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Most Positive Experience--"Changed My Life"

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Real Estate Agent with Sound Realty

       This post is not about Real Estate---and yet it is.

       This post is not about love and family and friendship---and yet it is.

       This post is not cute and pretty and filled with wonderful photos.

       This post is about how a very ugly part of my life changed me to become the man I am today.

       The "Most Positive Experience" in my life culminated in 1984 in the back of a tour bus where I overdosed from heroin/cocaine and vodka. I was pronounced DOA and then brought back to life on the way to a hospital.   When I "came to" a few days later there were two shapes hovering over me and one of those shapes said : "you use again you die, for good!"  And I believed him.....

      For many years I lived " The Rock and Roll Life ".  I looked good, got along with everyone I met, was very successful in business, had a home on the water, boat out in front, Mercedes in the garage, etc., etc....and lost it all due to my addiction to drugs and alcohol.  12 Step Programs and a few caring men helped me start my life over completely.

      My Most Positive Experience occurred 22 months in recovery.  For several months I took a meeting into several different drug rehab centers in Long Beach, Ca. where a couple of us would talk about our life experiences to people who were living zombies, one or two breaths away from death. It was a way of "giving back what had been freely given to me". Many months later, I was making coffee at a meeting when this beautiful young woman came up to me and said "hi; you don't remember me, do you?" I said "no, I think I would remember you".( She looked like a young Sophia Loren).   She then said, "I heard you speak last year at ________, and you changed my life!" " Today I have one year clean...thank you for being there".

      I was overwhelmed with joy and utterly speechless.

      I will soon have 24 years clean and sober.  All this means is that I live, work, and treat people I meet with the respect and care necessary to be the best man I can be on a daily basis. This "one positive moment" put me into a journey of service, faith, care and responsibility, that works for me each living day I spend on this beautiful planet. I have been thru stuff in my life that would make a nun "blush".

    But some of that might be another post.....And so it goes.....     

Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

    Thanks Jim,  Some of us just take a little longer in order to "be a human being". No more, no less.

Jun 17, 2008 06:40 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Kim It's amazing the impact we can have on another person and not even be aware of it...and them on us.  Truly an inspirational story that with hard work and some  good friends you can absolutely change your life around.

Jun 17, 2008 10:37 AM
Jan Evett
The Premier Property Group LLC - Rosemary Beach, FL
Broker Associate, 20 years+ in real estate

Kim:  Congratulations on celebrating 24 years of your new life!  Thanks for posting a tribute in the ThemThem group to those who helped you - the "12 Step Programs and a few caring men helped me start my life over completely."  I know you have made a difference in the lives of many people like that lovely young woman!

Jun 17, 2008 12:14 PM
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI
(RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE

I commend you for all you have done and what you do for others to 'stay alive'. This surely is the MOST Positive Experience imaginable...to turn ones life around 180 degrees and keep going forward. Thanks for sharing Kim. I applaud you!

Jun 17, 2008 01:45 PM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

    Carole,   we make a difference (hopefully a good one) with people we meet every day.  I believe that is our main goal in life.  Thank you for commenting, means a lot to me..

Jun 17, 2008 02:27 PM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

     Thank you Jan for the great words back.....I still speak to groups about how one can turn their life around, even when we might not have a clue as to the problem..It gives me great satisfaction just helping one out of a thousand.  Have a great night.

Jun 17, 2008 02:31 PM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

     Sally,  This was for you as I felt I had better write something for your contest and you said you would be watching and waiting.  Hope this was OK....I thought it might be too personal but this is what came up when I sat down to type.  Thanks for pushing me....

 

Jun 17, 2008 02:36 PM
ARDELL DellaLoggia
Better Properties Seattle - Kirkland, WA

Kim,

In the short time we have known each other, I have seen you help people turn there lives around over and over again.  For everyone one who seeks you out for personal sponsorship, I am sure there are many others who hear you speak at meetings who quietly turn their lives around without your ever knowing about it.

You are an amazing man and I'm very lucky to have you in my life.

 

Jun 17, 2008 06:24 PM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

      Ardell,  As the old saying goes....."behind every great man, there is a great woman."  We do make each other better human beings, just by being ourselves......

Jun 18, 2008 12:55 AM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

     Deborah,   Thank you for these great words (thin places).  It is so true.   I remember hearing a woman speaking in a meeting back in '85 where she said " you have to walk thru the pain to feel the joy later on".  Has been one of my mantras ever since....

    Loved the words on your profile that you are living your dream......Take care..

Jun 25, 2008 05:33 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life.  I'm sure your story has helped more people than you will ever know.  Many great people have come from tragic beginnings, you are a great person!

Jul 08, 2008 03:07 AM
Robert L. Brown
www.mrbrownsellsgr.com - Grand Rapids, MI
Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Mic

Kim. Thank you for sharing your story. May you be an inspiration in everything you do.

Jul 08, 2008 03:45 AM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

      Thank you Sharon for the kind words.  Today I just see myself as a human being doing human stuff and available to be of service to others.   Makes for a great life....take care.

Jul 08, 2008 04:24 AM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

       Robert,  Liked what you wrote on your profile,  "the best time is now".  We use our past, the good and the bad, to be of service to all we meet in life and business...Helps us stay centered when the world feels out of control.   Thank you for commenting.

Jul 08, 2008 04:28 AM
Neal Bloom
Brokered by eXp Realty LLC - Weston, FL
Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate

Kim,

Very cool story...I'm sure the struggles have to be tough even after 24 yrs later.

Jul 28, 2008 09:56 AM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

Thanks Neal,    All the life experiences we walk through just make us better, stronger human beings; giving us the chance to pass on parts of our life to perhaps someone before they have to go through it.

Jul 28, 2008 05:08 PM
Neal Bloom
Brokered by eXp Realty LLC - Weston, FL
Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate

Kim,

I like your story about Rock and Roll.....I'm  pretty big fan of classic rock and some blues.

Not into Iron Maiden but played golf with the drummer...he lives here and we met through a few years of me working golf tournaments for celebs and pro Athletes...nice guy Nikko.

Jul 29, 2008 12:51 AM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

   Neal, Yeah I have a few stories that could be used for a movie of the week.  Most of the people in the Music Business are great people...it is the stuff we put in our bodies that change us for the worst.
Let me know if you need a few new tunes or artists to listen to.  Also taught History of Rock and Roll for several years and have not missed too much in 50+ years of music.

Jul 29, 2008 07:17 AM
John Slocum
Premiere Property Group, LLC - Vancouver Washington - Vancouver, WA
Broker, SFR - Vancouver WA Real Estate

Kim, thanks for sharing the life changing event in your life, and how it became a benefit to you and others around you.  I know that too many go down the path you were on and don't get turned around, let alone turn around and become a beacon of hope for others.  --John

Jul 29, 2008 07:58 AM
Kim Harris
Sound Realty - Kirkland, WA
Designated Broker/Owner/Sound Realty

    John,  Thank you for the well thought out comment.  If we get a second or third chance at life, we better take advantage of it. Life is way too short to do otherwise...And yes I have known far too many people that were not able to turn it around.

Jul 29, 2008 08:17 AM