R Your Ears Selective? If Not Poke Your Fingers In Them!

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Real Estate Agent with DFW FINE PROPERTIES 0506509

 

 

 

 

Listening is a skill. Do listen with understanding, nonjudgmentally, and noncritically. Now that we have entered ZOOM world, listening and learning becomes even more critical. As far as putting your fingers into your ears goes, of course, I'm being facetious! If you don't want to listen to what someone is saying, poking your fingers in your ears would be rude. Your head shot and what you're doing in business on screen is permanently recorded. 

 

Being socially selective means there has to be a level of comfort around the people you normally interact with on a regular basis and most of us have grown accustomed to making facial expressions. In a large group setting in a natural setting most people don't see everyone at one time. Times have changed. People may not see the entire you, meaning from head to toe, your hair, clothes, shoes, jewelry etc. But the FACE, EYES, WHATEVER is exposed from the upper body can turn people off or tune others out to what the speaker is saying. Women, when you lean in, take a look in the mirror and do a body check before you are on screen to make sure you're appropriately dressed for the camera. A camera picks up everything! Again, you are being permanently recorded.

 

In real life, acknowledging the talker in a one-on-one or small group meeting it is common practice to nod your head. It's like a signal to the speaker that you are in agreement. But in ZOOM world, nodding your head can be very distracting to others watching the screen. The chat box demonstrates business etiquette and your comments are recorded. 

 

In sum, focus on positive change. As listeners, pay attention. You don't have to believe but your face and upper body parts tells all and if you're on ZOOM, you're being recorded. Causing barriers between people in business on ZOOM can be detrimental to success, and how you are perceived in business and in life. Whether you agree or disagree, good listening has a positive effect on you without distorting the truth about what you really think and believe is true. 

 

That's my opinion and I'm sticking with it, 

Patricia Feager

 

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Rainmaker
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Some of us definitely need some work on our listening skills.

Take care, be safe and have a great day.

Sep 16, 2020 11:26 AM #5
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George Souto
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Patricia you would think listening would be easy, but it isn't and requires discipline.

Sep 16, 2020 11:32 AM #6
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Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Patricia listening is the hardest skill ever, we are so in the habit of talking and never listening as my friend George Souto  said it takes discipline, Endre

Sep 16, 2020 11:41 PM #7
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
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Hi Patricia... this goes back to that old expression "there's a reason God gave us two ears and one mouth." Careful listening is a skill we can acquire if we work at it.

Sep 17, 2020 04:30 AM #8
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Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
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I always appreciate your opinions and believe that your opinions are often spot on with my thinking as well.

Sep 17, 2020 07:04 AM #9
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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
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Ah, the marvels of modern technology and social media.  Last week, I participated in a conference call.  I made sure I showered, dressed up, did my hair and makeup.  Then I remembered it wasn't a Zoom call, only a conference call.  But, that wouldn't explain why I also put on perfume!

Sep 20, 2020 04:23 AM #10
Rainmaker
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Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
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Doug Dawes - Unfortunately, I haven't mastered the "Poker Look," either. I'm not a fan of Zoom or Go-to-Meetings either. Because I serve on various Committee Meetings and Chair, I have no choice. Now - to retrain my face. That's another story!

Have good day!

Sep 20, 2020 04:28 AM #11
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - thank you for taking the time to comment. Listening is a skill that many people need to continuously improve and few if any do. 

Sep 20, 2020 08:01 AM #12
Rainmaker
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Michael Jacobs - Listening is an ongoing skill. Unfortunately in school I don't recall ever being rewarded for listening, just punished for not listening. I'm not even aware of any rewards for listening, but there are many rewards for spelling bees, essay contests, science projects, etc. 

Sep 20, 2020 08:05 AM #13
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Beth Atalay - I also long for safe in-person gatherings, epecially when it comes to education. When it comes to ZOOM or GO-TO-MEETINGS, it makes me uncomfortablek looking at everyone's face while I'm trying to learn. 

