Blogging and Friendship

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Real Estate Agent with eXp Realty of California CA DRE #01490977

Blogging and Friendship

 

We all got started with blogging for a variety of reasons. And we probably had different expectations of what blogging would do for us and our real estate businesses.

 

Some might also have had some thoughts about personal benefits – doing something we enjoy, increasing our knowledge, and improving our communication, for example.

 

blogging with a friendBut I wonder how many of us expected to develop the friendships we now have as a result of blogging, or started with that intent? I certainly never expected it, or even gave it any thought when I began blogging.

 

True friendship comes when the silence between 2 people is comfortable - David Tyson

 

I’m not referring to casual relationships with others – no doubt we all have many - but something we would consider a true friendship, however you might personally define that. Trust? Mutual liking? Respect for each other and for your differences? Someone you want to spend time with? The list of what makes a friendship goes on!

 

Some friendships have evolved into deep ones, or will, over the years, and extend beyond blogging into much more personal aspects of life. Others may be more casual – valued, certainly, but maybe not as close and personal as other friendships. But that depends on the friends!

 

A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.

– Unknown

 

meeting a friend in personIs meeting face to face essential for establishing or maintaining a friendship?

 

I don’t think so, although in person certainly takes the relationship to a new and different level when it happens. Even better if it can happen multiple times. No doubt there are many here in our community who have become friends and have not met, and maybe never will!

 

I remember way back when I first got started here in 2006 how many people seemed to already be friends with each other. The relationships, and the friendships in the AR community were pretty obvious…you could tell by the comments that they made on each others’ posts, and the interactions.

 

And it was such a cool experience to start feeling I was becoming friends with some people only through our blogging and engaging online.

 

I remember the first blogging event I attended in Long Beach way back in February 2007 (you can read about the rain in Long Beach here). It was such a blast to meet people I felt had become friends in some way in just the few months since I had started blogging. And then to meet even more friends at the 1st birthday party in July in Long Beach, CA June 10, 2007.

 

The real test of friendship is can you literally do nothing with the other person? Can you enjoy those moments of life that are utterly simple?
– Eugene Kennedy

 

Then there were the Bloggers Connect meetings that many Rainers from around the country attended (Bloggers Connect #2 July 2008 in San Francisco). And later, multiple ActiveRain RainCamps around the country many are familiar with, numerous RE BarCamps in different cities, and of course loads of meet-ups around the country over the years.

 ActiveRain Meetup - CRS/NAR Meetings November 2016

Orlando AR Meetup at NAR/CRS Meetings

 

Plus we hear plenty of stories of people just getting together with others they know and are friends with when traveling, or making trips specifically to visit their friends!

 

Our blogging friendships evolve over time, and deepen as we read each other’s posts and get to know each other better, comment back and forth, and interact and stay in touch on other social media sites. We text, email, send cards, call sometimes for no reason, share referrals, help and support each other and comfort when needed. And most thankfully, we sometimes have the great fortune of meeting each other in real life.

 

Blogging and friendship…it's priceless!

 

One measure of friendship consists not in the number of things friends can discuss, but in the number of things they need no longer mention.”  – Clifton Fadiman

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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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Doug Dawes - Thank you!! That's very well said.

Hi Scott Godzyk  - it really IS all about the people, isn't it?

Jeff

May 05, 2020 06:12 PM #57
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Hi Michael J. Perry  - I think we all enjoyed them. Would love to go to one again!

Hi Beth Atalay  - ditto - I so enjoyed meeting you and remember that day so well. Next time I am back in that part of Florida...

Jeff

May 05, 2020 10:19 PM #58
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Thank you for such kind words Janice Zaltman I am so flattered!!

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543  - what a neat thing to have done!! You know if I were back in the Philadelphia area I would be looking you up, and Hannah, and...

Jeff

May 05, 2020 10:22 PM #59
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I so agree Margaret Goss  It was such a blast to finally meet you in Chicago, and the others at our meetup. Wish it was possible to do more of that sort of thing!

Jeff

May 05, 2020 10:23 PM #60
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Hi Ricki Eichler McCallum 

Thanks for your thoughts - we are on the same wavelength! I am amazed at how many years it's been.

Hope all is well!

Jeff

May 06, 2020 09:22 AM #63
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Jeff, I saw this headline and made sure to circle back today to read it.  So true.  It's been a wonderful experience making friends in the Rain, people I may never physically meet but will always hold dear.  Thank you for the smiles from this post. Well said!

May 06, 2020 09:54 AM #64
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There have been quite a few pleasant surprises here on the Rain, Jeff Dowler, CRS ... things I just never expected to come with participation and membership when I initially signed-up.  Friendships definitely fall into that category, as I've had the pleasure of meeting quite a few other AR members ... and become good friends with some too.  Who knew?  

Gene

May 06, 2020 10:25 AM #65
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For a number of years I didn't have an account, but tagged along with my wife to events and have met many AR people.  Some we actually see fairly regularly, others we stop and break bread when we travel.  It's been great.

May 06, 2020 01:35 PM #66
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Wow, Jeff, that picture from twelve years ago speaks volumes. I'm back in the blogosphere after a lengthy hiatus and, seeing that picture, as well as reading your post, inspires me. Congratulations on your feature!

May 06, 2020 04:41 PM #67
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Hi Anna Banana Kruchten Arizona's Top Banana! 

Indeed - making friends on a blogging platform? Who would have thought?! But we all have loads of examples!

Jeff

May 06, 2020 10:32 PM #68
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Thank you, thank you Hannah Williams for your kind words. I'm so flattered.

I think I owe you cookies again!!

Jeff

May 06, 2020 10:36 PM #69
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Hi Jan Green 

Why thank you!

I suspect we all have those special friends we have met, as well as many we have yet to meet, or might not ever get to meet in person.

Jeff

May 06, 2020 10:38 PM #70
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You echo my sentiments and thoughts Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi  Such an amazing benefit of being part of AR!

Jeff

May 07, 2020 10:43 AM #71
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Hi Don Baker  - Glad to hear you've enjoyed it, both before you were on AR and since. Meeting people face to face is always terrific, isn't it?

Thanks for stopping by Lanette Branch  Glad you are back - we look forward to hearing more from you!

Jeff

May 07, 2020 12:22 PM #72
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Have a few friends that I met through various blogging platforms in the early (I say early I really mean 2012) that I still keep in touch with today.  

May 07, 2020 01:31 PM #73
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Hi Kevin Mackessy 

Good for you! It seems we have all made friends through our blogging, and not just here on AR.

Jeff

May 07, 2020 10:36 PM #74
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Around the blogging, glimpses of the person on the keyboard, the images used and why all create the unique flavor everyone radiates Jeff Dowler, CRS . 

May 08, 2020 04:20 AM #75
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Jeff, I just commented on another post ... for me, this community these days is far less about blogging, it is about the people, the connections and the relationships created ... lots of friends too! 

May 08, 2020 09:24 AM #76
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I’ve met so many of you through this blogging adventure! Thank you so much for all of you!

May 08, 2020 11:14 PM #77
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That's a great point Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573 

I suspect that may be true for many Kathleen Daniels 

And to you, too Laura Cerrano 

Jeff

May 11, 2020 09:13 AM #78
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