When Cliques Click

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Industry Observer CalBRE #01165532

 

When Cliques Cick  

 

The word clique can conjure up some varied feelings.  Maybe some are less than favorable. 

 

A visit to the dictionary or flipping through the pages of a decades-old junior high school yearbook may bring back memories that are not so fond for some. 

 

Fast forward to days of fraternity or sorority life which can involve some mixed emotions.  Some quite positive with good-natured bonding, fun times and others feelings of fellowship.  Or one can focus on the negative with thoughts of gangs, mobs and the misguided dealings of the in-crowd. 

 

Sometimes cliques click and sometimes numbers and things don't compute.   They are known to crash, choke and collapse.  I guess it's about perspective.  And a bit more.   

 

 

The image in this post is from canstockphoto.com.   

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Michael Jacobs

 

CalBRE # 01165532

P. O. Box 587

Pasadena, CA 91102

Call/Text:  818.516.4393

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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
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Michael,

Perspective is one of the most important keys in life.  Neither one of  us were into cliques of any kind, Ron lasted in a fraternity for a week.  He figured that if someone wanted to be friends with him, he did not need to pass the fraternity test.  Although, I checked out the sorrority scene, it did not appeal to me as it seemed limiting...and then there are some who enjoyed it...we all have a different nature.  A

May 17, 2020 06:59 AM #9
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
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I believe the fall out of some of these clicks it's a lot more devastating then just being yourself...

My parents moved when I was entering high school and I realized that I knew nobody and I could observe the clicks from a different perspective...

At the ripe old age of 14, I realized that it was a far better place to be a friend to all rather than trying to fit into somebody else's ring...

Now when I go to a class reunion; I can see those people who are still trying to be something they aren't and at our age it sometimes can be embarrassing...

I hope you're having an awesome weekend Michael Jacobs 

 

 

May 17, 2020 07:06 AM #10
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Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
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Michael, We were working a client recently who decided that she didn't want to move to an established condo because of all the cliques that must be in place. She decided on a new community where friendships and cliques were first starting out.

May 17, 2020 07:20 AM #11
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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
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Hello Michael, 

The word clique takes my thoughts to one place - not interested and do not want to fit.  I am a green apple apart from the group of red apples. 

If I wanted to fit into a clique - I could not.  It. Is. Just. Not. Me. 

 

 

May 17, 2020 07:44 AM #12
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Sharon Lee
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Never been part of a clique. My last class reunion I attended the same cliques were still there. Now your title above your picture has a totally different meaning., I had to look that one up. :-)

May 17, 2020 07:57 AM #13
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
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Hello Michael, I know of some clique that are good and some that wow, I am glad was never in.

 

May 17, 2020 08:10 AM #14
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

For several years I was a member of an interesting clique...the group of real estate professionals focusing on the sale of HUD and VA properties. We used to meet in the coffee shop of the CNN building in Washington, DC on Friday mornings before the bid openings at the HUD offices.

May 17, 2020 09:02 AM #15
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
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In most situations there are always more than one viewpoint, and if we were to listen more we might avoid some of the confrontations and distress around us. 

May 17, 2020 09:34 AM #16
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Kathy Streib
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Hi Michael- the word clique has such a negative connotation. High schools are full of them as teens seek and develop their identity. 

May 17, 2020 10:37 AM #17
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Michael Jacobs
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Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty - I am happy to hear good memories were recalled when you hear the word.  

Brian England - I am sure that is an issue held by many students entering high school(or even a new school)  

Michael J. Perry - my high school was similar in size as well as the number of cliques.  

Ron and Alexandra Seigel - "perspective" is at play on the playground or in the boardroom.  

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - I have never been to any of my class reunions.  

May 17, 2020 10:51 AM #18
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Michael Jacobs
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Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 - it's interesting to see the thought process people have when choosing a neighborhood.  

Kathleen Daniels - fortunately the world can and does exist with a mixture.  

Sharon Lee - thanks for alerting me to the mistake in the post title. It is now correct. The previous word was also a new one to me.  

Will Hamm - "wow" seems an appropriate word to use. 

May 17, 2020 10:58 AM #19
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Michael Jacobs
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Roy Kelley - yes, that does sound like that location might be interesting as well as the conversations of the group.  

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - listening soothes a lot of issues.  More of it is definitely needed.  

Kathy Streib - it is a word that has many connotations.  

May 17, 2020 11:04 AM #20
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James Dray
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Morning MIchael.

Never was into that scene, just not my cup of tea.  

May 18, 2020 12:13 AM #21
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Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

 I think Greasers, Cool Kids, Nerds, Popular Kids. I wasn't part of a clique in high school. Something I would have liked back then but, I am happy now that I wasn't. Funny how that works out.

May 18, 2020 08:24 AM #22
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Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
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I side with Kat Palmiotti and Kathleen Daniels on this one. The funny thing is, I have no memories of early cliques in schools. However, the first time I became keenly aware was when I became a real estate agent and joined a Franchise. Yikes!!! Cliques were very prevalent! Ironically, the same members of the cliques were always on the Top of this and Top of that chart and they all seemed to be winners for raffles and other prizes. I hate to generalize, but that's just my experience. I'm so liberated without that life style.  

May 18, 2020 08:47 AM #23
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Michael Jacobs
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James Dray - it's interesting(to me) to see the varied comments/responses.  

Sharon Tara - some memories are funny.  Others not so much.  

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP - some cliques are more subtle than others.  They definitely exist beyond "school".  

May 18, 2020 09:08 AM #24
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
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Hi Michael Jacobs - I never really thought about fitting into a clique.  I made friends and there was a group of us who hang out a lot... To this day, some of us are still friends. 

May 18, 2020 12:15 PM #25
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Michael Jacobs
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE® - there is something to be said about long-lasting friendships.  Finding the method of connection that works best for each of us is important.  

May 18, 2020 12:23 PM #26
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Janice Zaltman
United Realty Group - Boca Raton, FL
South Florida Residential Real Estate

Hi Michael:

We remember the cliques that emerged during our childhood. So many residents in the communities I work with complain about all the cliques. They exist everywhere. I just wave hello.

May 18, 2020 05:52 PM #27
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Michael Jacobs
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Janice Zaltman  - as we go beyond the schoolyard, we understand cliques aren't just for kids.  

May 19, 2020 05:54 AM #28
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