscellaneous items tacked and taped to the walls and replaced them with inspirational art work. We rearranged the furniture.

The room was transformed from a crowded, cluttered and depressing space to one of organization and tranquility. 

Days later she called to let me know how much her life had improved.  The sense of accomplishment and pride she felt from improving the office motivated her to tackle other rooms.  She only wished she had acted sooner and hadn't allowed anxiety to steal so much of her valuable time.


We all have unpleasant or daunting things on our to-do list. Tasks we avoid.  Unfortunately, avoidance gives them power over us.

Every time we pass by the cluttered room, or the stack of paperwork or the incomplete home improvement project we feel anxious.


This extra time at home we are now experiencing can be put to good use. Not only can you get things can distract yourself from feeling anxious...reassure yourself that you actually do still have some control.


Doing something you dread

is never as bad as

the anticipation of doing something you dread.


  When you find yourself worrying, feeling anxious

and no longer in control....consider action as the solution.



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Comments (58)

Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

What I feel is profound sadness.  I'm not getting to see my parents, my parents are not getting to see their great grandson.  My heart just hurts.

Mar 29, 2020 08:44 PM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

One needs to learn to medidate and find things to keep occupied. For men it is doing push ups, weights, or sit ups at home.  Jog or long walk. We got at least 2 more months of vacation and it will come out just fine.

Mar 30, 2020 07:15 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Grant Schneider  I have a feeling that more and more people are becoming familiar with anxiety as this whole thing progresses.

Stay busy!

Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR  No, it's not worth it. Do what is best for you and your sanity! Sometimes people can be just too much.

Tammy Lankford,  I feel anxious, angry and sad. Some days more of one than the others.

My parents are in Florida and Dad is having heart surgery, as I write this. My sister is there, but she and my mom could not enter the hospital with him. He had to enter alone. Breaks my heart.

Sam Shueh I've tried to meditate and not had any luck at it. Taking a walk does help alot. We have been walking every day, rain or shine.

Mar 30, 2020 07:52 AM
Tammy Lankford,

that is 100% heartbreaking Sharon and I cannot imagine that kind of stress.

Mar 30, 2020 07:56 AM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Wonderful post, Sharon Tara ... you not only speak about conquering anxiety, but you also provide a roadmap as to how to do it.  Perfect ... thank you!


Mar 30, 2020 09:19 AM
Anne Corbin
Long and Foster - Lake Anna - Spotsylvania, VA
Serving Lake Anna & Central Virginia

Great post. Varied in content and very useful info. Thanks for sharin

Apr 01, 2020 06:23 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi 

Thank you! I just hope it helps. I know it really works for me.

Anne Corbin  I'm glad you found it useful! Thank you!

Apr 01, 2020 07:00 AM
Brian L. Sirota, Esq.
Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney) - Orange, CA
For Solutions: (714) 501-7660

Sharon,  let me say:

How brave you are to share a vulnerability; 

How gracious of you to open yourself to comments which may not recognize or comprehend how you're feeling, and 

How generous of you to offer advice to distract from circumstantially  induced anxiety from someone who experiences it without inducement.

Wonderful post Sharon.

Apr 01, 2020 09:01 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Brian L. Sirota, Esq.  Thank you so much! There was a time, when I was younger, that I wouldn't be willing to talk about having anxiety...wouldn't be strong enough to put myself out there. I've come a long way. I've learned a lot over the years regarding what helps and what doesn't help.

I really appreciate your comment and kind words.

Apr 01, 2020 09:39 AM
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

What a womderful feeling you must get by helping people declutter and enjoy their space/rooms again!  I love this post!  It's so important to take action and take some "control" over a lifestyle right now that is silenced by this virus!

Apr 01, 2020 08:14 PM
Sally Crane
WMS - Unity, WI
Woodland appraisal support.

This is so true, sitting still does lead to anxiety, best to find something important to work on and displace your mental energy.


ps, Happy Birthday!!

Apr 02, 2020 01:42 AM
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

Keeping busy is certainly the best way to keep from going bonkers.  Busy yourself with things that you should have done a long time ago or are putting off!  Love this quote: Doing something you dread

is never as bad as the anticipation of doing something you dread.

Apr 02, 2020 04:47 AM
Laura Filip
Laura Filip Broker , Opening doors for All Seasons of Life - Whitesboro, TX
What can we do for you today?

Thank you for sharing this with us. Getting up and staying busy is an important task. As I have been pausing and going for a walk with my new pup Casey There are several items that I will no longer take for granted as I move forward in life. 

Apr 02, 2020 08:53 AM
Francine Viola
Coldwell Banker Evergreen Olympic Realty, Olympia WA - Olympia, WA
REALTOR®, In Tune with your Real Estate Needs

I can very much relate to you and this post.  For me, I call this "needing a project."  If I don't have a project to do and COMPLETE, I go nuts no matter if I'm ordered to stay at home or not.  Great post!!

Apr 02, 2020 10:36 AM
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

I have to be honest, my struggle is not anxiety, but I am very familiar as a number of precious family members deal with this in different ways.  Your advise ... is so positive and encouraging.

 The best defense against anxiety is ACTION 

Apr 02, 2020 02:33 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Jan Green  It is very satisfying to help others. I'm retired now, but I do still take on a job here and there. Seeing how happy and excited they get when they see the changes is wonderful!

Sally Crane  Staying busy has saved my sanity many many times. Thank you for the birthday wishes!

John Henry, Florida Architect  I know from personal experience how painful the anticipation can be.  Today I stayed busy by making face masks for myself and my husband.


Apr 02, 2020 04:00 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Laura Filip  My husband and I have been walking every day. I'm sorry to say we missed yesterday and today because the weather was just terrible. Hoping to get back out there tomorrow.

Francine Viola  A project can be a sanity saver for sure. Today's project for me was making face masks. 

Diana Dahlberg  My heart goes out to your family members. It's not easy living with anxiety. It does seem to run in families. It sure runs in mine.

Apr 02, 2020 04:04 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Happy Easter, Sharon!  I hope you are remaining well and safe!

Apr 12, 2020 08:13 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Myrl Jeffcoat  Thank you! We are well and making the best of staying home. Hope you and your family are well too.

Apr 14, 2020 11:56 AM
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

You are CORRECT about this.  Action will beat anxiety away.  One cannot stay inert.  Very damaging on several levels.  I did exactly that during the last recession and came out very badly!  Thanks for this shot in the arm!

Apr 30, 2020 09:27 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

John Henry, Florida Architect  I'm happy the information served as a reminder to you. We are all going to get through this...hopefully sooner rather than later.

Apr 30, 2020 11:47 AM