Admin

A Childhood Lesson to Remember if You Want to Be Remembered

By
Real Estate Agent with Dirt Road Real Estate SA676002000

Maybe because I am older, I remember from my childhood my mother setting me down at the kitchen table to write thank you cards for Birthday and Christmas gifts. She would address the envelopes when I was younger. As I grew up and my handwritting improved, I addressed the envelopes myself. I passed this childhood lesson onto my daughter who has passed it onto her daughter.

 

For me sendinga personal handwritten thank you card is one of the simplest ways to acknowledge the generosity of others as well as to differentiate your professionalism from others. I also believe this action reveals a higher level of emotional intelligence.

 

In the past four weeks I have snailed mailed five thank you cards to three Listing Agents, one Title Officer and one Lending Officer who were beyond helpful during close of escrow (COE). Without their attention to the various aspects during COE from inspections to appraisers, I sincerely doubt if any of the transactions would make it to a successful close. Two homes have closed and the third one is due to close at the end of the month ands the fourth to close next month. Additionally, I send personal handwritten cards to my real estate clients after COE.

 

Yesterday I worked with another listing agent to address repairs requested by an appraiser. We painted trim around 4 doors and painted two exterior doors. My husband graciously volunteered to help as well. Within 3 hours, all painting was completed. Today she is also receiving a thank you card.

 

Writing personal handwritten thank you cards and mailing them through the United States Postal Service has always demonstrated to me to be an excellent sales skill. I have shared this simple sales skill with my executive coaching clients and they have received very positive feedback as well.

 

Possibly this is because of the words echoed years ago by President Teddy Roosevelt:

 

"No one cares how much you know

until they know how much you care."

 

Graphics courtesy of Pixabay.com

Posted by

Leanne M. Smith, MS, GRI, rCRMS

2018 KGVAR Rookie Realtor of the Year-55+
219.508.2859 MST
Life Begins Where the Pavement Ends
Connect with me on LinkedIn:
http://www.linkedin.com/in/leannehoaglandsmith

Comments(21)

Show All Comments Sort:
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I keep telling myself I'm going to start doing this, but I haven't yet. Shame on me! I always wrote thank you notes as a child as well. Geez.

Apr 16, 2020 08:04 AM
Leanne Smith

Yes we do lose childhood habits and sometimes need to resume them as adults.  Please let me know your results once you start this old habit.  Thanks for sharing your experience Kat Palmiotti 

Apr 16, 2020 09:14 AM
Claude Labbe
RLAH / @properties - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

Many times I'll get a call and someone says "I can't quite read what you wrote".  Sometimes they've sent a photo so I can deceipher for them.  Clearly I needed to listen to my 4th grade penmanship teacher more.

Apr 16, 2020 01:07 PM
Leanne Smith

Yes we all may need to becareful of your handwriting. Mine is rather artistic and flowing.  Thank you for sharing that point. Claude Labbe 

Apr 17, 2020 06:01 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Leeanne I've long been a fan of writing personal thank you's. Often times when I visit the business associate, client or friends place of business or home I will see the note displayed. That's when I know they appreciate me taking the time to say thank you (or whatever message is appropiate).  I realize this is an 'old school' way of doing things....but it is more powerful than most would think. 

Apr 16, 2020 02:30 PM
Leanne Smith

I too have see notes displayed or have a client share one I wrote when we meet in person. Thank you Anna Banana Kruchten CRB,CRS,GRI,WLS 

Apr 17, 2020 06:00 AM
Laura Filip
Laura Filip Broker , Opening doors for All Seasons of Life - Whitesboro, TX
Real Life Realty

Thank you cards are great to receive and to give out. Have a great day. 

Apr 16, 2020 04:56 PM
Leanne Smith

Thank you Laura Filip, stay safe and well.

Apr 17, 2020 05:59 AM
Susan Rupert
Kissinger Bigatel & Brower REALTORS - State College, PA
ABR, CRS, e-PRO, MCNE, SRES, REALTOR

Leanne, I try to send out handwritten notes after each closing and if I am out and run into a past client I send them a handwritten note as well. It's just a nice thing to do and nobody is really doing that.  Thanks

Apr 16, 2020 06:54 PM
Leanne Smith

Good idea for sharing with past clients who you run into, thanks Susan Rupert 

Apr 17, 2020 05:59 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Leanne:

Sending handwritten thank you notes (and other kinds of notes) is such a simple yet meaningful thing to do. I always send cards after a transaction closes, something which I RARELY ever receive. And I know past clients appreciate them, and remember, as I sometimes get thank you emails, or those I do repeat business with mention them as part of my staying in touch. No doubt I could do more!

Maybe this is old school, or something basic, but it works and it's memorable!

Jeff

Apr 16, 2020 08:20 PM
Leanne Smith

Again I believe many of the "old school" sales skills are even more relevant today Jeff Dowler, CRS Some believe technology is a sales skill, but it more of a tool.

Apr 17, 2020 05:58 AM
Susan McCall - - Compass Realty Solutions
Compass Realty Solutions - Portland, OR
Listing and Buyer's Agent

Great reminder, and people do love to get something in the mail, as opposed another email!!!!

Apr 16, 2020 09:07 PM
Leanne Smith

Yes Susan McCall, Loving the Northwest getting something in the mail still stirs usually positive emtions.

Apr 17, 2020 05:57 AM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

Its so old its new! Thank you Cards are a lost art! Takes so little but gives so much!!  People like getting something nice in the mail. Plus these days it helps support our Post Office! Win Win! 