Sep 20, 2020 08:07 AM #14
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Roy Kelley - I'm of the opinion, the highest praise one can give to another human being is paying attention, listening well enough to understand, and not interrupting. Then determine what needs to be done, and do it right.

Sep 20, 2020 08:09 AM #15
Rainmaker
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George Souto - you're absolutely right! It really takes a lot of discipline to not get distracted by our own internal dialogue by interrupting the speaker or stopping their train of thought. 

Sep 20, 2020 08:11 AM #16
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Endre Barath, Jr. - Listening really is the most important skill we can learn. What bugs me the most is not having a chance to finish my thought while someone who clearly doesn't listen to me, begins to express their feelings, believing it's okay to interrupt and allow their own emotions to override their objectivity while becoming defensive about something they misinterpreted. 

Sep 20, 2020 08:15 AM #17
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Nina Hollander - There is a couple in my neighborhood. Both husband and wife are deaf. I love to talk to them (in the same way I would talk to you) because they have trained their ears to listen better than anyone else I know. I think the worst mistake people who have the gift of hearing and speaking make is not being able to listen properly without filters. 

Sep 20, 2020 08:19 AM #18
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Awe... thank you Brian England - I really do have a lot more to learn! 

Sep 20, 2020 08:21 AM #19
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Myrl Jeffcoat - I've done the same thing! At least dressing up made me feel better about myself! But I have to tell you, I'm going to be more careful using my computer. Yesterday, I was watching a YouTube Video about hot topics for today. I saw the strangest thing. At first, I thought it was just my imagination, but I don't think so, I think someone was watching me. Here's why.

Their screen was divided in half and two people were speaking to each other. The background between them was a city landscape, tall building dark sky, lights on some floors. Now, you should know, I wasn't on the vido, I was justing watching and listening. But every now and then I saw either green or red lights come through some of those mini windows. So, I put a piece of cardboard over the area where I noticed the lights. Then, the green light jumped over to the other screen and got brighter. So, I covered that side too. I was going back and forth when I decided to cover my entire screen. Guess what? The video stopped and the new YouTube popped on in its place. I went back to that video 3 times and got the same results but the green light was following me or was searching for me - this I was sure. Surveillance without permission or do we give someone our rights when we install Microsoft??? By the way, I recently had to get a new computer and software too.

Sep 20, 2020 08:30 AM #20
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Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
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Patricia, in the 'old days' when I was young my father and I had spirited discussions.... once I moved away and we would write 'letter' to each other we both realized that we were on the same page.... because we were able to finish our thoughts without interruptions or perceived defensive attitudes:)Endre

Sep 20, 2020 04:08 PM #21
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Endre Barath, Jr. - I really enjoyed reading your comment. As they say, like minds think alike. Brilliant ones are on the same page and don't need to interrupt in person or on the phone. Now that's black and white proof, the truth, and nothing but the truth!

Sep 21, 2020 06:20 AM #22
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Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP With my hearing loss and wearing hearing aides is a challenge. The worse part is people don't see your handicap. I let people know( it's taken a while) i have a hearing. disability. I know it has cost me sales, but I keep moving forward, and read when possible and watching Zoom is a huge benefit for me in front of my Desk Top, certainly increasing the volume when needed. Some people are soft spoken. Blogging is great and doing YouTube Video marking helps getting my message out there.

 

Love your Blog heading.

Stay Safe and have a fun and successful week!

Sep 23, 2020 08:33 AM #23
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Fred Carver Personal Real Estate Corporation - I never thought about the greatest benefit to using Zoom is that it's very helpful to those with a hearing disability. As I sit and compose my thoughts, I am thinking to myself, how selfish people are to assume everyone can hear without problems. You have raised my awareness. I am still learning. To think, you spent your whole life trying to be like everyone else without speaking up. I'm sure it did impact your sales. 

I really enjoyed how at ease you are filming a YouTube Video. I hope it brings you many clients. I think you're awesome and I wish you the very best.  

Sep 23, 2020 08:45 AM #24
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