James W. Fitzpatrick Jr. My Hero...My Dad :Most Positive Experience

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lizette Realty - Richmond KY 205403

 Dad, I stopped by to see you today. Yes, I know...it's been a long time. Last September maybe. I know I don't need a reason to visit your grave but when I was here last, I wanted to show you the car I had bought. You are the car collector....not me. I just like having one at a time. Did you like it? It drives like a dream.

You always have that grin for me. Our funny secret grin.

You are never far away and your thoughts are my thoughts. Fathers' Day is not special anymore to me, it's just another day. I try to ignore it and rush through that day so I don't have to hurt. I miss that grin and laugh of yours.

You taught me how to become a good person. How to trust others, be truthful and how to be loyal. You prepared me to be the businesswoman I am today.

My heart just aches as I write this because you still hold it in your hand. After all that you taught me... you turned to me in the end to look out for you. I would have fought the world for you not to be in pain. 

In 1993 when this picture was taken, you were in Mesa, AZ. After being diagnosed with cancer you and Mom came out to visit with me. In our trip to the grocery I took this picture of you and now I see how much love there is in your eyes.

What were you thinking about dying? Were you frightened? You seemed so brave. 

You are my hero and always will be. I miss our life and how we were as a family. You were the glue that kept it all together. It's not the same ...but it is what it is. 

This was the Greyhound Station, Snappy Grill and Western Union on Third and Water Streets in Richmond, KY. Later added Jim's Pawn Shop.

Dad bought the Greyhound Station in 1956. I grew up here and Dad taught me EVERYthing I know about good business, people and management.

I worked here during all my childhood learning how to deal with customers and understand not all needed to make a deal but just needed someone to listen. People from all walks of life came through these doors over the years just to talk to "Big Jim". He always took time to listen to their problems or dreams. Sometimes he helped them out till they could get back on their feet.

You always saw him with a big cigar that he called his all day sucker. Whenever someone would ask him if something that were buying came with a guarantee, he would say "Yes! A sidewalk guarantee". Which meant after you got to the sidewalk, that was as long as it would be.

"A place to meet and enjoy good food" was a sign over the grill when he used to serve food too. My favorite was french fries and a Coke. Dad would serve it up for me when I got out of school each day.

In the early eighties I talked Dad into some TV commercials for cable. We had a blast putting them together and I would take extra pics of Dad doing silly things. He had a lot of fun and our outtakes were just as funny as the commercial.

We used one of his classic cars in one. It was a pink T-Bird and I was supposed to get out of it and sashay in to pawn it. Everytime I got out of the car my velcroed belt would pop off my dress and I had to start over. As I walked in Dr. Jenkins was at the counter pawning a chain saw to Dad for the scene. We had many takes till we got a good one without us laughing.

Like I said. It's just not the same but I'll always remember all the good times and jokes. There was plenty of that.

I love you Dad...I hope you are proud of how I turned out. I did it all for you and carry on for both of us.

James (Jim)W. Fitzpatrick Jr.

Born July 26, 1931 Died July 22, 1995

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Jim Gilbert
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Father's Day is a good day to reflect on what we have been given and how we have been blessed by good parents.

Jun 15, 2008 07:12 AM #2
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Lizette- A nice tribute to your Dad, and entry into the most Positive Experience Contest.  Sounds like you learned a lot, and the  most important things are....the love and the memories.  thank you for your contribution to the contest, but more than that Thank You for sharing this part of your life.

Jun 15, 2008 08:12 AM #3
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Lizette, what a terrific story you have told. I can just feel the love for your father and your sorrow that he is gone too. He helped you to grow into the fine person you are today and I am sure he was very proud of you all along. The photo in the truck does show that love in the eyes, I agree. Happy Father's Day.

Jun 15, 2008 09:51 AM #4
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We do carry many of our traits from our parents. The love you shared with your dad is apparent... and no matter how many years pass..... the memories flood.... Happy Father's Day Lizette....his memorie lives on :)

Jun 15, 2008 09:59 AM #5
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Connie - You are so sweet! THanks for listening. It was hard to write this today. I know you understand.

Jim - You are so right. I'm so glad to have been able to enjoy the time i had with him.

Kathy - Thanks! I spent most of my life there with him at our family business. As much as I wanted to grow and move away I now realize what a wonderful life it was that he kept together for us.

Gary - Thanks for your comment. That picture of him has been put away for years. I find it so hard to see what he felt in his eyes. For me alone. I miss him so much.

Sally - I've been emotional all today because of reliving how much he is missed today. Everyone that has a Dad still living should take a moment to get closer while they can. Hope you enjoyed today.

 

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Lizette, It seems we were two of some of the very fortunate ones to have had such wonderful fathers.  My dad is never far and I do believe they always look out for us.

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Lizette, What a wonderful tribute to your Dad.  He would be so proud of your words and humbled I'm sure.  Have a great day.

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Lizette: I bet your dad was peering over your shoulders as you wrote this post, grinning that nice grin.  I can feel in your words how much you miss him... this was a wonderful tribute to your dad on Father's Day.

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What a nice tribute to your dad.  I am SURE he is so proud of you!

Jun 15, 2008 04:53 PM #10
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Lizette, what a wonderful post. It made me want to drive down and spend more time with my Mom and Dad in SC. We do not know how much time we have left with the people we love, but it is awesome to have them in our lives and bittersweet to still be able to love them when they pass on. May God bless you and your family. Sweet dreams. Regards, Carolyn.

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No love like the love of a little girl for her Daddy!

Jun 15, 2008 08:40 PM #12
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Lizette this was a most beautiful tribute for your wonderful father!  The questions you had about what he was thinking & feeling in that picture were so touching. 

Jun 16, 2008 02:03 AM #13
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Hi Lizette,

A very nice tribute to your father. I bet you are an only daughter, I am too and know the love you feel for your dad. I am sure he would be so proud of you. I could feel your pain as I read this, it was a very moving post.

Jun 16, 2008 03:35 AM #14
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Carole - It's funny but I didn't feel like I ever disconnected from him. He's in my dreams sometimes to answer questions too.

Bob - He would have been shy about taking any credit. He was always a strong support but behind the scenes.

Kat - You are right ...I felt him there all day.

Cristal - I think he was proud of me. I really miss him.

Carolyn - Spend as much time as you can while you have them. You never know what can happen. I always thought Dad would be around.

Susie - You got that right!

Renee - Thank you! We always had long talks about issues but we didn't talk a lot about the illness or how he was feeling. He just carried all that inside and kept us from feeling his pain.

Trace - I never thought I'd be in that position of assisting in caring for him and seeing that everything got done so he wouldn't worry.

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Lizette,
It seems that you dad was a great hero :), nice to see you again, hope that you are doing good.
ray saenz

 

Jun 16, 2008 06:10 PM #16
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Lizette, What a wonderful tribute and a the photo says more than words. 

Jun 16, 2008 11:32 PM #17
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Ray - It's so good to hear from you! Hope you have been doing well!

Debbie - Thanks for stopping by my blog and the sweet comment.  

Jun 18, 2008 03:46 AM #18
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Lizette,

This was my first Father's day with out my dad... we lost him last July after a 14-15 year battle with Cancer... I still feel like calling him, running over to visit.  Our Dad's are always with us, even when they are gone.

Jun 19, 2008 03:01 AM #19
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Lizette~ what a great tribute to your dad, he sounds like he was quite a character.  I agree about the picture, you can really see the love in his eyes!

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<sigh> great post.  Your dad was a very hansome man and sounds like the character matched.   I am sure he's very proud of YOU and all you've acomplished.    Be well!!

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