Monday Mourning for Memorial Day 2020

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Day is done. The sky wept hard over the cemetery in Flower Mound. Headstones laced with tears of remembrance of soldiers buried beneath soggy ground. Although my better half did not die in a foreign country because of shrapnel, broken ribs, bullets or the many times the AH-G Cobra from C Troop 7th Squadron came down in the jungles of Vietnam, I remember because he told me. He experienced the sights and smells of death that I could smell in the letters he wrote when I was just 18. 


Still in all, years later he had an honorable death and TAPS continues to plays inside my heart, especially on Memorial Day. He lived long enough with Agent Orange and Brain Cancer, never complaining, sharing, or talking about the pain he felt until his dying days. I kept his aerograms and stories he shared at his death bed. Memories are near and dear just like the scent of boots of which clings to the soles where we once hurt. United are our hearts that once were filled with holes. The remains of survivors hurt goes away but love never dies. My soldier, like many remains at attention under ground, forever in uniform. 


Did I appreciate him enough? I wonder if my correspondence helped kept him alive. He told me they did. He longed for my scented letters that smelled better than apple pie. We left fingerprints inside each others hearts and married quickly after he was honorably discharged. I think back to trivial things we said and done that meant so much and things we foolishly argued about - how could I  forget?


Was I sufficiently grateful for all he did in Korea and Vietnam for my freedom? Or was I just thankful when he could fix the stupid things that broke and made me cry? After his luck ran out I raised the kids with no entitlement by pulling up my own bootstraps. In payment for his services, he got a headstone and gun shot salute. There are still times I feel the tightness around my neck. Memories of the shared experiences of a soldiers war never goes away.


Today is not an ordinary day for many around the globe. But as a widow, for me, it's no different than the many years I lived alone without family. Friends have fallen, one by one since his funeral so many years ago, and days after the kids were grown. Seniors are often lonely. It doesn't take a horrible tragedy to make us cry. But let us be thankful. I cling to the stories of the jungles of Vietnam and the lessons I learned because one man made all the difference in my life. Memorial Day really is a special day of remembrance. And God, I can't imagine a life without freedom. ---Patricia Feager





I have fought when others feared to serve.

I have gone where others failed to go.

I've lost friends in war and strife,

Who valued Duty more than love of life.

I have shared the comradership of pain.

I have searched the lands for men that we have lost.

I have sons who served this land of liberty.

Who would fight to see that other stricken lands are free.

I have seen the weak forsake humanity.

I have heard the traitors praise our enemy.

I've seen the challenged men become even bolder,

I've seen the Duty, Honor, Sacrifice of the Soldier.

Now I understand the meaning of our lives,

The loss of comrades not so very long ago.

So to you who have answered duties siren call,

May God bless you my son, may God bless you all.


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Kathy Schowe
California Lifestyle Realty - La Quinta, CA
La Quinta, California 760-333-8886

What a somber and heartfelt tribute to your husband. I am so very sorry for your loss and grateful for you and your families service and sacrifice.  God bless you.  Kathy

May 25, 2020 06:11 PM #1
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Kathy Schowe - There are many stories that have never been told. I hesitated to share but thought it was about time. God bless you too.


May 25, 2020 06:42 PM #2
John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP Happy Memorial Day to you and to all! 

May 25, 2020 07:53 PM #3
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good evening Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP ,

What a poignant post. Thank you so much for sharing and God bless you and your family on the Memorial Day of 2020.

May 25, 2020 08:23 PM #4
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Hi Patricia,  Thanks so much for sharing the tribute to your husband with us.  I can not imagine going through everything you both did.  I am glad we have to day to honor and celebrate your husband and so many others like him who have fought for our freedom.  Excellent post!

May 25, 2020 08:55 PM #5
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 702-574-8102

Patricia, The heartstrings were tugged and pulled non-stop.  Such a poignant story of love, courage, bravery, commitment - all the best of America displayed in two lives beautifully lived, one who gave all for his country while your example ever shines among the living.  Thank you for sharing your tribute and your life.

May 25, 2020 09:36 PM #6
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

Good morning Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP thank you for sharing some of your heartfelt memories with everyone.... you're a very special gal.... strong, secure and openly loving.... I greatly admire you....but you already knew that!

May 26, 2020 03:21 AM #7
Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

Good morning, Patricia... I have no words... just tears as I read through your post and wonderful tribute to your husband. Your strength never ceases to amaze me. You, too, are a hero... not just your husband. May he rest in peace.

May 26, 2020 04:25 AM #8
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Patricia. So well written and filled with memories dear to you. Your husband is proud from heaven! 

May 26, 2020 04:47 AM #9
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Your post made me think that perhaps Memorial Day isn't just a day for remembering our military who died for our freedom. It's also about thinking about the remaining family members, who had something die inside.

Through your words, I send thoughts of gratitude to your soldier as well.

Hugs to you, Patricia.

May 26, 2020 06:08 AM #10
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

I almost dont know what to say....your blog was so powerful and well written....thank you for it!

May 26, 2020 06:48 AM #11
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I could never imagine being in the trenches during a war and it is something that I hope to never experience.

May 26, 2020 07:17 AM #12
Norma J. Elkins
Elite Realty Group - Morristown, TN
Realtor - Elkins Home Selling Team

Oh my gracious, absolutely beautiful.  Thank you so much for sharing this heartfelt sentiment.  

May 26, 2020 08:29 AM #13
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

So many have given so much to us that is really beyond all words, I feel.

May 26, 2020 09:56 PM #14
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I forgot about all the letters I used to write from overseas before the sensors black lined so many things. I recently found some and it wasn't a pretty sight because I could remember what was behind those blacked out sections. God bless you and your memories Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP 

May 26, 2020 11:01 PM #15
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Wednesday afternoon, Patricia.

Take care, be safe and have a great day.

May 27, 2020 09:45 AM #16
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