What I am about to share today is my version of being real. It mixes with homeowners who might be ready to “lose” their home and have that end of the world feeling. It is for anyone reading this that feels they have struggles that no one else understands. It is about perspective and why you should check yours. As entrepreneurs we have battles that not many others see, or we try to hide because we feel ashamed of struggles when, in reality, struggles and overcoming them is a chance to grow for all of us.
I title this post as such because anything can be used for our benefit even though it might not be easy. I have already been hearing stories from investors about how they were able to help someone who was on the brink of selling but holding on right before this worldwide change. How a loss of a job forced or is forcing that person to sell. These are not easy situations because homes are attached to real people, with real stories, real memories and real emotions. The issue is that many times in life that we are trying to not lose something that should be in our past… it’s holding us back from a better future we could have never imagined without overcoming that struggle.
I spoke with a gentleman yesterday that was able to help a lady whose property was tied up in a divorce and debt. That then coupled with the Coronavirus changes had her thinking it would be the end of the world in early March. Because he believes he’s here to serve, rather than just make money, he ended up getting the deal, helping the lady out of serious debt, letting her stay in the property while arrangements are made and even though it was an extremely emotional process for her… she pushed passed her boundaries. Someone helped her out of a “end of world” feeling situation. He offered a service better than his competitor because he focused on a solution for her.
You see, I earned the right to speak about how emotions, addictions and depression and struggles can help us grow. The worlds outlook like those addiction commercials with sad music on in the background is wrong. We are blessed to have struggles if we let them give us a chance to grow better. Years and years ago I almost lost everything due to depression, alcoholism and addiction. I was ashamed, lost and couldn’t hide it anymore. I flipped a car, battled with addiction and alcoholism and was on a downward spiral and escaped without a scratch (physically). In that moment, the “end of the world” feeling struggle, I changed. I realized it wasn’t normal to think and act as I had been. I went for help. God pointed me towards a place where I went for 9 months to educate myself on the real foundation of depression, alcoholism and addiction… Emotions! The inability to control emotions and how to learn to control them and use them. Regardless of how we get there, it was all tied to uncontrollable emotions.
I’m sharing this today because I no longer see my struggles as that, a struggle. I see it as a sports game that I practiced at getting better and won. Now, I feel that if I could go through that much loss and recovery then it is the struggles that life gives us that make us stronger, a better person. We all want this perfect life and it’s easy to hide struggles and just show everyone the Facebook version of ourselves, but it will grind us down to nothing.
I remember as I had recently finished my 9 months and how, still, ashamed I was to share my story. How selfish that was because since then I realized 2 things. Being who you really are is extremely attractive to the right people and anyone who doesn’t see it as attractive shouldn’t be in your life anyway. Also, that my story could help people, cause a seed of a thought in someone’s mind that might be able to benefit from discussing with someone who can understand struggle better than most.
If you have a struggle that you’re still trying to hide, feel free to reach out to me and discuss it as I’ll be one of the most confidential ears to listen you might find.
Although this Covid-19 situation isn’t a positive one… you have the opportunity to use it as a steppingstone to help people out of tough situations as investors. If you are the seller, it’s the opportunity to put a period at the end of a sentence and start writing a new book instead of trying to edit the old book with torn pages.
I hope you are staying safe and start to look at situations as opportunities to grow, not as struggles that make life harder. It’s all about perspective and if you need a nudge in the right direction, feel free to reach out to me.