R Your Ears Selective? If Not Poke Your Fingers In Them!

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Listening is a skill. Do listen with understanding, nonjudgmentally, and noncritically. Now that we have entered ZOOM world, listening and learning becomes even more critical. As far as putting your fingers into your ears goes, of course, I'm being facetious! If you don't want to listen to what someone is saying, poking your fingers in your ears would be rude. Your head shot and what you're doing in business on screen is permanently recorded. 


Being socially selective means there has to be a level of comfort around the people you normally interact with on a regular basis and most of us have grown accustomed to making facial expressions. In a large group setting in a natural setting most people don't see everyone at one time. Times have changed. People may not see the entire you, meaning from head to toe, your hair, clothes, shoes, jewelry etc. But the FACE, EYES, WHATEVER is exposed from the upper body can turn people off or tune others out to what the speaker is saying. Women, when you lean in, take a look in the mirror and do a body check before you are on screen to make sure you're appropriately dressed for the camera. A camera picks up everything! Again, you are being permanently recorded.


In real life, acknowledging the talker in a one-on-one or small group meeting it is common practice to nod your head. It's like a signal to the speaker that you are in agreement. But in ZOOM world, nodding your head can be very distracting to others watching the screen. The chat box demonstrates business etiquette and your comments are recorded. 


In sum, focus on positive change. As listeners, pay attention. You don't have to believe but your face and upper body parts tells all and if you're on ZOOM, you're being recorded. Causing barriers between people in business on ZOOM can be detrimental to success, and how you are perceived in business and in life. Whether you agree or disagree, good listening has a positive effect on you without distorting the truth about what you really think and believe is true. 


That's my opinion and I'm sticking with it, 

Patricia Feager


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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Good Afternoon Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP 

I attend many Zoom, GoToMeeting, BlueJeans, and other video meetings. What you say is true. I don't have a great poker face...lol Everything is a learning process.

Sep 16, 2020 09:38 AM #1
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

That is a very interesting thought you have posted. 

I hope you are having a wonderful Wednesday, Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP 

Sep 16, 2020 09:56 AM #2
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Patricia - listening is a skill and the education is ongoing.  

Sep 16, 2020 10:01 AM #3
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP, I am not a fan of zoom for anything so I will only attend if I can be there with my mind, heart, ears, and eyes, otherwise, I will wait for the time when we can hold in-person gatherings.  

Sep 16, 2020 10:06 AM #4
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Some of us definitely need some work on our listening skills.

Take care, be safe and have a great day.

Sep 16, 2020 11:26 AM #5
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia you would think listening would be easy, but it isn't and requires discipline.

Sep 16, 2020 11:32 AM #6
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Patricia listening is the hardest skill ever, we are so in the habit of talking and never listening as my friend George Souto  said it takes discipline, Endre

Sep 16, 2020 11:41 PM #7
Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

Hi Patricia... this goes back to that old expression "there's a reason God gave us two ears and one mouth." Careful listening is a skill we can acquire if we work at it.

Sep 17, 2020 04:30 AM #8
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I always appreciate your opinions and believe that your opinions are often spot on with my thinking as well.

Sep 17, 2020 07:04 AM #9
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