Apr 17, 2020 02:00 AM
Leanne Smith

How often is what is old is new Debra Leisek Great point and thank you.

Apr 17, 2020 05:56 AM
Sham Reddy CRS
Howard Hanna RE Services, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
CRS

Great ideas, thanks for sharing!

Writing personal handwritten thank you cards and mailing them through the United States Postal Service has always demonstrated to me to be an excellent sales skill. I have shared this simple sales skill with my executive coaching clients and they have received very positive feedback as well.

Apr 17, 2020 04:30 AM
Leanne Smith

My pleasure Sham Reddy CRS 

Apr 17, 2020 05:56 AM
Kristina Davy
Hexagon Real Estate - Diamond, IL
Realtor focused on Grundy, Kendall & Will County

Could't agree more! Always feel a handwritten thank you card has so much more a personal touch and thoughtfulness than sending a Facebook or email thank you.

Apr 17, 2020 06:29 AM
Leanne Smith

Glad to read so many already engage in this great childhood habit. Thank you Kristina Davy 

Apr 17, 2020 07:11 AM
Rob Spinosa
US Bank - Larkspur, CA
Mortgage Loan Originator, Marin County

I send at least three handwrittens a week.  It is a task on my weekly planner.  Sometimes the exercise of determining who to send to is as valuable as the act itself.  I try to do these on Monday morning, which I hope sets my mind in a more grateful tone for the week ahead.  It doesn't always work, but it's a step in the right direction.  :-)

Apr 17, 2020 07:23 AM
Leanne Smith

What a great habit. One of my colleagues from my executive coaching and consulting practice had a similar daily habit. I agree about setting the mind in a more grateful tone. Thank you Rob Spinosa 

Apr 17, 2020 07:25 AM
Ricardo Mello

Great idea Rob!

Apr 19, 2020 07:55 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Leanne - I admit that this is a longtime habit that has been cast away.  A thoughtful reminder.  

Apr 17, 2020 07:56 AM
Leanne Smith

Good morning and thank you.  As said earlier what was old is now new. Take care and stay safe, Michael Jacobs 

Apr 17, 2020 10:18 AM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-801-5525

Leanne, Old school is new school. Human nature responds to the personal touch.  AI robot brains need not become realtors.  Thank you for your story that will inspire us all to spend time where it counts, building relationships.Personal notes are another sign of excellence and standing out from the crowd.

Apr 17, 2020 11:16 PM
Leanne Smith

Well stated Kris Collis, Associate Broker 

Apr 18, 2020 06:34 AM
Joe Manausa - Tallahassee, FL
Joe Manausa Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Tallahassee Real Estate

Great reminder Leanne Smith ... but I can't read my own handwriting any longer 

Apr 18, 2020 04:18 AM
Leanne Smith

You are more than welcome Joe Manausa and thanks for the chuckle.

Apr 18, 2020 06:34 AM
Matthew Klinowski, PA
Downing Frye Realty - Naples, FL
Naples Golf Guy | Find Your Dream Lifestyle

Good morning Leanne, I'm a big fan of hand written Thank You cards. I always do them with a closing gift. I should start doing them more often with others I work with. Thanks for the post which has motivated me to make this a bigger part of my process.

Apr 18, 2020 04:50 AM
Leanne Smith

A key word Matthew Klinowski, PA is process. Glad you read you have one. Thank you for sharing.

Apr 18, 2020 06:35 AM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Weichert Realtors, Welch and Company - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

I send a hand written thank you card to my clients and referrals.  And birthday cards!! What I do not care for is generic hand written thank yous that I sometimes get from vendors--always with the same generic message.

Apr 18, 2020 12:09 PM
Leanne Smith

Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR I also do not like the cards that look handwritten as well or the generic messages.  Cards in my humble opinion should be personal.

Apr 19, 2020 06:04 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Leanne Smith ,

congratulations on a well deserved featured post. Good manners and attention to things that matter never go out of style.

Apr 18, 2020 03:57 PM
Leanne Smith

Good morning Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR and thank you for the acknowledgement.  Your last sentence is so very true.

Apr 19, 2020 06:03 AM
AndreaBFerreira CRS - SRS - CLHMS
Keyes Co. - Davie, FL
Miami Dade, Broward and Palm Beach County in FL

Thank you, birthdays (whole family), Christmas, new job and house anniversary are on my list to keep everyone in contact more than once a year... it is a great way to call them and follow up. Also I cal the spouse to remind the the spouse bday coming soon. Husbands always feel great for my reminders 😃. Good post... be safe everyone

Apr 19, 2020 06:19 AM
Leanne Smith

Ourstanding process you have AndreaBFerreira CRS - SRS - CLHMS Thank you for sharing.

Apr 19, 2020 06:21 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

And people LOVE getting those thank you notes.  Good for you and the listing agent for making that Appraiser list vanish!  

Apr 28, 2020 04:43 PM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Thank you Jan Green - Appraisers are becoming very difficult and demanding.

Apr 29, 2020 05:35 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ

We have to be just as difficult, but I lke to call it firm.  When I teach realtors how to get value for green features, I use specific words to an AMC, "must be competent to perform the assignment" is a common phrase that appraisers teach in their classes.  Competent must be knowledgeable.  It's in the Appraisal Institute guidelines, so they should recognize that.  Typically if I get an appraiser on the phone I ask pointed questions. If I don't like what I hear, I reject them!

Apr 29, 2020 11:01 AM